Would you easily go to thanksgiving weekend wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
6685 posts
Bee Keeper

Unless you are talking an immediate family only wedding, I think it’s a weekend  that many people will feel imposed upon by and  decline.

Post # 6
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Allyg:  I might go if we were close, but I wouldn’t be super thrilled about it.  I have no issue using my long weekends/vacation days to go to weddings, but Thanksgiving is a family holiday.  I’d keep looking unless you’re okay with a lot of declines.

Post # 7
1745 posts
Bumble bee

Depends on your circle. Personally I spend as little time as I can with family, so I probably wouldn’t have a problem personally. I think most people do tend to enjoy long weekends or go on trips around that time though.

Post # 8
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To be honest your post has me a tad confused… but that is mostly because I am a Canadian, and I don’t know where you are (cause you don’t have a location in your PROFILE Info at the top of your post).  So I don’t know if you are asking this particular Question as a Canadian or as someone who resides in the USA.

October 11, 2014 is a Saturday, on the Canada’s Thanksgiving Weekend (2nd Monday in October)

In Canada, Thanksgiving isn’t quite the same big of a deal as it is in the USA.

Here Thanksgiving although “officially falling on the Monday”, most Families tend to have their Thanksgving Meal at whatever point in the Weekend is convenient… be that anywhere between the Friday Night to sometime on the Monday.

It is a time when Canadians go for drives in the countryside to see the leaves, maybe get in a hike, or a last camping trip… close their Cottages, Clean Up their Yards, Decorate for Hallowe’en (and hang Christmas Lights), and do other chores outside around the house, and outdoor activities.

There is “some Football” (CFL) – “some Hockey Games” – but not much in the way of Homecoming Events … and definitely NO BLACK Friday.

Consequently, it isn’t like in the US where they say more families get together / gather than even Christmas (Christmas is bigger here, cause Thanksgiving is just one day off, where for Christmas we get a lot more Stat Holiday time than our US neighbours)

Thanksgiving here is the official end of the better weather season… and people tend to do things that are low key and enjoy the fact there is an “extra day” to enjoy doing whatever is on their MUST DO BEFORE IT SNOWS LIST

I have gone to Thanksgiving Weddings in Canada before… they are great.  The added bonus of the long weekend to travel is nice.  And it is usually FANTASTIC Fall Weather… and if you are in the East… Ontario thru to the Maritimes the leaves in colour are usually fantastic !!

So ya, if you are planning a Wedding for Canada’s Thanksgiving Weekend, I say… GO AHEAD it will fabulous.

Now if you are an American, and looking at THAT THANKSGIVING which happens in Late November then I think you are facing a whole different ball of wax in regards to cultural impact (and Weather if you are in a more Northern State)

I would think that you’d get a lot fewer attendees having your Wedding fall on that weekend as Americans seem to make a TON OF PLANS for their Thanksgivings, where us Canadians are a lot more “free flowing / easy going” for that Holiday.

Hope this helps,


Post # 9
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano's Humble

Thanksgiving isn’t a big deal to me. I’ve never had a job where I got that weekend off, etc. Heck, ANY holiday I’ve gotten off(healthcare field or retail).

So to me, it wouldn’t be imposing on anything. In fact, FH and I would so do this, if we wanted to push our wedding back even farther than we already have(we were a NYE couple).

You have family who will already be there, who may not be able to afford the trip. I look at it like this. In a way, I’m saving them time and money without them having to have a second trip. Those that decline, I understand, but to some, family is more important to friends.

Thanksgiving as a child, was gathering at my great aunt/uncles house, seeing cousins I only got to see 1-2 times a year, and football. Followed by whipping out the dominos as soon as the game was over.

I had a cousin get married the day before Easter, just so family could be there who wouldn’t be able to make a special trip for the wedding. We didn’t care. It worked fine for everyone. I even got to attend, and that was the first time I’d been home in 6 years.

Post # 10
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Unless it was my sister’s wedding, or I was in the bridal party, I doubt I’d attend a Thanksgiving weekend wedding.

Post # 11
8518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

We dont really do anything for holidays, so I would totally go. Especially if you were serving Thanksgiving food. 😛

But yeah, I can see why a lot of people would decline. If you do go for it, I’d make sure to send out the invitations super early, so people can have a chance to talk about it, make plans, ect. 

Post # 12
1843 posts
Buzzing bee

My best friend actually married on Thanksgiving. She thought it was a great idea as “all the family would be together” . What she didn’t realize is that most “family” were not just HER family anymore. They were married with kids and therefore, had their own families. Some familie. Take turns and spend different holidays,different years with each side of the newly formed family. 

A lot of her relatives declined and didn’t go to the wedding. I was the MOH and I did her make up, went to ceremony, stayed for a little at reception and excused myself from rest of party because as much as I love her, mom had to go take care of my brother who had emergency surgery and there was no way I was going to leave my elderly dad all alone on Thanksgiving to attend a wedding.

Post # 13
2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Allyg:  Thanksgiving is a Thursday. We don’t do anything that weekend and most of the family has gone home by then. I would go. My only hesitation would be if we had to fly there because of holiday pricing. If it’s droving distance, though, I’m in.

Post # 14
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Sporty-Bee:  i agree.  it’s not just your family that you have to consider.

i think another factor that you need to consider is the travel for your guests.  hotel rooms and gas prices are always excalated on holiday long weekends.

Post # 15
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Baimee:  +1

I’m going to a wedding this year on Black Friday. I dont mind. 

Post # 16
3248 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My friend was invited to a wedding over thanksgiving weekend and had to decline because of family obligations. Although, it was a destination wedding in costa rica!

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