Post # 1
I found out during ring talk that my aunt’s engagement ring is actually a CZ, which nobody would have ever known, but apparently it is. Her rationale was that nobody could tell, and moissanite is man-made too and people have no problem with that. Her CZ has lasted years and looks amazing in my opinion. I just know my fiance can afford a diamond, and I’m getting it from an ethichal origin company. I don’t think I’d ever really want a CZ, just because I know that they can end up messed up over time, and I’m the kind of person to want a forever ring. Also, I don’t like being dishonest with people and I know they’d ask me all kinds of questions as to why and I am generally the kind of person that doesn’t like being asked a million questions lol! So, my question for you bees is, without worrying about being judged, would you honestly not have minded if your main stone was a CZ? Please avoid snarkiness on this board. The point of my asking this is to see how many people would not want a CZ, and how many would. So, be as shallow as you want lol!
Post # 3
@lenabee: I would definitely go CZ. I would only be upset that it’s not a forever stone. All my stand-ins are CZ, and I love them!
Post # 4
@ceebree: The temporary ring I’ve been wearing while saving up is a CZ and FAB in my opinion. Nobody’s asked if it’s a diamond they just say it’s beautiful. Although, yeah, it isn’t a forever stone and that’s why I couldn’t really agree to having one as my main ring!
Post # 5
Perhaps temporarly. When my husband bought my upgrade setting it still had the CZ in it and it was quite pretty. I wore it with the CZ for the weekend until I could get my stone put in it the following week. For the long run though CZ isn’t for me.
Post # 6
My e-ring for my last marriage was a gorgeous Tacori setting with tons of pave diamonds and a 1 carat emerald cut CZ in the center – to me I had no problem not spending a ton on the stone, it wasn’t where my financial priorities were at the time and I paid for most of the ring so the money went into the setting. This time around I didn’t want a diamond but a colored stone because I fell in love first with my DH’s gorgeous blue eyes and that was all I could see in my head when thinking of a ring so again the money is going into the custom setting 🙂 I never passed off my previous e-ring as diamond center but it was also completely believable so I never got asked either.
Post # 7
I have a non-diamond stone temporarily. I accidentally fell in love with a $5,000 setting, and it was a choice of either put a really crummy diamond in it now, or wait until we can afford a really nice one (Or maybe an Amora Gem…) once the wedding is over. So we just left the display stone from the jewelry store in there for now, because IDGAF. Didn’t make a whole lot of sense to put a $2,000 1ct diamond in a $5,000 setting. Seems like it would kind of ruin the effect.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t want my forever stone to be a CZ Because then it wouldn’t be forever. Does that make sense? Lol I currently am obsessed with diamond bands and have no idea which one I’d like to invest in so I bought a CZ emerald cut one that I’m currently wearing (It’s very pretty) to see if I like the style. I’m on the hunt for a round one now.
Post # 9
CZ’s not for me because it’s not a forever stone and I am super rough on my rings. I’m also not a huge fan of the blue/icy tint they tend to have. They seem to be more similar to diamond in their behavior which wasn’t the look I was going for. Love the warmth and double refraction of moissanite!
Post # 10
@lenabee: I only wanted a diamond. I never heard of a stand in ring until I joined WB after I was engaged! I wouldn’t want moissanite either.
Post # 11
That would be the completely wrong symbolism for me.
I didn’t need a diamond though… that was a luxury. A gold wedding band would have been enough if that’s what fit the budget.
Post # 12
i didn’t really want CZ just because it tends to get damaged after a couple years. i do LOVE my moissanite ring though! i don’t mind that it isn’t a diamond at all, and it was within our budget. i’ve had my ring for almost 2 years, and have zero regrets. no one has asked if it’s “real”. they’ve asked what size of stone it is, and said how much they loved it. i’ve told a lot of my friends that it’s moissanite, and they said they had no idea before i told them. who knows if they were just saying that, but i have worn my mom’s diamond ring next to it and the difference wasn’t noticeable.
Post # 13
@lenabee: No one has ever asked me questions about my ring, so I can’t imagine having a CZ would change that. However, FI and I are young and had he not been given his parents’ wedding sets, we’d be looking at either a CZ or gemstone e-ring. I wouldn’t have minded either way. The only way I wouldn’t have been ok with it is if I was told or led to believe that I had a stone I did not have. If I find out later that what I thought was a diamond was actually CZ, I’d be mad that I was lied to. If I knew from the start, though, it wouldn’t have mattered.
Post # 14
I wouldnt mind an asha CZ, though probably not long term.
Post # 16
I would not as its not a “forever” stone. And mostly because I would cringe having to explain it to people, would feel uncomfortable not explaining and pretending its a diamond, and its just not expensive enough (for me). I want to see some financial sacrifice from FH, some planning, saving, schemeing etc. Thats just an important symbolic part of the tradition for me.
For a stand in- sure. If we couldnt afford a diamond I would get another natural gem, probably morganite.