Post # 1
Okay so I’m in a wedding in Oct, its on a friday, the bride has asked me if my fiance is coming to the rehersal, i’ve told her he’ll be at the dinner but won’t get out of work on time for the actual rehersal (not thinking its a big deal because well he’s not in the wedding, I AM) so she asked me again yesterday and i say well he’s leavign work early to get to the dinner on time (he works like an hour and 15 min away) if he left earlier he’d have to take a 1/2 day, *he’s already taking a 1/2 day for her wedding day as it is* Mind you the rehersal is going to be 15 min in an out of the way town, the dinner is in our home town… she says “i feel bad making FI’s parents pay for a dinner as a thank you for coming to the rehersal” I said Okay then he doesn’t have to go if its a problem i can’t help that my fiance works so far away” she gets all “relax! omg he can come i didn’t think it was such a big deal if he left early (which is where i told her he already was)
Am I crazy to think that this is a lil much, i don’t expect my bm’s fiance’s/bf’s to come to the rehersal on a random thursday but they are more then welcome to it AND the dinner…
Am i wrong to be annoyed? now my fiance feels unwelcome and to be honest I’m leaving it up to him on if he goes because well I wouldn’t want to go if it was reversed…
Post # 3
SO of bridal party are supposed to be a given that they are invited. Although if her inlaws are anything like mine they might not be aware of that fact.
Post # 4
I don’t understand why she thinks he needs to go to rehearsal if he’s not in the wedding. And yes, the dinner is a thank you for YOU being in the wedding/going to rehearsal and your FI should be invited to dinner as a courtesy to YOU. Whatevs I’d chalk it up to bride brain and let your FI decide what he wants to do. I’d prob skip at this point if I was in his shoes. Why make the effort after she’s been ungrateful?
Post # 6
Yes! This is why i was so confused! and over all i think really rude, she then on top of all of this implied that I was being a bad BM… I’ve repetedly asked her if she need help with things to call me and i will come over to help with favors, invites, whatever. and she never calls. she says ‘I havne’t asked you of anything” (back story, i received some really bad news in june/july which caused me to move my own wedding up 11 months- so yes i’ve been distracted and dealing with this news and planning my own wedding in 6 months- but clearly she’s forgotten the stuff i did for her shower and weekend bachelorette in boston) and maybe she should call me if she needs help because i’m only going to offer so many times, and then i find out that she had the other girls over durning the day (they all had it off – i didn’t)
I’ve been friends with this girl since i was 11 and known her since i was 5. I’m so over the way she treats people….