Post # 1
I was talking to a friend earlier, and we were both wondering at how some people could be so comfortable with the idea of cheating with someone in a committed relationship. And how common these people are.
Personally, I don’t understand it at all. I have empathy towards all human beings, including horrible ones and complete strangers, and I couldn’t be a part of something knowing I might be hurting another person.
So hive… thoughts?
Post # 3
@ladyamalthea: i voted no, but out loud i said hell no. HELL no.
treat others the way you want to be treated, eh? – i wouldn’t want another woman to do this to me, and therefore i would not do this to another woman. period.
Post # 4
No. I completely believe that if he would cheat with me then he would cheat on me. I have no desire to be involved with a man that would cheat on his gf/fi/dw anyway. It says so much about his character.
Post # 5
@ladyamalthea: I was the other woman – but it was back in my pre-21 days when these committed relationships were far less serious. A married man, man living with a partner, man with a long term GF who lives elsewhere – absolutely not.
Post # 6
Heheheh I’m that friend! I feel so famous!
I never ever ever would. Nor do I condone others who do. But according to the last topic I posted, a lot of bee’s have no problem with it. So let’s see if any of them are honest on polls.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Knowingly, absolutely not. I don’t want to share and it does not bode well for a relationship for it to start in secrets or lies. If the man wanted to pursue me I would rebuff all advances until I was 100% sure he was no longer with the other person.
Post # 8
Not ever. Ever ever ever. Just no way. I’ve been on the receiveing end of that and it’s just miserable. No way I would help someone subject another human to that sort of misery.
Post # 9
I don’t like to share. Besides feeling bad for the other person and like I was a bad person, I would be super jealous.
The only thing I could understand is if, for example, the guy is in the process of a divorce or something like that. But I don’t think that situation really applies to what we’re talking about here.
Post # 10
No, I just never liked that kind of drama in my life.
Post # 11
I was the other woman once, but i had no idea about it. When I found out, i was so broken that I ended up going to see a therapist about it as I couldnt stop feeling dirty and i hated myself. I am one of those women who are 100% against affairs – to the point where I am still recovering from my mum’s affair with her current husband (she cheated on my dad with him) four years ago.
I can’t imagine how anyone can do it knowingly – it just hurt me so much to know that i was the “other woman” – probably more than the breakup itself.
Post # 12
Nope. I believe in karma, and I don’t need that crap. Plus, if someone cheats on their 1st partner, they are very likely to cheat on the second.
Post # 13
I was once “the other woman” (but only for one date) unkowingly. As soon as I found out, I totally dropped him. His girlfriend found my number and called me. I told her that she didn’t need to worry about me anymore, but that she deserved better.
I’m divorced because my ex cheated on me. Especially knowing how it feels, I wouldn’t do that to my worst enemy.
Post # 14
@ladyamalthea: I’ll own up to it! I was once and I am sooo not proud of it. I was in an extremely toxic on and off again relationship for three years, and (I thought) I was desperately in love. He was older and during one of our “off” periods, he secured himself a girlfriend…but then came back to me with the “I miss you, this time will be different” routine. I fell for it and REALLY struggled, because I never wanted to do that to another woman. It did get to the point that I told him he had to choose because I felt so awful for his girlfriend, and he broke up with her (and then later cheated on me, so I got what I deserved). I was young and stupid and I was very sorry for what I did.
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I wouldn’t for my own moral reasons, and I wouldn’t be interested in a guy who would consider doing it either. 360 degrees of no. Just no!
Post # 16
I voted no. Not even for moral reasons (of course I find it offensive to the married woman and I would not like it to happen to me), but even for selfish reasons : I don’t want to share, so knowingly getting into a relationship with a man means I want to commit emotionally, not just sexually. Him being already into a relationship would not do. It’s a huge turn off.