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Would you ever wear a passed down wedding gown?

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    Whether it be your mom's, grandmother's, aunt's, etc? I'm thinking about wearing my grandmother's dress and was wondering if anyone else went this route or would consider it? 

    Not only would it save me money but it would be really sentimental.  My grandparents met when my grandmother was 15 and they were married over 52 years when she passed away. I would love to have a marriage that lasts that long and I think wearing her dress would be a great way to honor their marriage and hopefully bring some good luck onto mine.  The dress is a timeless tea length dress, the only thing is I'd have to lose a couple pounds since my grandmother was a skinny-mini at the time of her marriage. 

    We'll see if I go through with it since every girl dreams of finding her own perfect dress but I think it'd be sweet.  So, again, would any of you wear a dress that's been passed down?

     
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    zippylef    October 30, 2010   Norfolk, UK

    Sure, I would. Theres either a poster or a bee who is wearing her mothers dress that she had "re-imagined". I cant remember who it is off the top of my head.

     
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    meliss    May 31, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    If it was my style and looked good on me, definitely! Like you said the sentimental value alone would make it worthwhile, but also most vintage wedding gowns I've seen look really beautiful and special.

     
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    soon2bhis    December 26, 1999  

    Definitely, again, if I liked it.  I believe my mom offered me her dress when I first got engaged, but it's just not my style! Smile

    I think if you do go that route, you should still go dress shopping, since it's something you only get to do once!

     
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    NDBee    March 10, 2012  

    For sure if I liked it! I love the sentiment behind it and it's such a special way to remember them and honor their commitment. As another bee said, a 're-imagined' dress is great if the fit is off or the fabric is too delicate. 

     
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    PurpleUnicorn    April 19, 2011  

    i probably wouldn't because i obssess over how clothes look on me and finding the perfect dress was one of the most important things. i was so picky about it, that i doubt i would get lucky with a passed down dress.

    however if looks good, fits you and you love it, i see nothing wrong with it and i think its kind of cool

     
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    eloping    May 23, 2010  

    absolutely i would, i mean i wouldnt say no if someone offered me Grace Kellys dress to wear :).        if you find the dress doesnt suit your style or fashion you could always alter it

     
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    sfchick    May 7, 2011   Los Angeles

    I think given the current economy, it's a great idea. Sadly, I don't fit into my mom's. :(

     
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    JamaicaBride    May 14, 2011   Charlotte, NC

    It depends on how attached the "gifter" was to the dress. I would want to make modifications to it to make it my own and if the person was attached to the dress, they may not like that. If I could make changes to it...sure I would.

     
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    PortlandBride    April 24, 2010   Portland

    Mrs. Barrettes wore her mother's, with some alterations:

     

    http://www.weddingbee.com/2010/09/03/mothers-wedding-dress/

     
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    bakerella    September 11, 2010   Toronto, ON

    Absolutely! I tried on my mom's but she's about 6" shorter than me so the proportions were all off and it was only mid-calf length so it looked ridiculous. If it had worked, I would have gone for it :)

     
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    Loribeth    December 1, 2010   Michigan (Married in Savannah, GA)

    I would have considered it.

    I think that dresses should be passed down every other generation.  My mom's dress still looked too dated, but I bet her grandchildren will think it looks great.

     

     
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    missmouse29    July 2011   NWOntario, Canada

    I would strongly consider it if it suited my style & size, or was alterable to fit those things.

    However, it has not been offered, and I doubt it ever will be as my grandmother is delusional (dementia), and my mother hates my existence, so she doesn't generally do anything to benefit or help me if she can help it :)

     
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    Dragonsus    December 19, 2009   Lexington KY

    I thought about wearing my mom's wedding dress, but it would have require massive alterations (early 80s lace in a gorgeous cream, but I really didn't want to wear a turtleneck,long sleeved dress).  My grandmother's ivory satin 1949 dress was a possibility, but again, alterations would have been needed since I'm about 4 inches taller than my grandmother was!  However before I got to really think about it, I found THE DRESS, fell in love and that was that. 

     
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    cutexkitty    October 1, 2011   Bay Area / Northern CA

    Nope! I don't like wear used clothing.

     
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    hgail    September 10, 2011  

    Most definitely

     
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    buttontoes    September 1, 2012   Northern MI

    I would wear a passed down dress, but it really isn't even an option for me, so I'm not sure how I'd feel if it actually was an option.  My grandmother wore a white suit for her wedding (she was 40 when she married to my grandfather).  My mother burnt her wedding dress when she and my dad divorced.

     
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    Yes. I'd probably get it altered a little, but I would've loved to wear my mothers dress.

     
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    Oribel013690    July 30, 2011   Tennessee

    Not my mom's because it was a pink skirt-suit haha!

    But if I was in your situation, of course I would!  That would be so special.

     
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    SapphireSun    July 9, 2010   Vancouver, BC

    I would consider it. 

    My mom had the classic 80's dress, and was a size 2 when she got married (I'm a 12).

    My grandma is 4'8"... so that probably wouldn't work either, and I think my paternal gma wore a suit. 

    But if it weren't for the lack of available dresses, I would definitely consider it.

     
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    I most definitely would, it would save so much money.  Although I would miss the whole dress shopping experience. 

     
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    stacycats    April 2, 2011   NJ

    Oh YES!! When my parents were married, however, my mother was 5'5" and a size 2. Although I am quite thin, I am 6' even and a size 8. Why bother even opening up the box to see if I could have it altered?!?!?

     
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    GreenEyedMoon    January 14, 2012   Dallas

    If it's something you would love to do, then I think you should do it!  You seem to like the dress, and the cost definitely helps.  And, of course, nothing else could compare to the sentimental value.

    I wouldn't want to do it because I kind of hate my mom's dress (no clue what happened to the dress of either of my grandmothers), and anyway, I'm much shorter and more busty than she is, so it would look weird.  I would consider it for a dress I liked, though.

     
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    And I wonder how many of you will keep or have kept your dresses to try to pass it down one day?

     
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    Mrs Grape    December 10, 2010  

    I wanted to wear Grandma's wedding gown, but we have completely different bulids--she was tall (5'8), maybe 100 pounds, and had very long legs and a shorter torso (so the waist of the dress is very high). I'm 5'4", a size 10, and hippy. It just wasn't going to work, which made me sad--it's a beautiful gown.

    I kept my dress (the green one), but we're not planning to have kids. I do plan to wear it again and again, though!

     
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    Pwitty    August 6, 2011   Michigan

    If it was the right style, then yes I definitely would, but it would probably be with a lot of alterations. Unfortunately, both our moms had very traditional dresses and winter weddings...probably wont work for the semi-formal summer wedding I'm planning. 

    I also read/saw pictures of a bride who used the lace from her mother's dress to make a bolero for her new dress - that was a really cute way to incorporate Mom's dress, but still get to pick out something new/unique!

     

     

     

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