Post # 1
Me and FI have been going around some venues recently, and I’ve noticed that in every single one (so, about four lol) the person showing us around has turned to us and said that there won’t be any other weddings on the same day. Two of them have made a point of saying to me that there won’t be any other brides on the day for me to ‘compete with’, one woman actually saying that she ‘knows how competitive brides can get’.
Is it just me or is it not really a big deal if there’s someone else there? As long as you’re not getting married in the same room or in each other’s space, does it matter? I don’t feel competitive towards anyone – heck, I’d probably try and make friends with the other couple!
What are people’s thoughts?
Post # 2
ZebraPrintMe: I’ll admit that I feel like I may end up being a bit competitive.
You see, in my venue, there are two floors that you can have weddings on. The lounge, which has a stairway in the middle leading up to the 3rd floor ballroom & lobby. There’s shared airspace, even though the stairway is blocked off from both the top & the bottom. The ballroom is closed off from the lobby and we’ll be having our wedding up there. The other wedding is down in the lounge.
Our wedding reception is from 4 pm until 9 pm, the other wedding starts at 6 or 7 pm, which is right when we’ll be really cranking up the music.
Part of me feels bad that my rowdy crowd will most likely end up affecting her dinner time, the other part of me feels a bit like “neener, neener, neener, we’re having more fun up here!”
Post # 6
ZebraPrintMe: I agree with you! I was not competitive at all in regards to our wedding.
Post # 7
Yeah I wouldn’t have cared lol. Copping a squat in the ladies room and toasting each other would have been fun!
Post # 3
ZebraPrintMe: I’m with you, I wouldn’t be competitive at all, more like making friends over a glass of champers.
Post # 4
To me, the only having one wedding a day thing was more about being sure that the service would be excellent (aka the employees wouldn’t be distracted working 2 different events at the same time or on the same day). I feel like more mistakes are prone to be made when there is more than one event going on. I also think it feels more “special” to have the entire venue to yourself, but that’s just me. I certainly never thought of it in terms of being competitive with another bride!
Post # 5
ZebraPrintMe: I found this weird when looking for wedding venues as well. It never really crossed my mind that there would be a problem if there was more than one bride, especially since they’d both have different guests.
Post # 8
I don’t think the issue is with brides feeling competitive – having more than one wedding on the same day means the staff could be stretched thin. I felt better knowing the venue coordinator has her full attention on me that weekend, and that I would have all the staff I needed.
Post # 9
ZebraPrintMe: I’d be competitive if 1) we both wanted photos at the reception site at around the same time, 2) bathroom facilities would be shared by both parties (cuz heck, who wants a line?), 3) parking issues… so I guess I would be competitive. It’s kind of petty though. Yikes.
Post # 12
ZebraPrintMe: I woundn’t want to share my venue with another bridal party and/or wedding guests. That was one the reasons we chose to rent out the vineyard/winery we selected. With our rental we have exclusive rights to the property and it is shutdown to the public during the hours we have booked. I wanted an intimate affair and a feeling of seclusion with our guests. I could just see other wedding guests crashing the party and having to deal with double traffic, parking, and complications. If one wedding is hard enough to manage I couldn’t imagine dealing with two at the same location.
Post # 10
We wanted exclusive use, but not because we felt ‘competitive’; we just wanted free run of the venue and to have the staff’s full attention; and I don’t see anything wrong with that tbh. If I were hiring a venue for a birthday party I would want exclusive use; I don’t see why I would feel differently about a wedding.
Post # 11
That’s probably one of the dumbest things I’ve ever heard. I could not have cared less if there was another bride at my venue.
Post # 13
It sounds like a rather silly thing to say, to be honest. I don’t know anyone so competitive about their wedding that they couldn’t tolerate the idea of another one happening in the same venue!
However, and this is dependent on how the venue is arranged, there can be practical issues that make two weddings occurring at the same time a tad awkward.
I shot a wedding a couple of years back and while the reception venue was beautiful, their wedding co-ordinator got very tetchy about the chance of the wedding I was being involved in getting in the way of the “other wedding”. Which was perfectly reasonable were it not that both sets of wedding participants got rudely told to keep out of each other’s way and the moment that he screamed “Don’t any of you dare go down those steps” was a particularly low point.
I realise he was, hopefully, the exception to the rule but I can also understand how it might be more desirable to just have the run of a venue.
Post # 14
It was EXTREMELY important to me to be the only major event at my venue on the wedding day, and it was the first question I asked during my tour and interview with the wedding coordinator. Not because I would have been competitive, but just because I want all of the staff’s attention to be on my event, not divided between two. It had nothing to do with other brides.
Post # 15
ZebraPrintMe: I also thought this was crazy it happened to us! But our runner up venue was a concern because there was a ballroom that held up to 400 and a smaller room we would have used that sat up to 150. they stager the weddings but there was only one kitchen that handled all the food. that made me weary I didn’t want my smaller wedding have corners cut because there was less people. The other odd thing but not a deal breaker was we would have to share the bridal suite with the other bridal party I could have cared less the room was HUGE but the other bride was not having it.
we ended up simplifying and going with another venue that host 1 wedding a week.