(Closed) Would you feel offended?

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Would you feel offended being made to feel like the family out cast?
    Yes : (73 votes)
    90 %
    No : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Other : (7 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    Um, yes I would be offended! How rude!

    Post # 4
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Are you sure it didn’t get lost in the mail?

    Post # 5
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m sure it was just an accidental oversight.  We’re having a brunch the day after my wedding and my mom accidently forgot to include one of my cousins on the invite list.  When you’re trying to list out a bunch of people, you’re bound to accidently miss one.  I caught the error when I was reviewing the list for her but it was certainly nothing intentional on her part.  I’m sure this is the same.

    My other thought.  Do you live close to this cousin or is the rest of your family located significantly closer than you?  If this is the case, they may have only invited in-town or in-state people or whatever, not wanting people to feel like they needed to travel far to come.

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    That is really rude and inconsiderate, especially with family! Darn right I would feel like an outcast! I would be vehement!

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee

    I’d have your mother call her mother and casually bring it up.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee

    I agree with beekiss2, maybe yours just didn’t make it into the envelope???  Cause that just seems odd.  I hope that it was just an oversight  🙂

    Post # 10
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I would be very offended. This actually happened to me. My cousin was getting married and invited my mom and some other close family to her bacholette party. Leaving out me. I really dont see someone inviting your sister and not you. When I think of my cousin I think of all her family not just a select few…

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee

    I can’t believe it isn’t an error on someone’s part. 

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’d imagine that it must have gotten lost unless you have some sort of history with this cousin where you think she might not invite you.

    Post # 13
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I also want to believe it was an innocent oversight.  While my reflex would be to be offended, I think you or your mother should bring it up to be sure.  These are the kinds of things that can fester and create resentment, which would be a shame if it is a mistake.

    I’m so sorry you have this going on – good luck! 

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    That doesn’t make any sense maybe you should confront her?

    Post # 15
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    It’s probably an error.  I’d talk to my mom about it and see if she could quietly deal with finding out for you.  Imagine how horrified your cousin would be if you “contronted” her about a simple oops!

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