Would you find this rude?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is this rude?
    Yes : (74 votes)
    59 %
    No : (31 votes)
    25 %
    Other : (21 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
    5518 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I would find it rude.  But I would hope he was texting something about a surprise/gift for me which is why he didnt want me to see!

    Post # 4
    9652 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @mtbikelover:  I would certainly find it odd and question why he did it. Depending on how he reacted would determine if I actually got mad or not thou. Maybe he didn’t realize he was doing it….maybe it was a surprise for you…..you never really know so I wouldn’t jump to conclusions and I’d question it first!

    Post # 5
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @mtbikelover:  I hate people reading over my shoulder, which I think is rude. It’s my natural reaction to tilt my phone away if I think someone is doing that. Not that I’m hiding anything, it’s just that my husband (or anyone else) doesn’t need to see every email and text that I write. 

    Post # 6
    737 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @mtbikelover:  Yes I would think it is rude but it is very close to Christmas… So, I probably wouldn’t make a stink about it.

    Post # 7
    1362 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

    @mtbikelover:  Yeah, I’d be asking him what he’s hiding for sure.  

    Post # 9
    8387 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @mtbikelover:  I would find it very odd, especially since my husband and I use each other’s phones, computers, etc, freely.  I think the only response that would make sense for us would be for him to say it was a surprise for me.

    Post # 10
    1064 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    @mtbikelover:  It’s a little bit rude, but I’ll admit that I’ve done it to my SO. If I’m texting with my best friend and it happens to be something I don’t want him to see (for example: “this event SO brought me to is really boring :S I wish I were out with you instead, but I want to support him!”) then I will tilt my phone. Because as rude as it is to tilt a phone away, it’s even more rude to LOOK.

    Post # 12
    5391 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @mtbikelover:  I voted ‘other’ as for me it would depend on the context/situation and it would be the tilting that would annoy me so much as the fact he was texting at a social event in the first place (I mean, why are people these days so attached to their blimming phones?!).

    With the whole tilting thing, we both do it sometimes; doesn’t bother me. I hate people looking over my shoulder when I’m texting/emailing someone, I find it rude.

    Post # 13
    9019 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I voted other because it would depend on who he was texting and why.  Maybe he’s planning a surprise Christmas gift for you.  🙂  I would have definitely asked about it if was my husband, though, lol.  Did you ask?

    Post # 14
    1018 posts
    Bumble bee

    @mtbikelover:  I ALWAYS tilt my phone away and/or leave the room when I get a call. It’s not secretive, it’s just really distracting with someone watching you or listening to you and I can concentrate on the phone call or what I’m typing.

    And sometimes, with SO around, I’m texting my mom about something TMI and don’t want him to read lol. Or texting my sister about wedding dresses and don’t want him to think I’m crazy (not engaged yet)

    It’s just a personal thing, not trying to be secretive or rude.

    Post # 15
    9019 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Oh, I see you updated that it wasn’t a Christmas present surprise.  Bummer.

    Post # 16
    2675 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    It would depend on the situation for me personally. If this was IRL happening to me – I know my FI and he thinks it is hillarious to send me text messages when we’re together. So he’d probably be hiding the screen so I can’t see what he’s texting me…LOL. Otherwise I don’t think he’d do it or I would just ask who he’s texting. He always tells me and even if he was texting someone else and didn’t want me to see it I know that it would be because it’s likely something stupid/humorous to one of his friends.

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