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If I knew what was in the box, yeah, I'd find it super creepy and weird...Sorry! But, if I didn't know what it was it'd just look like a pretty box instead of a pillow 
I'm a firm believer in doing whatever YOU want that will make YOU happy since it's YOUR wedding, but I do find it a little weird.
ETA: I'm sorry about your kitty.
Sorry.. it is really hard to lose a pet :(
To answer your question-- I would find it a bit weird though, and also kind of sad. I think maybe you should put a picture of him on a charm on your bouquet or on a charm bracelet maybe?
I would find it really weird. I mean I know people love their pets but I think this is taking it too far. No one would do this with a lost parent, friend, etc.
I find this really disturbing. Definitely creepy and unecessary at a wedding.
I would find it a bit odd yea, couldn't you just do a picture of instead?
Sorry to hear about your kitty... :( My furbabies mean the world to me so I can imagine you must be crushed
Is there a different way you could incorporate him? A photo in a locket on your bouquet? Pictures at your reception?
i think most people would find it a bit odd, unless you didnt tell them what was in the box. Can you have a picture of your cat there rather than the actual ashes.. I would think you would want to keep the ashes safe at home
it's a bit weird to me. a wedding isn't really the time to have something that would also be at a funeral.
I am very, very sorry about the loss of your beloved Sly. I am sure this is a very difficult time for you.
I wouldn't bring his remains to the wedding. Any number of things could happen, that might not be good. The box of his remains should have a place of honor in your home, and leave it at that.
I had a girlfriend who, after loosing her beloved kitty, wore his collar as a bracelet, and it made her feel better. Maybe you could do something like that? Or use the collar around the stem of your flowers or maybe incorporate one of your cat's toys into your bouquet? I think at least this way you would be honoring your beloved pet and he would be there, in spirit, for your ceremony.
I'm so sorry to hear about Sly :( he looks like a very happy kitty
I would be worried about something happening to the remains but I think doing something like @SandyThePoet: mentioned would be good, if he has a bell on his collar maybe you could have this attached to somewhere and when you hear it tinkle you'll know he's with you
i'm sorry for your loss :(...sly was gorgeous!
@TrentsGirl: i love the bell idea!
I've decided i'll make his blanket into a pillow case, and have that as the ring pillow :) I love the collar/bell idea but he never had a collar (he always tried to get them off).
Thanks guys ♥
If it makes you happy, do it. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I had my FI read this since he's a major cat lover. He says:
tell her to but some of the ashes in a locket and wear the locket, this way the cat can be there with here that day.
I am so sorry for your loss! 
(And no, don't do the ash box. Choose from any of the other ideas that the PPs have mentioned.)
you already got good advice, but I'm sorry about your loss. What a beautiful cat!
Maybe you can set up a little memory table for him (at your reception maybe?) with a framed photo and the box. Maybe people would be less weirded out by that than using it as the pillow. Although, I personally think that you can do whatever your heart says and who cares what anyone else thinks.
So sorry for your loss <3
I'm going against all the other posts here and saying: no it's not weird. My SO and I are huge animal lovers and consider our dog family. If she were to pass I would have her ashes on the mantel and that in and of itself is a pretty strange concept, so how weird is it to have them at your wedding? To me, not very weird.
If a family member dies people honor them at weddings in their own special way all the time. Why not honor your lost loved one in this way? He was part of your family unit and you want him represented that day. If this is what you want to do I say do it and forget about what the rest of us have to say. We don't know you or your FI and after all it is YOUR wedding. I say do it. I would.
So sorry! I have four cats myself and I love them to pieces. The idea of the ring pillow is excellent! However, carrying his ashes in a box would be totally acceptable in my opinion. I don't find it gross or creepy. It's not like you are carrying a corpse....RIP Sly!
Pilotsgirl09 and SweetCheeks Thank you both very much, i've decide to make the pillow because i got worried that something might happen to his ashes if i took him out
Maybe I am weird, but I don't think that's weird at all.
Sorry for your loss.
I think the pillow sounds like a great idea! Sly was a family memeber and you should definitly incorporate him in somehow.
We have two kitties (Salem Spookypants and Snowy Snugglepants) and although they are both trained to walk outside on leashes, I'm not too sure how we want them incorporated in our wedding. They mean the world to us, so I feel for your situation and somehow made myself cry by reading your post!!
Sorry, but that is too bizzarre. It seems like some sort of ritual offering.
Why don't you do something else like hang a charm from your bouquet, maybe his name tag?
@Zusie: These suggestions were already made....8 months ago. OP already said a couple of times what she decided to do.
Im very sorry for ur loss.. it must have been so hard for you ... and honestly, I do find a bit weird.. ( sorry ) but You can have him there if you really want, some bees had some great ideas- like havin his pic there on the table, with the ring box or wearing a locket.. Or if you want, this may sound weird too, but the pillow that the ring will be rested on, you can have his picture printed on it?
its your day and all but my honest opinin yes I do think its weird... why dont you just have a pic of him and a memeoral candle on a table?
I'm so sorry about our kitty! I'm sure no one would know what's in the box unless you tell them. Other than that I think a picture would be a good way to let everyone know that you miss your kitty.
How about a pic in a bouquet charm?
My input-
I have already decided and made it known to everyone that when dear Black Lab Roxy goes, she will be stuffed and sit in my living room. Yes, like on Scrubs. (She's 11 and slowing down) I'd put her in the wedding but she is crazy and my family isn't dog friendly.
My grandmother died two months ago, and I sent a pillow (that goes in the casket) adorned with roses. My Mom calls me after the funeral and informs me she "saved it so you can use it as your wedding"
WHAT?
To each his own.
Sorry but that's creepy... What about a photo of the cat blown up onto a canvas for the reception. It would be respectful.
So sorry to hear about your beloved kitty.
With regards to your wedding, I understand your desire to keep him a part of it, but I think the ashes box may be too much... he's at least still there in your heart.
Something that may not evoke discomfort from guests could be to include a photo or photo collage of him somewhere... perhaps by the dessert table and have a sign that reads "This dessert table is dedicated to our dearly departed, sweet Sly."... or something?
That is pretty creepy. A more discreet way for your to have your kitty with you would be to get one of these pendants and either wear it or put it on your bouquet. http://www.pawsnheaven.com/urns_caskets/
They contain a tiny portion of your pet's cremains and look really nice and not like a box of your cat's cremains at your wedding. I don't know the direct supplier to these guys--I've just worked with them for years on a professional basis. I'm sure if you call and ask they can help you find out where you could get that done in your area.
Alternatively, you could have a photo of him on your sign in table next to some flowers or carry a small photo of him on your bouquet.
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The first (and only) thing Mr. Miller and i had decided we wanted was for our Cat to be our ring bearer. (Either on a lead or i would hold him instead of flowers)
On Monday Morning we had to take our Cat to the Vet because over the weekend he had lost alot of weight and wasn't eating, Turns out he had Chronic Kidney Failure.
We had him stay there on a drip for 3 days and his levels didn't change so yesterday when we went to visit him we were asked if we wanted to have him put down or take him home until he passed while we were deciding he was taken off his drip and within half an hour he couldn't stand so we decided to have him put down.
Now for the weird question, We're getting him cremated and i still want to make him part of our wedding because he was our baby, So I'm trying to convince Mr. Miller to use the box his ashes will be in as the Ring Pillow, Would you find this too weird? or creepy? We only have about 30 people coming and they're all family members.
This is the box:
This is Sly: