Post # 1
The first (and only) thing Mr. Miller and i had decided we wanted was for our Cat to be our ring bearer. (Either on a lead or i would hold him instead of flowers)
On Monday Morning we had to take our Cat to the Vet because over the weekend he had lost alot of weight and wasn’t eating, Turns out he had Chronic Kidney Failure.
We had him stay there on a drip for 3 days and his levels didn’t change so yesterday when we went to visit him we were asked if we wanted to have him put down or take him home until he passed while we were deciding he was taken off his drip and within half an hour he couldn’t stand so we decided to have him put down.
Now for the weird question, We’re getting him cremated and i still want to make him part of our wedding because he was our baby, So I’m trying to convince Mr. Miller to use the box his ashes will be in as the Ring Pillow, Would you find this too weird? or creepy? We only have about 30 people coming and they’re all family members.
This is the box:
This is Sly:
Post # 3
If I knew what was in the box, yeah, I’d find it super creepy and weird…Sorry! But, if I didn’t know what it was it’d just look like a pretty box instead of a pillow
Post # 4
I’m a firm believer in doing whatever YOU want that will make YOU happy since it’s YOUR wedding, but I do find it a little weird.
ETA: I’m sorry about your kitty.
Post # 5
Sorry.. it is really hard to lose a pet 🙁
To answer your question– I would find it a bit weird though, and also kind of sad. I think maybe you should put a picture of him on a charm on your bouquet or on a charm bracelet maybe?
Post # 6
I would find it really weird. I mean I know people love their pets but I think this is taking it too far. No one would do this with a lost parent, friend, etc.
Post # 7
I find this really disturbing. Definitely creepy and unecessary at a wedding.
Post # 8
I would find it a bit odd yea, couldn’t you just do a picture of instead?
Post # 9
Sorry to hear about your kitty… 🙁 My furbabies mean the world to me so I can imagine you must be crushed
Is there a different way you could incorporate him? A photo in a locket on your bouquet? Pictures at your reception?
Post # 10
sly was adorable. i am sooo sorry, my dear. my heart goes out to you.
Post # 11
i think most people would find it a bit odd, unless you didnt tell them what was in the box. Can you have a picture of your cat there rather than the actual ashes.. I would think you would want to keep the ashes safe at home
Post # 12
it’s a bit weird to me. a wedding isn’t really the time to have something that would also be at a funeral.
Post # 13
Thanks everyone, I figured that would be the case.
Post # 14
I am very, very sorry about the loss of your beloved Sly. I am sure this is a very difficult time for you.
I wouldn’t bring his remains to the wedding. Any number of things could happen, that might not be good. The box of his remains should have a place of honor in your home, and leave it at that.
I had a girlfriend who, after loosing her beloved kitty, wore his collar as a bracelet, and it made her feel better. Maybe you could do something like that? Or use the collar around the stem of your flowers or maybe incorporate one of your cat’s toys into your bouquet? I think at least this way you would be honoring your beloved pet and he would be there, in spirit, for your ceremony.
Post # 15
I’m so sorry to hear about Sly 🙁 he looks like a very happy kitty
I would be worried about something happening to the remains but I think doing something like @SandyThePoet: mentioned would be good, if he has a bell on his collar maybe you could have this attached to somewhere and when you hear it tinkle you’ll know he’s with you
Post # 16
i’m sorry for your loss :(…sly was gorgeous!
@TrentsGirl: i love the bell idea!