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Honestly I don't think I'd care that much if a guest wore a white dress to my wedding, but it really bothers me when I'm a guest at a wedding, and another guest wears a white dress!
What about you? Do guests wearing white dresses at weddings bother you in any way?
White eyelet sundress with a colored sash, no.
Strapless long white/ivory Vera Wang ballgown with a train, yes. :)
heck yeah i'd be mad!
that one of glamour mag's 20 wedding dos and don'ts that aired this last weekend :)
I don't actually think I'd be that mad, but I'd feel like I should be! I think I'd feel offended by the choice the same way I'd be offended by anyone else's really blatant etiquette faux pas.
I think it sort of depends on the guest... If it was someone who I thought knew the "rule," I'd be upset. If it were just an innocent error (like a younger cousin or something), it wouldn't bother me.
I wouldn't care. What anyone else wears isn't going to ruin the day, lessen our fun, or change the fact that we're the ones getting married. For these same reasons, we know there will be people at our wedding dressed like we're having a black tie affair and others in jeans. As long as everyone has fun and celebrates with us, it doesn't matter what they wear.
Honestly, it wouldn't bother me. I might think it was a little odd, but I wouldn't be offended if someone did it. It may sound bad, but I don't remember what anyone (outside of the wedding party) wore to my wedding. I just remember being happy to see everyone's smiling faces, celebrating our day.
I probably wouldn't even notice. :-)
My sister (MOH) would definitely notice, and be mad on my behalf, though.
Honestly, I wouldn't care, and don't think that I'd even notice. In the grand scheme of things, the color of a guest's dress should not be a priority on your wedding day. The focus should be on the fact that you have just been married, an amazing thing :-)
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Depends on the style and how formal the dress is. I may not even notice but as a guest I would notice and will think its totally inappropriate!
I don't know if I will care enough at my own wedding, but it definitely annoys me when I see guests doing it!
I guess I've always seen this as a tad rude. White is reserved for the bride, as it's her special day.
Nope! Because I am not wearing white but champagne! So guests - white away!
YES. Please don't wear a white dress to a wedding. Can you not refrain for one day to choose another dress besides white? Come on! I mean, it's a wedding, typically the bride wears white, why would you - the guest, want to even wear white too? It's weird. It's sooo weird as if you're in competition with the bride.
Don't wear white to my wedding. 
I kind of doubt I'd have noticed before starting to plan our own wedding. But we were just at a wedding last weekend where a guest actually DID wear a white dress! It had beading and everything. That really stuck out to me, but before weddingbee I wouldn't have known :)
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Well, my MIL wore white to my wedding. White with some bizzarre black line pattern, but white anyways.
When i saw her i got reeeaaaally mad, but then i remembered it was my wedding day and probably no one will notice her, because i was the bride (yeah, that was my bridezilla moment)... so i calmed down and decided to ignore what she did.
After the wedding, when i saw pictures and remembered, i got mad again, but I couldn't stay like that for a long time, because she's an adorable woman and she really loves me, so i think it was just a faux pas.
it wouldn't bother me unless it was a white gown. i guess knee lenght is fine, but floor length is a no-no.
I can't remember what anyone but me wore to the wedding. In my overwhelmed happy bubble, everyone else was blurry! :)
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(So I guess that would be "No" I wouldn't be mad. :))
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@Mrs. Bee, I am exactly the same way. I honestly could care less if someone wore white to my wedding because the focus isn't on her for the day. As long as she looks and feels great that is all that matters to me.
On the other hand, I am sure I would be a little annoyed if I saw someone wearing a white dress to another person's wedding. For me, it really depends on the feel of the wedding. My sister had a beach themed, casual wedding and my friend wore a white dress that had random, small, colored rings with a blue cardigan and it was great. It didn't take away from the bride at all who actually wore a turquoise dress.
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Prior to getting married I thought I would care, but on my wedding day, I truthfully didn't notice what anyone was wearing. I really think if you're a bride and you're sitting there worrying about what your guests are wearing that day, ur doin it wrong. I was too focused on my husband and how much fun I was having to register what color my guests had on! Thinking back on it, two people did wear white/ivory. If I didn't care that day, I'm certainly not going to care now.
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If I had gotten married at 22, I would have been mad if someone wore white to my wedding. But at 33, I wouldn't care a bit - and probably wouldn't even notice. Perhaps at 22 I thought people would be confused on just who the bride was? (Please note that's a commentary on *my* personality at 22 - not a commentary on 22 year old brides in general.) As a guest at weddings though...I notice every time someone wears white (it's so strange!). And when weddings last entire weekends (rehearsal dinner, wedding, brunch) - I always weed out every bit of white from my outfits. Alas, I've now just realized with this thinking it means that for my own wedding weekend, I'm going to wear white all three days. Highly, highly unlikely. ;)
I wouldn't care if someone wore white to my own wedding. When others where white to a wedding, though, I generally would make a joke about it to one of my girl friends.
Mrs. Bee and fellow bees, I have been worrying about this very question.
I just bought the dress below and am thinking of wearing it to a family member's wedding, but I really, REALLY don't want to do anything to take away from the bride. Do you think it's too "white"? (It's a lot lighter that it appears in this photo- more of a champagne color. Also, the cutouts aren't see-through- the dress has a nude-colored lining). Is it inappropriate? I honestly can't tell!
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I would only care if the white dress was a wedding gown. But my wedding was pretty formal. Sometimes weddings are pretty informal, with the bride wearing a short dress. If that's the case, I would shy away from wearing anything white.
But in general, I don't think the fact that a dress is white makes it attention grabbing. Would you rather have a guest wear a simple white knee length dress, or a low cut fuschia dress? Or a cougar in an inappropriate black mini skirt?
I'd like to say I'd be above it and wouldn't care, but I think I would!
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I went to a wedding where a guest wore white - I noticed her during the cocktail hour and my first thought was that she was another bride coming by to check out the scene (there was more than one wedding in the venue). Once I realized she was a guest (when she was hugging the bride) I immediately thought it was totally inappropriate and kind of shocking (I mean, who wears white anyway??).
I also agree with other posters that I might not even care on my wedding day if a guest is in white. The most I would do is probably instruct the photographer to avoid her.
Yes, I'd be extremely mad. And if any guest wears white to my wedding I have a few friends that have already told me they'll be armed with a glass of red wine.
Like many of you, I'm not sure I'd actually notice what anyone else was wearing to my wedding...but I would have a few catty thoughts/remarks if I saw it at someone else's wedding. Although, if someone walked in in a floor length white gown I would definitely notice and I'd like to think I'd ignore it but chances are the inner b*tch would break through and I'd ask her if she wanted to walk down the aisle too.
@EAQ215 - lol i've also had some of my girls say they'll be keeping an eye out with colored beverage in hand
In case you can't tell, I'm on the anti-white train. And I would TOTALLY notice.
I don't care if someone wears white to my wedding. I probably won't even notice. But I would never wear white to someone else's wedding. First, I'm too much of a klutz and I can guarantee I would spill something on it. Second, I wouldn't want to potentially upset the bride.
I wouldn't mind at all. I want everyone to feel beautiful at my wedding--in a way, that's part of what makes the whole event look good. There's something to be said for seeing guests as free ceremony decorations that you can reuse as reception decorations.
O yes, Id be pissed!! Any shade of white, ivory, cream...just please no!! And I really dont like dresses with white on them, I just dont think its appropriate. If you have to ask then dont wear it. Leave white for the bride :)
That saying, I probably wouldnt notice because Id be too happy and walking on air :) but later it might it upset me and Im sure my BMs would be mad for me ha. Since Im not the bride, I notice at weddings and it makes me mad.
If a guest at my wedding wore a white dress, I doubt I would even notice. If I were a guest of a wedding where another guest wore a white dress, I think I would feel a little embarrassed for them that they missed that rule.
I have a friend who is SO guilty of this. She's on the right. I think this dress was a little disrespectful. I mean, it LOOKS like a wedding dress!
I would never wear white to a wedding and think it is rude when someone else does, but I have to say I really don't think I would care.
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