Post # 1
My friend and I were having a debate today about whether or not it would be weird to get married on the birthday of a SERIOUS former partner if that was the date that worked best for you and your FI. Not someone you dated briefly, but someone you were very closely involved with. So naturally, I wanted to know what the weddingbee board thought about this!
So ladies, what do you all think? Would you avoid the date even if it was the most convenient time for you two, or would you not care/make it your own?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I don’t remember any ex’s b-days, serious or not, so I wouldn’t have a problem getting married on that day, lol.
Post # 4
Once they’re an ex, it doesn’t matter anymore. If the date works for the couple, then why not?
Post # 5
@prisigtr: Yeah. I’m terrible with birthdays, I barely remember my own most of the time… I certainly wouldn’t remember an ex’s!
Post # 6
I don’t remember anyone’s birthdays so it’s not an issue…
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
@felixfelicis: I wouldn’t do it just because that day would always conjur the memory of him.. no matter if it also became my wedding anniversary or not. Not sure why, but certain things will always remind me of him and I’m not fond of the memories, to say the least lol
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@felixfelicis: We’re doing it by accident. It’s FI’s ex that he briefly dated right before me (less than a year.) We picked our date and when it passed last year he remembered it was his ex’s birthday. By then we had already signed contracts and the date was in stone. We feel a little bad about it because she will figure it out soon enough (they share FB friends) and we hope she doesn’t think it was intentional because it really wasn’t. We wanted a Halloween-time wedding so we were limited to two weekends and we ended up with November 2 because the venue we wanted was available that date.
Post # 9
I don’t have a serious ex (FI and I are High School sweethearts). I don’t think this would be an issue as who would really know? Would you be inviting them? If this is something that the bride/groom is thinking about they might still have feelings for the ex?
If it’s the date that fits then choose it. Stuff the ex – you broke up for a reason.
Post # 10
@felixfelicis: I wouldn’t deliberately plan it on an ex’s birthday, but if that’s the date we could get and worked best for us, why not? I am getting married on 11/8/13 – my ex’s birthday is the 11th so close enough. I am on good terms w/ all my exes so that’s probably why it’s not a big deal to me… Or them for that matter.
Post # 11
I only have one ex, so it’s quite easy to remember his birthday, the date we started dating and the date we broke up.
Curiously, my husband and I married 2 days before what would have been the 6th anniversary for my ex and me. I had forgotten it was ‘that’ anniversary until after I had already set the date for my wedding…though I probably would have married another weekend if the only other option was the ex’s-birthday/anniversary/etc.
I’d always be worried that some date-savvy relative would blurt out, “Oh, you got married on (Ex-boyfriend’s) birthday!” My husband’s fairly secure, but I’d like it if we kept our anniversary unblemished.
Post # 12
Well no but it is also my parent’s anniversary. My sister had a baby on her ex’s birthday. She was so annoyed but you can’t control that!
Post # 13
If they’re an ex, why does it matter?
I barely remember my husband’s birthday let alone anybody else’s.
Post # 14
@CookieCreamCakes: Something similar happened to me on my engagement. We called our close family and friends to tell them and the very last person I got hold of was my Aunty (Dad’s youngest sister). She was the first person to inform me that we got engaged on my parents wedding anniversary.
My parents got divorced 15 years ago so needless to say that was awkward! But how was FI meant to know?
Moral of the story – beware of the date savvy relatives hehe
Post # 15
I got married the day before an ex’s birthday, but it was really just a date that worked. Plus, what do I care if they might think I did it intentionally?
Post # 16
I have three serious ex’s (as in more than 1 year) and I do not remember their birthdays so it wouldn’t matter haha!