Post # 1
This may turn controversial, but oh well.
One of my best friends has 3 kids. The oldest a girly girl (13), middle very into sports boy (7), and youngest boy (5). The youngest loves to help his mom cook. So last year for xmas she got him a play kitchen set. This year she got him an easy bake oven.
DH doesnt understand it and thinks boys should ONLY play with ‘boy’ stuff.
Yet, he thinks its OK for girls to play with ‘boy’ stuff.
So what do you think?
Post # 3
Boys can cook too. I see no problems with boys getting girly toys. But I definitely don’t see a kitchen or easy bake oven as girly.
My son is 11 and loves to cook. I got him a pan and measuring cup as one of his gifts and he loved it. And he is ALL boy!
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s a great idea to feminize little boys, so I wouldn’t.
Post # 5
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@jesssamesssa: There are no rules saying that certain toys belong to certain genders. Honestly, it is fine for little boys to have a play kitchen
Post # 6
Considering how many master chefs are in fact, men, I don’t see an issue nor think cooking stuff is a “girl” toy. And while I wouldn’t be buying my theoretical son a hot pink tutu or high heels to wear, I do think there is an insane standard of what is “manly” and what isn’t and that isn’t something you should engrain in a five year old who just likes to cook.
Post # 7
um, absolutely. I don’t see why you wouldn’t. I’m pretty against gender stereotypes, especially for children. I was a total tomboy (short hair, hated “girly” things, played football, but it didn’t “make me a lesbian” and I had plenty of boyfriends before DH).
Does your DH say why he feels that way? Playing with girl toys will not make a boy “gay” or feminine. Your DH is actually being pretty sexist— its ok/good for girls to like boy/manly things but bad for a boy to be like a girl.
sort of like as adults it is good for a woman to be “manly” like independent, strong, hard working etc, but bad for a man to be “feminine” like nurturing, sweet, gentle. etc.
Post # 8
I don’t see a problem with this at all. Does your DH never cook?
Post # 9
I guess I don’t understand why a play kitchen and easy bake oven would be considered a girls gift nowadays.
Times have certainly changed. Men cook and are no longer ashamed of it.
But then again, I still wouldn’t be concerned if my little boy asked for a baby doll.
Post # 10
I think the saddest part of this is that toys are still seen as “boy” toys and “girl” toys… I’d love for my kids not to think that way, but that would require avoiding all toy stores… and commercials.
ETA: My kids are currently imaginary, just to be clear.
Post # 11
@Pinkmoon: Because cooking and the kitchen are women’s responsibilities… /rant
Post # 12
@jesssamesssa: um. What year does your DH think it is? That is so silly. Of course it’s perfectly acceptable to give a boy cooking toys.
Post # 13
I see no issue with it. I have 3 boys and have bought play food, play dishes (all primary colors) etc and they all played with it. We have a smaller home and no room for it or else I would have bought an EZ bake oven for Christmas. I just have no room for it. They make a black one now with a boy on the cover. Hello ?!?!? Buddy from Cake Boss is a male !!
Post # 14
Maybe if more little boys were “feminized” with toys that reflect household chores and child-raising, we wouldn’t have so damn many threads on this board about how women are stuck with all the housework.
Post # 15
I bought my 4 year old nephew a kitchen this year for xmas, that’s what he wanted? My brother (his dad) is a chef, and he wanted to be like his dad. Your husband is being unreasonable and judgemental. Lord help him if he ever has a child with gender identification issues!!
Post # 16
I could maaaybe see if it was a super girly barbie or makeup or something…but a play kitchen? No, that wouldn’t bother me in the least.