Eloping: Would YOU give a present?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Treejewel19:  if it was me, i would probably get her a gift but not as large as a usual wedding gift.  maybe comparable to a shower gift.

if i was the bride in this case, i really don’t think i would expect gifts tbh but that’s just me.

Post # 4
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If I was eloping, I wouldn’t expect any presents.

If I had a close friend that was eloping, I would get them a present, but I wouldn’t feel obligated to do so.  I would probably give it to them after the bachelorette so I wouldn’t make anyone who didn’t get a present feel awkward.

Post # 5
5883 posts
Bee Keeper

I absolutely would give a present,especially because you already know about the elopement. She probably wouldn’t be expecting it but I’m sure would be thrilled that you thought of her/them.


Post # 7
1836 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Treejewel19:  if this were a good friend of mine, I would definitely give a card and a gift. But I like giving gifts. 🙂

Post # 9
1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If I was eloping, I certainly wouldn’t expect gifts, but if it was family or a close friend, I would give a gift to a couple that eloped.  I think of it as a wedding gift whether I attended the wedding or not.  If it was some distant friend or relative, I would send a congratulatory card but not a gift.

Post # 10
1646 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

If they were a good friend I’d still give a gift. If we were just acquaintances I wouldn’t give a gift. 

Post # 11
3077 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@alysee:  this.

I’d definitely give a gift to a good friend or even a semi close friend. Someone I only talk to occasionally, I wouldn’t. I’d also give a small gift at the bachelorette thing.

As someone who is gonna be having a small DW, I don’t even expect gifts for that so I definitely wouldn’t expect elopement gifts

Post # 12
7289 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Treejewel19:  If a couple was truly eloping (which this couple isn’t) then probably not unless they were close family.

In this case of a private wedding, I would probably not give them a present either and I would also side eye the bachelorette party and probably not attend unless they were a close friend or relative.

Post # 13
3032 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We eloped (just us 2) and sent announcements/pictures 2 months later to 50 people.  We didn’t get any gifts and didn’t expect to BUT my mom threw us a small in-home dinner with mostly close family and her old friends (10 people total) and we recieved checks/cash from those few people in person.  If we didn’t have the surprise shin-dig we would have likely got nothing.

We didn’t expect anything.  If it was a close friend, I would get something smal. 

Post # 14
2501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Treejewel19:  I would probably just get them a nice card and some money ( not as much as a wedding gift, but maybe $100 dollars or so) How close are you? If i didn’t know the couple very well I probably woudn’t attend anything and wouldn’t give a gift

I doubt they are expecting presents but if you are close to them a small gift might be nice

Post # 15
10838 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Treejewel19: I’d perhaps get her something for the day or something she can take away with her that she’ll use as part of her preparations. If I were the bride this is the type of thing I’d appreciate as a little something to remind me my friends are thinking of me back home.

Post # 16
1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I would give a gift. I think the reason why you should give a present to anyone is because you want to do something nice for them, not because you feel you need  to cover your plate or pay them back for the receptoon. That being said, while a gift is a nice gesture, it is never mandatory. 

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