Post # 1
My Fiance proposed with his grandmother’s diamond and is purchasing another diamond as a graduation/birthday present (Grandmas rock is being turned into a flower right hand ring). We went looking at diamonds today and we found a couple we both love. But there was one diamond in particular that was $500 over his budget that I really want but I didn’t say anything. I don’t think he would be mad if I gave him the extra money but I am wondering if it would be weird to partially purchase my own rock. What do you all think?
Post # 3
i think if he is okay with it, then its ok. i have a feeling some guys would want to be the one who pays and they might feel weird.
EDIT: i just asked my Fiance how he would feel if i had given him money towards my ring and he said “weird”. then i asked if he would have accepted it and he said “probably not”.
Post # 4
I think it would be weird as well. But at the same time I know that if I said it was what I really wanted he would accept the money. At the same time I should just get over it and stay within budget.
Post # 5
Sure why not? If he’s okay with it I say go for it.
Post # 6
As long as he is cool with it i say go for it 🙂
Post # 7
I wouldn’t mind it but my Fiance,would never let me do that. he would probably pick up extra shifts at work or find some way to get the money himself.
Post # 8
You’re going to wear this ring FOREVER, if you want to chip in then do it.
Post # 9
seems like the consensus is that WE (girls) are okay with it, but not our men! lol. typical male way of thinking i guess….
Post # 10
I like the idea (and did so) of contributing for my own ring.
Post # 11
You’re getting married. As in doing everything together for the most part financially. I don’t know why this would be an exception.
Post # 12
I’d bring it up and ask him if he’d be comfortable with it. Like PPs said, it seems that the ladies may be more ok with it than the guys. I think it also depends on how or if you’ll be combining finances…then it really is like you’re both purchasing the ring anyway (since x amount will be going towards the ring and not into your combined accounts). I think that is important to consider, too.
Post # 13
I inherited two engagement rings, one from my grandmother and the other from a great aunt. I gave him my grandmothers engagement ring… so he took it and got the band! I think it enabled the engagement to happen sooner.
Post # 14
Fiance and I both paid for my ring. We’ve had joint finances for years so regardless of where the money came from, it was still our money.
To be honest, I don’t really think its fair that all of the responsibility falls on the guy yet the girl gets to reap all the benefits.
Post # 15
After marriage it is all one pot of money, so why would it matter who spends it now?
Post # 16
I think if he’s okay with it go for it. I offered to help pay for my ring, which Fiance was okay with but then when it came time to pay for it he said no anyways. I didn’t get my “dream” ring but financially we got what was right for us for right now & I still love it.