(Closed) Would You Go?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Would you attend this bridal shower immediately following bachelorette party you were not invited to
    Yes : (31 votes)
    27 %
    No : (82 votes)
    73 %
  • Post # 3
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 1993

    I do think you’re over-thinking it with the trip thing and all, but to be honest I probably wouldn’t attend.  It’s too far of a drive for a peripheral friend 🙂

    Post # 4
    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Hells no.  I think it’s rude to exclude you from the fun weekend while inviting you to the gift-centric event.

    Post # 5
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @sailor:  That’s exactly what I thought too. Nope, can’t participate in the fun part, only the gift giving part.

    I’d respectfully decline the invite. If anyone asks why, just explain that it’s a long drive, especially for a Sunday.

    Post # 7
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I don’t think it’s odd that they invited you to the shower and not the bachelorette. I think of the bachelorette as an event for the bride’s closest friends and the shower as an opportunity for all the ladies on both sides of the couple to mingle. If you’re uncomfortable you can certainly decline. I doubt I’d go if it was that far and I wasn’t really close to the bride.

    Post # 8
    1719 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @LGenz:  Ditto!

    Post # 9
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper


    Post # 10
    4355 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It depends how private the bachelorette is. You said they are “just getting back from this trip”. If you aren’t close enough to the bride to be invited to an away trip I don’t think you should be upset about your lack of invitation to it.

    A shower is a totally different thing. To be honest for myself, my bachelorette is my bridesmaids and a few extra girls.. but not all the girls I know. Traditionally for a shower I believe most female guests are invited aren’t they?

    I would not punish the bride by not going to the shower simply because you are not invited to the bach, that is if you planned to go to the shower already.

    Post # 11
    9627 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wouldn’t.

    Post # 12
    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I don’t think there is anything wrong with not inviting everyone at the shower to the bachelorette.  However, I wouldn’t go to a shower for someone that isn’t a close friend, especially if it is an hour drive…

    Post # 13
    12877 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It seems a little gift grabby to invite you to the shower but not the bachelorette party if they’re literally right after each other.  I’d send a small gift with my regrets.

    Post # 15
    1427 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Shoe!! 😀

    Good to see you!

    Oh HELLS to the no! Obviously you’re friends with the groom first and not the bride. Seems like she’s fishing for a gift… I sure didnt’ invite my DH’s female friends to my bridal shower!

    Just my two cents…. I wouldn’t go… besides you’ll see her at the wedding and have to gift then anyway!

    Post # 16
    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I just would not got because it is such a long drive and it is directly following the bachelorette party. It’s true, all of the girls probably will be talking about it the whole time and you will deff feel left out. Maybe send a gift?

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