Post # 1
I just got this message on facebook from a friend. Keep in mind, she was previously engaged to my husband’s best friend and had asked me to be a bridesmaid for that wedding. Now I get this…
I wanted to extend an invite out to you and Ryan to our Wedding Ceremony. As our reception is immediate family and a few close friends, we are limited to how many people we can invite to the reception!
She’s having a 100 person reception, so it’s not like it’s tiny, but I guess I’m just feeling a little put off because we were so close at one point. I know my husband won’t even think about going because of the circumstances of the breakup with her and his best friend so I’m not asking for advice about IF we should go or not (because we won’t be for a few reasons.) I’m just wondering how y’all would feel if you got that invite.
Post # 3
a Facebook message? eh…
EDIT: I’m ALL for being green and saving paper, postage, etc… but yeah… there are other ways to invite someone. I would probably prefer a phone call over a Facebook message.
Post # 4
For starters….that was a very informal invite. I’d decline.
Post # 5
@Ryansgirl: I would politely decline, since it’s horribly gauche to invite some people to the ceremony and not the reception…
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Ryansgirl: OMG *facepalm* DECLINE!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 7
That is horribly impolite of her and sounds like a “I just wanted to make sure you knew i thought of you”. I wouldn’t go and its kind of… sad
Post # 8
I wouldn’t go… a facebook message?! We emailed our invitations, so I’m not against going green and all, but facebook is so impersonal. Oh yeah, and the fact that you’re only invited to the ceremony! No thanks.
Post # 9
I understand why some people may invite people only to the ceremony and not the reception, but to invite on Facebook? Decline.
Post # 11
No way I would sit through a boring ceremony for someone like that and not get to party and celebrate afterwards! Decline!
Post # 13
I’d be pretty meh about a facebook ceremony-only wedding invitation.
but then, I don’t think its in good taste to not invite all the guests to both ceremony and reception.
sending this invitation via facebook is the extra cherry on the pie of crap, if you ask me.
what’s really the point of inviting more people to the ceremony? the hopes of getting more gifts? I guess I don’t get it.
Post # 14
@JaneyDcat: Yeah I’m not really sure either…A gift hadn’t even crossed my mind…perhaps it is just a gift grab!!
Post # 15
So did she invite you?
Edit: just re-read it. I would probably decline.
Post # 16
@Ryansgirl: I probably would decline. I am not sure she’s doing anything wrong per se (like unless it’s a gift grab), but what’s the point in getting all dolled up for something that could be over in half an hour? I wouldn’t want to interrupt my day like that.
I would never ask someone who wasn’t invited to the reception to come to my wedding. It just seems odd somehow.