Would YOU go? (long)

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: WOULD YOU GO?
    Yes, be the bigger person. : (7 votes)
    11 %
    No, stand by what you said! : (57 votes)
    89 %
    Other.. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    4296 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @MissLunchbox:  Nope. Cut your losses and move on. This women is cleary all about herself. You will just continue to be let down.

    Post # 4
    611 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Nope, nope, nope.  I had a friend like this too.  They use people.  Cut your losses and move on.  She has no idea what a true friendship is anymore. 

    Post # 5
    1185 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I would not. But not because I’m trying to prove a point or anything.. I just dont tolerate people abusing my friendship. And i just dont deal with it. So i wouldn’t go.

    Post # 6
    314 posts
    Helper bee

    Nope. This sounds exactly like my friend of 20+ years. She was supposed to be one of my bridesmaids and I just cut other off completely last week. She parties nonstop and couldn’t find time to do anything wedding related with me (she doesn’t have a job and goes to school part-time. She’s 27 going on 21). I feel a huge weight off of my shoulders after I cut her out of my life. 

    Post # 8
    1563 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Definitely not. You’ve been giving and giving and all she seems to do is take. That is not a healthy friendship. I think it’s just time to cut it off completely and end the friendship.

    Post # 9
    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I can sympathize because I have a hard time “writing friends off”.  My mantra to help is to sure that I am surrounded by people who have a positive impact on my life.  While I would never go out of my way to hurt anyone, it’s important that I don’t keep pursuing friendships that ultimately just drag me down or cause hurt due to the lack of reciprocation.  There are too many wonderful people in this world to spend time on those that don’t add to your life.

    In your shoes, I likely wouldn’t attend the shower but would send a card and a small gift since I would truly wish her well through her pregnancy.  If ever in the future she did start to show signs of the old personality then I’d welcome her back, but I’d stop reaching out.

    Post # 10
    919 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    No.  I would send a card with a gift card or something but you seem to be a big giver and she has turned into a big taker.  You dont need someone like that in your life- espeically since it keeps getting worse.

    Post # 11
    3394 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @MissLunchbox:  The death of a friendship is a hard pill to swallow, but you have to face facts. Friendship is not a one-sided affair. This woman is not your friend anymore.

    Post # 12
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I wouldn’t. It sucks to end a friendship, but it sounds like this one is already over. 

    Post # 13
    3570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @jadlnc:  +1 

    It’s sad, and I know part of you wants to go, but I would skip it. 

    Post # 14
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Cut her loose.

    Post # 15
    239 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    It doesn’t really seem like she’s interested in your friendship given her response to you pouring your heart out to her.  I wouldn’t give her the time of day.  Have some dignity, decline the invitation, send her a gift out of courtesy, and break ties.  

    Unfortunately, people change and you cannot continue to live in the past in hopes that she’ll come around.  If she does change her mind one day about her behavior and truly wants to rekindle the friendship, she’ll reach out to you.

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