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So, I was just talking to my friend who is potentially taking a vacation to Egypt without her long-term BF. She asked me if I would go with a group of girls if my FI had 0 interest in going. I said I probably would not go on a vacation without him because we like to travel together and it would be such a huge expense for one of us that I would feel guilty. She asked a couple of her married friends and apparently we are split down the middle about who would go and who would not. So what about you? Would you take a long vacation without your FI/Husband? (Just for clarification we're not talking about weekend/local trips).
I probably would :) We've got our life together, we can miss a couple months here and there :)
I definitely would. And although we aren't married yet we both have taken long trips without each other. I went to Italy/Greece for a month and a half and then a year later he went to Thailand for a month. Although we will take majority of vacations together I will definitely be open to us continuing separate vacations, its a totally different experience to go on a "girls" or"guys" vacation as we both did compared to a couples vacation. We both love to travel and won't pass up an opportunity that comes along and never hold eachother back.
Hell yeah! I'd be game for a week away with my girlfriends somewhere. If he doesn't want to go, he's missing out =]
I wouldn't feel a lick guilty, either!
(i could never do a month simply because i don't get that kind of time at work!).
Also--we've spent up to 8 months apart....so uh, a week? not a biggie =]
No, I'd feel guilty. I'll probably do it when we have a kid though. I can imagine taking the kid to stay with my family who live overseas for several weeks, while DH would probably prefer doing something else with his vacation time.
I would probably do a weekend trip, but any longer and I just wouldn't enjoy it as much if he weren't there.
PS - A poll would work really well here...
i'd go! as long as he didnt mind. i dont think i could stand to be away much longer than a week though.
As long as it's okay with him I'd go. I think independence within a relationship is healthy.
I sure would! I would enjoy myself too...LOL. I think all girl, all guy trips have a different vibe to them than "couple" trips.
@Belle2Be: My mom used to take my little bro and I to my grandparents for a few weeks in the summer. My dad couldn't take the time off. We all did a-ok being apart. :)
To answer the OP's question... HECK YES! I have (and still do) go on vacations without him. FI doesn't really like to travel and I LOOOVE it, so I will take trips with my girlfriends.
I stayed a month in Italy while he stayed home. I missed him terribly, but I had a blast and would do it again in a heartbeat!
I would say no. I would miss my DH too much, and I would prefer to do something like that with him. = )
@Belle2Be: I really don't know. He's not crazy about kids yet so I'm curious how things will be when he becomes a father. I would think he'd kind of enjoy the guy alone time one in a while though. When I was a kid I stayed for several weeks at my grandparents' homes for summer vacations and I don't think either of my parents had a problem with that.
Definitely! I took a couple of long trips w/o DH before we were married, and I'd do it again now. If taking the trip meant that DH and I couldn't later go on a trip together, then I'd probably wait and travel with him. Otherwise, however, I'd go and he'd want me to.
100%
All my girlfriends are planning a vacation for our 30th birthdays.
A couple weeks guaranteed... anything longer and I would have to think harder about it and it would depend on circumstances
I was recently home for a week wedding planning and on about day 5 I just wanted to see him again. I don't know what I'd do if I was gone for a month. Additional question, if your husband was DYING to go somewhere and you had no interest in it, would you go with him or let him go on his own. I think I'd suck it up and go.
@meliss: Ah. Well, don't plan on it for sure, LOL, my guy can't stand being away from the kids any more than I can (which surprised me(in a good way!)) :D
Right now, yes. In a heart beat! We like to travel together, but he doesn't always have the time off of work due to health reasons and using all of his days for multiple surgeries.
In about 8 months.... no. Hopefully our baby will be here, and I wouldn't want to leave.
I have a friend who is going to Europe for about 10 days. She's leaving her one year old at home with her hubby. I just can't see myself wanting to do that.
I voted no because like you said I would also feel bad about spending so much money on just me.
@LGenz: Maintaining my individual personality and life is important to me. Before we met my SO loved to travel with the boys since they all live in different cities. A few of them would literally vacation every month or two. Since we've been together he may go once every three or four months. I have no problem with it, I enjoy the personal time and it makes our relationship stronger. He always makes time for me and we vacation often as well. Why not?
Sooo, I'm the "friend" who wants to go to Egypt... I just feel like I shouldn't have to miss out on doing something just because he doesn't want to, nor should I hold him back from doing something I don't want to... IDK, different strokes for different folks, I guess. It is really interesting to see everyone's point of views though!!
I think it depends on the relationship dynamic.
I said no, because my FH and I like to travel and explore new places together. If it was a place that we both had been to together, and one didn't want to go again, we would think about it. But knowing our relationship, we would probably just compromise and go somewhere else.
Absolutely! I went to France last year for 10 days with my 2 best girl friends. I say do it while you can! And I hope I can still do it later on too :) Of course, finances and other responsibilities and plans play a big role in determining if it's feasible.
I think it's great to spend time bonding with friends outside the context of your relationship with your SO. Travel is a fantastic way to do that. I took a trip to Florida (beach + Disney World) with friends a little over a year ago because I was off work and my husband didn't have enough vacation time (since he and I had just gone on a 2-week trip to Greece).
But, I'd consider heavily what impact the trip would have on my husband. In the case of the Florida trip, I'd just taken a trip with him. I would hesitate before going on a trip with just friends if it meant that my husband wasn't able to go on a trip at all for a long time (due to me not having time off work to do both a trip with him and a trip with friends), or if we couldn't pay for my friends-trip in addition to a trip with him.
Yep! I usually go to Florida once a year (for a week) to visit one of my best friends.
I get a nice amount of vaca time at work, while my husband doesn't. That's the main reason why I'd go places without him. When he has time off, he'd rather spend it going somewhere we both want to go, rather than traveling to visit my friends.
I voted "other". At this time and date, no, I would not go on an a long vacation without my husband. We just spent the last 2 1/2 years apart. The first 10 months we were married, we saw eachother twice, so we're pretty much inseparable right now. lol Give us a few years, and I'm sure we'll be jumping at the chance to take a vacation without eachother. LOL
@LGenz: I would go with him. It's in my nature to become interested in things that he's interested in, because I feel like it's important for me to make an effort on his behalf. And I usually find that when I try to see his point of view (why he wants to go there so bad) or when I educate myself on the topic/place at hand, there is always something I am able to find interesting.
It also gives me a leg to stand on when I want to do something that he's not really interested in doing.
I said no....if it was a month etc. deff not. We are tight on cash and he has never really travelled so for me to go to say, Egypt, for a month without him and spending money would be pretty harsh
BUT
If it was a week or weekend..i would go for sure! :)
I would say definitely YES as long as 1) it was some place he had no interest in going and 2) it would not hurt us financially. I'm a bigger traveler than FI is and he actually doesn't like to take more than 1 trip per year. If we had the money I'd love to do a girl's trip in addition to our annual vacation. My good friend is kind of my travel buddy and we love going places together so we plan to keep doing that. :)
One trip I know we have semi-planned for our mid-life crisis. She and I both really want to go do a safari to Africa and FI has NO interest... so whenever the two of us have the money to go we're totally going to!
I should also state that when we were dating (and serious) I went to Thailand for month without him! but thats when we were just BF and GF and finances were seperate..it was hard trip as i missed him and wished he could have shared all those experiences with me but i wouldnt take back my independence trip for anything :)
I would go on a weekend trip with girlfriends but definitely not a longer vacation. We like to spend free time together and my husband has his own business so he rarely gets to take off many days in a row, so I would want any long vacation to be with him.
I also just realized the OP was about a long term BF. We did take vacations apart while we were dating. After getting married everything is more combined in my brain for some reason; vacations, finances etc.
I have taken a 3+ week trip abroad every year we've been together except this one... so... heck ya! Especially before marriage. Now that we are married I think each trip has to be evaluated on its own basis.
I vote yes and no. LOL. FI is gone from March-September, so I would definitely go over that time period where he is out of town anyway.
But, if he were home, I would say no.
I travel for work, so I don't get to see my hubby often. But, there was a tme I went to Europe with some girlfriends for almost a month, and he didn't go. It was the girls!
But, its cool ... he did it with his guys to Hawaii. I think its healthy to have a life outside of your marriage life. (within reason of course) IMO
I am in the middle of planning a trip without my SO. We have two kids together and every summer I go visit my family for two weeks, usually without him if he is working. So in my eyes, thats like a vacation for him! Two weeks with no responsibilities would be a vacation for m, even if i had to stay at home lol! So, my SO is planning for me to go away with some girlfriends for a week. I'm so excited. I get to pick anywhere in the world!!
Yes I would. I am planning a trip to Turkey next month and he's not coming. Sometimes I go to visit famiily for a week. I've never gone longer than a week but I don't think he'd mind. He visits his friends every year for about 4-5 days and I don't mind. Now, a month, that's pushing it but I would be rearing to go!! There was a pp who asked about kids, um, if I could, I would not mind leaving my kids with their grandparents for the summer. My sibs and I bounced around a lot of relatives during the holidays and we loved it. And I think my parents loved the breather :)
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