Post # 1
I’m just curious. My wife and I are planning to have a big family ceremony and reception in November. We eloped to New York 10/24/12. Long story, but we’re having a big wedding now. Anyway, the venue we love is rather expensive. The only way we could make if work is if we do it on a weekday or maybe Sunday. Though, Sunday is still thousands of dollars more than a weekday would be. I’m rambling, sorry.
So, would you drive for 3+ hours to attend a wedding on a Sunday or a weekday?
I made it so you can pick more than one answer 🙂 Also, I’d really love to know your reasons for picking yes or no. Thanks so much for your help bees!!!!
Post # 3
Sunday, yes. Sunday night, prefer not to. I’d go for Sunday night over a weekday. But your people love you and they wont care so do what works for you!
Post # 4
There is no way, no way, I’d drive over 3 hours on a weekday for a wedding. Ok, well, maybe for my sister, but that’s it. That’s just way too much of an inconvernience just for your perfect venue. I wouldn’t mind the drive on a sunday for a close family member or friend.
You must consider what is more important to you:
1. saving money (weekday), less guests (because of the drive/day), 1st choice venue
2. spending a few thousand more, more guests attending (sunday), 1st choice venue
Post # 5
For a certain group of people (who I can count on one hand), yes. Otherwise no. I don’t really love to attend large weddings as it is and the inconvenience would be the deciding factor here.
Post # 6
@curlymama318: YES..Any excuse for a Sunday outing.I would take Monday off work…
Post # 7
@curlymama318: Saturday > Sunday afternoon > Sunday evening > weekday.
SO and I are attending a Sunday wedding (several hours each way) for two very close friends. I probably wouldn’t drive 6 hrs round trip on a Sunday or weekday for an acquaintance though.
Post # 8
I would drive 3 hrs any day to attend a love ones weddings but by loved one I mean close family and friends. But sorry I would not drive 3 hrs on week day or Sunday to attend a wedding celebration (with no actual wedding) unless it was immediate family or my BFF.
Post # 9
With a 3 hour drive it would have to be a close friend or family member. My Fiance and I have pretty flexible schedules subject to scheduled court appearances but it’s still difficult to do a Sunday night or weekday when you’re looking at 6 hours of travel time combined. My ranking is Sunday > Sunday Night > Weekday. Honestly, even if it was on a Saturday with a 3 hour drive I would be looking to spend the night so that means I’m essentially looking at being “out” for a day and a half.
If it’s earlier in the day and we were reasonably close then I’d make the effort just to do the drive in one day so Sunday morning/afternoon would be my first choice of the options. Sunday night would require a little more thinking but if I was close enough to you to be willing to shell out for a hotel if it was Saturday then I’d probably still make it happen and plan to be back for the second half of Monday. A weekday would require you to be my best friend or close family. That said, if it was on a Friday where I had the weekend as a buffer then I’d be more willing to go (though I imagine this doesn’t count as one of the savings days).
6 hours roundtrip is just a long drive to do in one day with a wedding inbetween. The closest people to you will do their best to make it no matter when you have it but if you want a “big” wedding in the sense of a lot of people then it’ll probably be a choice between that or your dream venue if you’re looking at Sunday night or a weekday.
Post # 10
Would not take off on a weekday for anyone but my brother or possibly one of my three best friends. Would drive on a Sunday for anyone I knew.
Post # 11
@deucesarewild1: @HeMadeMeWantTo: @joya_aspera: @Kimy: @somethingaquamarine:
@distracts: What about on a Friday?
@j_jaye: There will be an actual wedding. Like I said, it’s a long story. Would you go on a Friday instead?
@Ribbit: Friday’s not an option at the venue I was referring to. But it is at another one we’re considering, that’s just as long of a drive.
Thank you all for your input!
Post # 12
@curlymama318: Yup, I would take off a Friday for a friends wedding.
Post # 13
Honestly? No. Sorry. Not on a regular Sunday, and not if they were already married or not… my literal BFF or EXTREMELY close family member. I go to bed at like 9:30, and I just wouldn’t be able to swing it with my job.
I totally get your point about saving money and everything. We did a Sunday evening party for our anniversary reception (we got married alone too), but it was a holiday weekend so the families that came from out of town were making a mini vacation out of it. My family was all less than 30 minutes.
We also had less than a 50% acceptance rate. That was fine with us, and we were happy to save money and get to spend a genuine amount of time with everyone there, but we got a lot of “no’s.”
Post # 14
@curlymama318: I think if you’re looking at late afternoon/evening wedding then Friday is a great option. That lets you work the first half of the day (assuming you have a start time of about 4pm or later) and have the weekend if you want to spend the night or just recover from a big event. If that was the case I’d go as long as there wasn’t anything scheduled that afternoon I couldn’t get out of. Friday also just feels like a more “celebratory” day. I’d be more inclined to cut loose on a Friday than a Sunday or weekday instead of ducking out after the cake cutting and stuff.
Post # 15
If we were close yes. But it would depend if we weren’t.
Post # 16
I can work from home when I want so, yes, I would. I would not stay out very late since it is a work night.