Post # 1
Our reception is going to be over by 6pm. We were thinking of having an after party get together at a local pub. How owuld you feel about this? This wouldn’t be part of the wedding, so it would be pay your own. FI’s friend said that it was rude to invite people to the bar and expect them to pay for their drinks, but I’m looking at it like another night out at the bar with friends. We would buy a round of drinks for our Irish toast, but other than that folks would be on their own if they chose to come out later in the night with us. Would you be irritated?
Post # 3
For our close friends, I’d definitely go. For acquaintances and extended family that I wasn’t really close to; I’d probably decline the invite. I personally don’t think it’s rude, and think it’s find to extend an invite – to which the guest has the option to decline.
Post # 4
Wouldn’t be irritated at all. I’ve gone to afterparties and have had to pay for my drinks. I mean, I already had a meal and other drinks for free, so what’s a couple drinks to buy? I say go for it.
Post # 5
Last May, fiance and I attended a friends wedding (actually I attended, he was actually in the wedding.) The reception was over around 10pm, and the hotel the wedding party was staying at had an awesome bar, so all the “young people” headed there after the reception.(everyone was invited but only the “young people” showed up) It was a really good time, and everyone totally expected to pay their own way. I don’t think it’s rude at all. I think it’s a great way to spend the evening. We almost had a better time at the after party than we did at the reception 🙂
Post # 6
Absolutely we would go (and no we wouldn’t be irritated at all)! And to be honest, I think I had more fun at our after party than I did at our reception! It was at the bar at the hotel that we stayed at and it was a lot of fun. We didn’t provide drinks or anything and it was really informal, but with our group of friends, there’s almost always an after party after every wedding we attend!
EDIT: Oh, and we also didn’t send out formal invites. It was sort of one of those things we spread through word of mouth that we would be in the bar at the hotel after the wedding if anyone wanted to join us.
Post # 7
I don’t find that rude. If it was a close friend I’d go.
Post # 9
Nope I see it how you do. I would most likely go, would depend who the couple was.
Post # 10
I think it sounds like fun.
Post # 11
all of the after parties that I have been to are either pay for your own drinks or they are in a suite in the hotel and some drinks/food are provided, but if you wanted more to drink, you brought it. we love to party in our group, so after parties are fabulous! i just think you can’t expect everyone to attend-and as with everything, you can’t please everyone. if your friends/family like to have a good time and you want to keep celebrating i say go for it! 🙂
Post # 12
I would go for sure. Are you having dinner and drinks at your actual wedding?
Post # 13
Yes I would go, and no I would not be irritated. If I received an actual invite in the mail for the afterparty and I had to pay for myself I might get a little annoyed but if it is word of mouth that is fine.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t be irritated at all. Actually, this is like a tradition in my family. I don’t think I’ve been to a wedding without a big group of us going to either the hotel bar or someone’s hotel room after. Receptions end too early for us I guess!
Post # 15
If it’s a good friend, sure! I was a bridesmaid back in September, and the whole wedding party and most of the other young people actually kind of created our own. The bride and groom had already left to go do their thing, but the rest of us went to the hotel pub and stayed out for another five hours. It was awesome.
I went to another one with similar timing to yours a couple years ago. The bride and groom actually did come to this after party – but the wedding was also in Japan, where an after party is traditional. It was a good time!
Post # 16
I’m sorta doing this. We’re having a short ceremony and then a cocktail/Hors d’œuvre reception type thing. it’ll end around 9pm – ish. Then I’ve booked a pub with a few bands, including my Fiance’s brothers band, and we’ll finish the party off their.
I’m leaving it open, if people want to come they can, if they’re old, or party poopers, they can go home. They’ve already seen the wedding, and eaten the food and had a few drinks on me. The pub is for anyone who wants to get their party on.
I was worried too about whether people thought it would be tacky, but I’m not having a dance, and this is way more “us” than a dance anyway.