(Closed) would you go to an out of town bachelorette party…

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Would you go to an out of town bachelorette party if you weren't a bridesmaid?
    Yes, of course! Bridesmaid status doesn't matter : (31 votes)
    39 %
    Maybe, if I could afford it and it wasn't too much of a hassle : (42 votes)
    53 %
    No way Jose! : (6 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    5075 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Depends –

    how far away? and how close is my friendship with the bride?

    In your situation I wouldn’t go.  

    Post # 4
    2105 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m always down for a girls night out, so there’s no way I’d say no!  lol

    Post # 5
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would (assuming I could afford it). Of the five girls that traveled for my bachelorette only 2 were bms.

    Post # 6
    1415 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I would only go if I wanted to, but I would feel absolutely no obligation to go. It sounds like the invitation was as a courtesy, so you can very easily decline. 

    Post # 7
    4466 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would!  At my bachelorette party, a couple girls traveled that weren’t bridesmaids.  And they were excited to do so, it seemed.  I’m planning my sister’s out of town party, and two of the girls attending are not BMs. 

    Post # 8
    842 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    If you’re friends with her, I say go, regardless of not being a bridesmaid.  My bachelorette party is going to be out of town for everyone.  We’re having the shower and bachelorette on the same day in my hometown, which is right in the middle of where my extended family, and where FI’s family lives.  I have a fairly small bridal party – 3 bridesmdaids (including FSIL) and 1 man of honor.  I have a bunch of other good friends that are invited and I really want to go.  I intentionally kept my bridal party small, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have other friends.  Or that I’d want a bachelorette party with only 4 other people.


    Post # 9
    1488 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’ve been to several bach parties where I was not in the bridal party and still had a blast! A bach party isn’t just for the bridal party. I say go and have a great time!

    PS I have spent almost $300 on a friend’s bach party so I don’t find $100 to be bad at all. I am willing to do a lot for those I care about, otherwise I wouldn’t do it ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 10
    14337 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If I’m good friends with this person, bm status wouldnt matter.  And I’d love an excuse for a girls weekend away!  $100 doesnt seem too bad, you could easily spend that even within your own town.  I dont see the expense as just for the bride, its fun for me too.

    Post # 11
    685 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I did.  I was an “honorary” bridesmaid….I hate that term.  We went to Nashville, which was 7 hours away, but I know that they would go for me!  

    Post # 12
    637 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Depends on how you do financially and how close you are with the bride. 

    I think the only out of town bachelorette party I have been to is for a friend of mine whose wedding (DW) I won’t be able to attend.  So I shelled out a few hundred dollars to fly to LA and spend the weekend with the girls.   That is way more than I would’ve given for anyone’s wedding.  But I rarely go on vacations with girls so I treated it as a getaway.

    I won’t do it if I am not close to the bride honestly.  I will go to the bridal shower if they still have one but that’s about it.  And you know, for a Out of Town party, usually they start off a list of 10-20 girls on the invitation list and usually wind up like 5 are going anyways.  So no need to feel obligated to go if you don’t want to. 

    Post # 13
    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Yep! Doesn’t matter if I’m a Bridesmaid or Best Man or not, if the bride is a friend, I will go to her party if its OFT. Now, if I have to get on a plane, prob not. But if its a couple hours away, then def!

    Post # 14
    2233 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It really depends on the cost & the friend. I’m in a wedding this year and I’m not attending the bachelorette most likely because it’s way too expensive ($800-1000 pp!) and it’s Out of Town for everyone, we all live in the same city.

    Post # 16
    1870 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I usually go becuase if I am invited then I am usually a pretty close friend of the bride. That being said I have been invited to some that I have not attended becuase it was a bad weekend for me. I say do what you think is best.

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