Post # 1
I have 2 best friends who are currently pregnant. By the time the wedding comes around their children will be 6-7 months. My Destination Wedding is in Cabo. Money and travel expense is not a problem but leaving their infants might be. Both of them have both sets of grandparents to babysit if need be.
One will be a first time parent, the other one will have a 3 year old daughter.
What would you do?
1. Would decline the wedding – couldn’t leave my infant for that long
2. I would go solo and leave Husband at home to care for infant
3. We would both go and leave child at home with grandparents
4. We would both go AND bring child to Mexico
Post # 3
@Lily_of_the_valley: I absolutely would not leave my infant for a wedding. Best friend or not, my family comes first. Especially if they are still breast feeding, I can’t imagine many mothers leaving their babies so soon whether it is their first, second, or tenth. Being able to afford it isn’t the most important part.
Post # 4
I’m sorry about the format – it’s crazy today!
Post # 5
@BoxerLady: thank you for your input! One of my friends will most definitely still be breast-feeding. She breastfed her daughter for 15 monhts. A little extreme but whatever!
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
6-7 month olds are integrating in solid foods so they don’t drink as much breast milk and you could theorectically stock up before leaving and only leave for 2-3 days. I think that is the perfect time to take a mini-vacation without baby but lots of moms don’t like leaving their infants under the age of 2 so it really depends on your friends. If you really want a Destination Wedding, plan it but know that your two friends may not be able to afford to attend or they may choose not to because they don’t want to leave their babies.
Post # 7
For a best friend option I would definitely attend so 1, 2 & 3 are all possible depending on the situation.
Post # 8
@Lily_of_the_valley: That is a long time to breast feed, lol.
It isn’t that I wouldn’t want to go, but it just doesn’t seem the responsible thing to do with a new baby. It wouldn’t be much fun to bring the baby along either as s/he can’t really do much yet. If it was a toddler we were talking about, I’d definitely go and bring the child along!
Post # 9
We would come, but we’d bring the baby with us.
Post # 10
I probably wouldn’t go because I don’t think I would want/be able to leave him/her (breast feeding, first baby, etc). I probably wouldn’t feel comfortable taking a baby to Mexico at that age either. I guess it really depends on how good of a friend they are. I have 2 friends that I would really, really try to be there for no matter what. Other friends….probably not.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We would either decline or bring our child with us. Cabo, from the east coast, is a long plane ride. So I would have to think long and hard about whether or not I would want to bring a baby on that kind of journey. But yeah, being a plan ride away from my infant would be a non-starter.
Post # 12
If we could bring the baby we’d definitely come. I wouldn’t want to go with my fi & wouldn’t leave a baby under 1.
Post # 13
I would leave the baby at home with the grandparents and go as long as I wasn’t gone too long.
Post # 14
I would either decline or take the baby with me.
Post # 15
I’d probably bring the baby.
Post # 16
I would welcome the vacation and let my child spend some time with their grandparents.