Would you go to this baby shower?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Would you attend a baby shower under these circumstances?
    Suck it up and Go : (35 votes)
    15 %
    Skip it : (192 votes)
    82 %
    Other- please explain below : (7 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Nope. If there is bad blood between you all then why would you attend an event that you’re only being invited to because they want gifts?

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Um no I would not be attending such a shower.

    Post # 6
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    13004 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Why bother….

    Post # 7
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    1652 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    You could go, be pleasant, and give a small gift?

    Post # 8
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    13004 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @Mrsluckywife:   That crossed my mind too, but then crazy SIL would probably just talk more crap about how cheap they are that they “only” got so and so instead of fancy designer gift she REALLY wanted.

    Post # 9
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    2720 posts
    Sugar bee

    I wouldn’t go but I would send a small gift. Something worth $20. At least you sent them something. They can’t say that you didn’t.

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @odynsmom:  They will get what they need for the baby.  One way or another.  I guess, the questions is, will you not attending propegate the bad blood and give them another excuse to treat you and DH porrly?  It might be worth it to turn the other cheek on this one.  Just get them an inexpensive yet neccessary gift and make a polite and brief appearance.

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Do you live in the same town, or nearby? I guess I would just go, unless you have to travel. I don’t think skipping it will improve your relationship, but going might. 

    Post # 12
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    Blushing bee

    Send a gift for the baby’s sake, but skip the shower. Based on what you posted about their relationship with money, I would not send cash though.

     

    Post # 13
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    2684 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    If you think the atmosphere will be tense and miserable, don’t go. If it were me I’d still send a moderate gift either way.

    Post # 14
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    1312 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    That’s crazy! I would still attend but not go overboard with a gift though.  Regardless of drama, you are a bigger person and sometimes it’s best to choose your battles.

    My FI nephews’ SIL was pregnant again recently with a second boy 1.5 years after she had a first boy and she could reuse most with the second one, however instead she send everyone invitations to a baby shower that she threw herself but on invitations she put her sisters name so that it would look like her sister threw it for her. Her sister didn’t find out till after LOL

    It’s crazy stuff!

     

    You have to think… One day you might be having a baby shower and I am sure you will be happy to see everyone there.

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @odynsmom:  Thats true. I would probably just send them a small gift – something necessary though, not something expensive that they don’t really need. I still wouldn’t attend though when it sounds like they wouldn’t give you the same courtesy.

    Post # 16
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    1760 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Honestly, I would send some things from mil’s stash of baby stuff that’s cleaned up. Check out their registry and see what they are looking for and find comparable things. Or send a small something to them… Like a pack of diapers & wipes. That they will need. 

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