Would you go to this wedding and/or bridal shower?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Would you go to this wedding and/or bridal shower?
    Go to both wedding and shower to avoid family drama : (0 votes)
    Go the wedding but not the shower. Bring gift to wedding only. : (10 votes)
    50 %
    Go to the shower but not the wedding. Bring gift to the shower only. : (0 votes)
    Don't go to either but send a gift for both : (10 votes)
    50 %
  • Post # 3
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    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    You barely know her; and she hasn’t sent you an invite. As of right now, I wouldn’t plan on going, especially since you don’t want to.

    Post # 4
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    4511 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Maybe I didnt read your post close enough, but I guess I dont understand why you would go to either event OR send a gift!  (especially if you arent invited!)

    Post # 5
    Member
    1788 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Don’t go to anything, send one gift for everything. She’s practically a stranger, why bother doing anything more? 

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    4760 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Wait for an invite.  Don’t go if you don’t get one. Go if you do.  I do think you’re being overly bitter and a bit drama-queen though.  So just forget about it.  If an invite comes great, if not great.  Really it’s not worth this stress.

    Post # 8
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    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @mseagles:  If they don’t invite your DH, don’t go. You will be mad at yourself if you do.

    As for gifts, it’s polite and gracious to send one but never necessary. If you feel it’s necessary, I would only send a wedding gift.

    Post # 9
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    1706 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I think you need to add to the poll – don’t go and don’t send a gift.

    Why on earth if you haven’t even been sent an invite to either would you send anything?

    Post # 10
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    123 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    IF you get invited I would decline. Its not like you are excited to go to anyway and I dont think your cousin will be that sad if you dont show up. If it is really killing you to send something send a crap $25 dollar gift and call it a day. I wouldnt send anything though. You’re just doing it to be nice, but will they even notice with all the gifts they get? 

    Post # 11
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    7195 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @mseagles:  “An invitation to cousin’s bridal shower came to my house but it was addressed  to MY SISTER. I didn’t open it but saw my cousin’s name through the envelope and  assumed it was for the shower. I did not recognize the return address and didn’t want to call my sister  about it so I just put “return to sender – does not live here” on the envelope.”

    That was being deliberately being difficult. How hard was it to send it to your sister?

    I would not attend the shower (too far) but I would attend the wedding if I got an invite.

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