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Bees,
Hello, This is just something that my FI and I have discussed. Now Im not looking to start a debate about hunting, etc., Im just curious how u hunter brides and/or brides who have FI's that hunt, are handling these kinds of things.
My FI shot this deer when he was a teen, ate the meat but preserved the head for hanging. It is a nice buck and hes very attached to it. He has had it hanging in his living room for as long as he has moved out of his moms house. Plus beer signs etc. All kinds of bachelor items. I told him that kind of stuff, the signs and the head goes in a den, study or a game room. Not a living room. Plus when we get married we will be in an apartment, a two bedroom apartment and I dont mind that he keeps it, but I really dont want it in the living room, having it so promenate, and its huge, it would overtake a small apartment living room. I was telling him I would prefer all of it to go in the 2nd bedroom,(which will work as a storage room,etc) and then when we move into a home, it will go into one of the rooms I have already mentioned.
I just went on Facebook and I saw that he posted this question. "Should a deer head hang in the living room"? One of his friends responded with a big "NO". lol So far loving the responses.
I know lots of hunters,etc.,but I have not seen any of them put something like this in a living room.
Oh and he told me that he doesnt mind putting all the other 'guy stuff' in the 2nd bedroom, so this deer head is the last obstacle.
So bees, if you do preserve a trophy deer head, would you put it in your living room? Again, this is not supposed to start a debate about whether hunting is bad or not, so please no posts that may start a debate. :)
Thanks hunting bees.
@Earlybride: For the reasons you stated, I would say no. I like your idea of putting it in the 2nd room, as his sort of man-cave decoration, and ultimately some kind of basement or extra room. It might be too controversial for future guests.
I have no objection to hunting. My fiance doesn't hunt (largely, I suspect, as he's deeply uncoordinated and probably a rubbish shot) but his dad does.
We just haven't got a house that would be appropriate to hang trophies in.
Anyway, to your question, I'd probably have it put in a second room largely because there are some people who do object to trophies and I'd rather not make them feel uncomfortable in our living/sitting room.
I made my SO a man cave. That's where I put his. I found cheap, decent couches, we put an extra tv in there, mini fridge, and all his John Wayne pictures, street signs, video games, etc. He really loves it.
2nd bedroom, definitely. Every hunter I've known (including my dad) has put their trophies in the basement. I think for your possible guests' piece of mind, out of sight might definitely be best.
Well, I grew up with animal heads (albeit more exotic than deer) and pelts on the walls of my house and my relatives houses. My grandfather, dad and uncles took semi-frequent trips to Africa to go on safaris and proudly displayed what they came back with. I really don't think much of it. It's not my taste but I wouldn't give it a second glance, either.
In your situation, because you don't want it there, no, don't hang it there. I think the second room is a great compromise.
I think the second bedroom is a great compromise. I am from the bush backwoods ontario and I only ever known one family to have deer heads in their living room but it was a cathedral celling living room that was huge. Mostly everyone else I know hangs that type of stuff in their rec-rooms.
I would say if it is anywhere from a small to medium-large living room, don't put it in there! They tend to overtake any room they are in, so they just look odd in small living rooms.
I married the biggest. hunter. EVER. I'm sitting in the living room now. In front of me? Turkey fan. To the right? Deer head.
Now, I've taken most of his junk off the wall so the deer head doesn't bother me. The turkey fan will go soon.
One of our guests bedrooms has THREE turkey fans on the wall.
sigh.
@sunshine_kar:Thats what I plan on doing for him when we buy a home! His getaway so to speack.lol
@expecting rain:Yes, u can get away with this if you have a huge wall(like your relative),etc., but not in a small apartment. And I have only seen these kinds of things in a basement, gameroom, den, study, etc. Totally agree with u.
I think my FI and I are close to agreeing on this.
define "living room." some people have two separate rooms that might function as that... a more formal sitting room that they rarely use, and a more cozy room with a tv. The room with the tv, perhaps. The more formal room, no.
HELL TO THE NO! That's exactly one more reason he needs to marry you! So you can help with his decoration skills....lol
I agree it's not really a "living room" item (unless you live in a log cabin). It's more of a rec-room, man-cave, etc. sort of item.
And this is coming from someone who hunts. My dad shot a trophy buck, #4 in the state at the time, he sold the rack when we were low on money and it's now displayed in a St. Louis Bass Pro shop. But when he still owned it, it was never in the living room, always in a secondary room.
We had a cabin on a lake (as children) that we went to on weekends and it had deer heads all over the walls. EVERYWHERE.
They fit in because it was a hunting cabin.
Unless the rest of the home has a "rustic" type feel to it, the deer head would look out of place. Kitschy.
I wouldn't get rid of it, though. I think they are cool. I'm all for the man cave idea.
hell no.... and tell him straight up "honey, if we ever divorce i promise you, i will never ever fight you for that butt ugly dead animal head thats going to be stored in the garage"
:)
Well as a person that lives in Northern Idaho, I am used to seeing dear heads and the like in the living room... of houses, however in a little apartment I don't think it would be good in the living room...
Luckily, my FB's family only keep the antlers, not the whole head, I find mounted heads to be a bit gross. Our families only hunt for meat and the harvest is shared equally amongst the families. Yes the mounted anthlers are in the living room.
Honestly, I'd hang a deer head in NO room of my house...not even if the deer had personally mothered my DH and saved him from a burning building. Depending on my frame of mind when I encounter them they range from terrifying to gross to simple confusion as to why someone else thinks a severed head makes good decor. Sorry.
Yeah....my dad used to have some antlers hung in the living room and he'd hang his hats on it. However, I'd seriously suggest another room especially since it's the full head.
I'm dealing with the same thing right now. What we've decided is the house that we're moving into right now all his mounts will go in the "Man Cave" but we're builiding a log home hopefully and I don't have as much of an issue with them being out in the open in a log home. I would definitely say in your apartment DO NOT put it in the living room :)
@Melini: Exactly what you said.
Under no curcimstance would a preserved animal head be used to decorate any area of my home. No way, not even maybe.
Personally, I would hang that bad boy either in the garage or the basement. But that's mostly because the idea of seeing part of a dead animal hanging from my wall weirds me out, and I don't often go into the garage or basement. Removing my personal bias as much as feasible, from a decor perspective, I can't imagine putting a deer head in the living room. That seems like more of a den or man cave sort of thing.
I grew up with 2 deer heads in our house. For a while they were in my parent's bedroom, then in the hallway leading to the utility room. We never had a house big enough to have a "den", "office", or whatever, because there were too many kids and we all needed the bedrooms.
Anyway, after my older siblings were moved out, they converted the two downstairs bedrooms back into a family room, and our living room became the dining room.
They decorated the new family room in a fishing/hunting/outdoorsy theme, and the deer heads went in there.
In this case, they decorated around my dad's interest, so the deer heads fit right in- they hang on either side of the entertainment center.
But, just to have a deer head in a room when the rest of the room isn't decorated in a rustic/outdoory way? Yeah, not into that.
We have one in our living room right now. I keep telling him mine is going to be bigger! So no I definately dont mind it where it is. Its takes a lot of patience and skill, why not be proud of it?!
@Beluga: LMAO
Will someone please post a picture of their mount in the bathroom? Bonus points if it's facing the toilet! (This means all the more to me because I was just at my mom's friend's house and her wall opposite the toilet had a painting of an emu looking through a window. No joke. I was speechless.)
As far as deer heads in living rooms go, that's very unlikely in my house. Hides I don't mind, but it would have to be pretty freaking special to be out and about. Man cave all the way. Fortunately, I'm pretty sure J is on the same page. Even if he's not, it's not a huge risk. I'd love for him to get an elk but I would make him put in for a cow anyways.
As far as I'm concerned, for us this is a bachelor home vs. married home issue. My FI is a big gamer and has tried to make arguments for having gaming posters in our living room or kitchen (I'm sorry, just because it's a poster of a sandwhich doesn't mean it's appropriate in our kitchen). We've come to an agreement that we have to decide together what goes in most of the apartment, and he can put whatever he wants in his den/office. If neither of us likes it, it doesn't go in our shared living space.
My FI hunts and I have no problem with him keeping trophies because he knows that he is not to bring anything into the house! He keeps his in the garage and is fine with it, the only thing that ever came into the house was a possum skin that he preserved (no head or anything) and we ended up giving it to his mum.
I say go with the second bedroom idea.
I will do it. Someone send me a damn deer head and I will mount that bad boy in the bathroom. It sounds like some of you have a few extras lying around.
Come at me, bro.
Actually i hunt myself. Not as much as hubby but still a lot. But there is no way there will be a deer head in any view of our visitors. Or even for myself for that matter, i do not like sitting and relaxing on a couch and a head is staring at me!
@Beluga: I thoroughly enjoy your posts. Alas, if only I had an extra deer head.
Eh, not really a living room item. My grandpa was a deer-hunter and had 3 preserved heads. They had this 70s-tastic man-cave basement with dark wood paneling, a bar, a pool table and the deer heads. He seemed pretty happy with it.
DH's hobbies are nerdier (computers and music) and he has the smallest bedroom in our 3 bedroom house (the other 2 being our room and our soon-to-be nursery) and he had all his amps, guitars, WarHammer, computers and other stuff in there. He loves it.
What man doesn't love a man-cave?
I'd vote "no" to the deer head in the living room. But I always vote "yes" to any sort of man cave/man room where he can decorate however he wants. Deer heads and all. I live in western PA and the deer heads were always a common household fixture in many homes I frequented growing up.
I would let him hang it in the garage or basement. Not in any other area in my house. Ew!
I would never have/own one. Period.
But about your post... are you going to have room for this all? Deer head, beer signs, ect! That may take up a lot of space! Has he considered leaving it at his parents and grabbing it when you have a bigger place (house?).
I wont have them in the bedrooms or living room. Its not so much for decor sake, but safty. We have kids, and I dont totally trust DHs skill at properly attaching them to the wall. they are now in his man cave/garage. Before we had an area just for him, they were in boxes. We just have antlers though
I just remembered an AWESOME antler decor I saw at DHs dads friends. They collected a crap ton of shead antlers and made a really cool wall sculpture out of it, and if anyone asks its not from hunting, they just picked them up off the ground!! Then they went to go show me their upstairs, turned the corner, and there was a grizzly bear up on the wall!! I think they honestly put it there on purpose..lol...
I'm from the South, so I've been to houses that have deer heads hanging in the living room. In fact, growing up my mom had them hung in the living room of one of the houses we lived in.
Personally, I would put it in the guestroom and maybe make it his "man cave" I'm not a big fan of having any type of stuffed animal sitting or hanging about in the living room. If you have guests over it could offend someone.
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