Post # 1
DH and I live in his former bachelor condo. It’s a second floor garden unit with 2 BRs and 2 Baths with an office in a loft that is up a Sprial staircase that can not be closed off. I sold my condo but he owes more than his is worth and owns it with a brother. We were going to try and rent it out and split the monthly loss with his brother so we could buy a house but it looks like that won’t work out now. Hubs desperately wants a baby and I think I really do also, but I’m just hung up by circumstances, ie I think it’s wrong to have a baby in a condo. By the way we are both 37. If you were in my shoes would you go ahead and have the baby in less than ideal circumstances before time runs out or wait for a house and maybe the body is done for.
P.S. We both have good incomes, retirement savings are well on the way, emergeny fund, one paid off car and one car with two years left on the loan. We have good health insurance.
Post # 3
As a New Yorker, this is a funny question. Lots of people live and have kids in apartments. What do you mean that the spiral stair case cannot be closed off? Have you asked a contractor? Also, by the time you get pregnant, give birth, have your kid old enough to start crawling, you might have enough money to either rent out the place or the market would have picked up and you can sell it. Good luck.
Post # 4
Well, I’m a bit biased, but if it was wrong to have a baby in a condo/apartment in my city almost no one would have kids.
Honestly, we plan to stay in the city for the foreseeable future. If we do have kids, I’m sure we will not be able to afford a stand alone house (most of them go for well over one million) and I see plenty of parents in the same boat – their kids are happy and healthy. I’m not sure what the problem is? There are parks and such they can run around at, if not having a yard was your issue.
Post # 5
@kayakgirl73: Ok I dont live in an condo, but I had to say I dont see anything wrong with it. Especially if you have the space. If you were putting the baby in the living room then Id say its time to upgrade… but a house doesnt necessarily mean more space… and they are definitely more work!! our house consumes all of our time from grounds, to up keep, to keeping the space clean, the pool clean, etc. Some days I wish we bought a condo where we dont have to clean the pool or mow the lawn or shovel the drive way…. anyways good luck and have fun TTC!!
Post # 6
I am one with a great need for space, so I understand your hesitation. However, there is never an ideal time to have babies. For some it’s money, for some, it’s the impact on their career, for others, it’s a condo.
The condo seems big, at least for 1-2 very young ones… Giving your age, I wouldn’t postpone it if you can’t buy a house now. I’d start TTC right away and fix a goal with your DH to buy a house within 5-7 years.
Post # 7
Personally I have no problem with having a baby if I was in your situation. The place seems big enough for the kid to have their own room and have enough space for nighttime feedings and all the baby crap that comes with. While it may not be ideal it’s not like they need a yard to run around in (yet!). A big problem could come from haulling the stroller and equipment up the stairs every day. Do you have an elevator? It’ll be a good workout atleast!
I’m sure you’d save money by not moving and investing in baby stuff and his/her future! What a bonus! Sometimes in these situations I think about how people in third world countries and places have kids with 10 times less the resources and how well they come out. Sorry to get all political but in perspective you have a perfect home for a new addition to your family! Good luck!
Post # 8
Ideally I probably wouldn’t want to have kids while in an apartment when a house could be an option. But they always say if you wait till everything is perfect to have a baby you will never have baby. Circumstances change and I don’t think it is bad to start a family in a condo. You seem to have room. I say go for it!!!! the older we get the harder it can be to even have babies. Don’t wait 🙂
Post # 9
I would absolutely have a baby in my current apartment. DF and I are going into super saver mode after the wedding and hopefully be ready to buy in 2-3 years (unless there’s another tax break!). I want to start trying to have a baby in about a year so we’ll probably end up with a baby in our apt.
I’d rather save up the money and buy a house when we’re ready, than rush into it because we want to do things in “the right order”.
Post # 10
In your situation, it’s definitely fine. You have a 2 bed/2 bath, same as most houses. But in NYC you see the craziest things like a family of 4 living in a Studio and that’s when I sort of raise an eyebrow. Clearly that’s not enough room and maybe they should think about not having so many kids or moving to the suburbs.
Would I personally do it? If I were in your situation, yes. But since I’m only 28 I would be more inclined to wait until we get a house, since that is our goal for the near future anyway. It’s easier for us to save for a down payment faster if we aren’t paying for kids.
Post # 11
Yep no yard, No storage for a stroller execpt the car trunk and we have to cross our street to our parking spots and cars drive too fast to get to the traffic light, I’m afraid of being hit. My husband has had the car hit three times in five years trying to get out of the parking spot , very bad sight lines. We are in suburban DC. Most people seem to have kids in houses here. OUr condo assocaiton has no playground and little green space. I don’t know how the New Yorkers do it.
Post # 12
We’re trying to conceive and fully intend to stay in our apartment. We have plenty of room, especially for a little one! There is a park down the street and the beach a few blocks away so there is no lack of outdoor space when our kids are old enough to run around and play.
I don’t get what the big deal is? Why do you think it’s so wrong to have a baby in a condo?
Post # 13
I would absolutely live in a condo with a baby. Its completely do-able. My condo was 1200sq ft open concept (minus the bedrooms) and it would have been perfect to have a baby or two in. It will also get you out of the house more too. You’ll put your kids in their stroller & go for a walk, head the the park, etc. Condo living IMO = more family time.
I don’t see anything wrong with living in a condo until your children outgrow it. If you have kids now, by the time your kids start school the market will have turned around & you’ll probably be in a better position to buy your dream house w/ the picket fence! 🙂 Good luck with whatever you decide though. If it were me though, I would just stay where you are & get busy!!
Post # 14
If you want a baby you will make it work. We lived in an apartment when my brother and I were born, I was a year old before we moved. My cousin still lives in a condo with 2 children 3 & 5 and my uncle waited until my aunt was pregnant with their third to move out of their condo. Babies don’t know any difference!
Post # 15
Your condo sounds absolutely fine to have a baby. If you want one, I think it is silly to wait. Even if you got pregnant tomorrow, you have a year and a half before the kid is crawling etc. Plenty of time to figure out how to baby proof. Get a really long gate or a playpen. I just don’t see how it is tha big of a deal. Maybe when your kid is 3 you might want to move but it seems a really strange reason to wait, especially when you have the luxury of two bathrooms!
Post # 16
@kayakgirl73: Other than the size of apartment issue, in NYC it isn’t too bad to raise a family because there are so many parks with tons of playgrounds and space for kids to run around. In addition to the crazies who raise families in studios, there are also normal peopel I know who have a 2 bedroom apartment and keep it to 1 or 2 kids and it works. There are a lot of high rise buildings in nice neighborhoods that cater to families, lower rent, larger apartments, etc. just a little out of the way so less desirable location.