Post # 1
there is a couple that comes into our store quite often. Sometimes seperate, sometimes together and ive never had a problem with either of them in the past. I actually know the guy because we went to the HS even though he was a couple grades ahead of me but we never talked alot or hung out much or anything. Hes dating a different girl now after running out on his longtime girlfriend and 3 kids they have together….. anyway; new gf comes in the store often as well. sometimes they are together, sometimes seperate. Never had a problem with either of them.
Last night; they come into the store together. He comes to my counter and puts his item by the register. This was our conversation:
Me: Hello! (as he walks into the store. its policy that we HAVE to greet each person or we can be written up)
a few mins later…
Me: is this all for you today?
Him: yeah thats it
Him: (hands me $2) Keep the change
Me: thanks! have a good night!
as i am counting money in the drawer they walk off and I hear her say something about “her and over the counter” then I hear him say “shut the F up and get outside right now” as i look up he is pushing her out the door as she is flailing her arms around. The next guy in line asked why she said “Im going to drag that bitch over the counter” and i was just stunned , told him i had no idea what was going on and he said “well thats what she said! I was standing next in line beside her!”
Later the same night they come into the store again and I call for my partner to come to the front so she can ring them up to avoid drama. I thought she was still in the car and as he was getting ready to leave I asked him What the problem was earlier today, I didnt do anything but was wandering what happened that set her off so it could be avoided next time. He said that shes insanely jealous and just crazy and was “trippin” and that I didnt do anything wrong. I just kinda laughed about it and said “oh ok, well i was just curious I wasnt sure what was going on” as i finish the sentence I see her come flying out of the aisle beside the registered screaming “what did that F-ing Bitch just say to you?!” I just said “I asked him what the problem was earlier, I didnt do anything to you and you flipped out for no reason, I was just curious what the problem was as to avoid it next time” and she just starts screaming and going insane ” &^!@# dont be talking to my man!!!!!, Dont talk to him just shut up , just shut up, dont make me jump over this counter and beat your ass cause i will do it!” etc etc. I was just stunned that this is what the problem was about. I told her that I work here, I HAVE to talk to him and if shes uncomfortable with it then dont come inside and that i have been married for 7 years and def not interested in her man. she just kept repeating “dont make me jump over this counter and fight you” The guy started yelling at her to shut and get outside and was pushing her out the door. he said Sorry , you all have a good night as they left.
My manager said that she wont be barred from the property unless she comes in again and starts something like that. Im pretty sure she can be arrested for verbal assault with intent to bodily harm. I dont feel comfortable working there and she not have any consequences to her actions. what would you have done or would do?
sorry this is so long!
Post # 3
I would have called the police. That kind of behavior iunacceptable, and you should not have to tolerate that at all.
Post # 4
yes I would have. I worked at a gas station and had a similar experience and the cops were called and she was ticketed.
Post # 5
I would call the police station (not 911) and see if there are sufficient grounds for a restraining order. If your workplace won’t take steps to keep you two at a safe distance, it doesn’t mean you can’t. Good luck, sorry she spewed her crazy all over you.
Post # 6
@newbabybee: what did they ticket her withfor?
Post # 7
I wouldn’t have asked her boyfriend what her problem was. I wouldn’t have called the cops. It wouldn’t even occur to me that there was such a thing as “verbal assault.” She obviously has some issues, but she didn’t actually touch you. Let your co-worker ring them up from now on and don’t talk to the guy. I would only consider police involvement if she actually came over the counter.
As for the policies at your place, your manager sounds like he sucks. You should be able to turn a customer away for that behavior.
Post # 8
@MrsRuby: Do you hae any kind of security cameras? I am a little shocked that the manager would not address this immeadiately. But in the future, call the police. You have a right to be at work and not be threatened or berated by anyone.
Shame on your manager for not barring her immeadiately, at least for the time being since it is your place of employment.
ETA, I would also be looking for another job.
Post # 9
@MrsRuby: you should be able to feel safe at work, not threatened. Call your local police station and file a report.
Post # 10
@MsW-to-MrsM: Assault:Verbal Assault.law.; An unlawful threat or attempt to do bodily injury to another. The act or an instance of unlawfully threatening or attempting to injure another.
Post # 11
@thumpurr: yes there are A LOT of cameras throughout the store and quite a few at the front registers. She is on several of them as well as audio surveillance. I have the receipt saved from the time of the incident that shows the datetime it took place.
Post # 12
Can you file a report now? I think her behavior needs to be on record.
Post # 13
@MrsRuby: I am just floored that your manager seems so out of touch with her employees. I don’t care what kind of job you work, that is not necessary…..EVER. Nor should it be acceptable. Especially since their is proof that it took place.
Please look for other work. This company doesn’t seem to care about it’s employees.
Post # 14
@MrsRuby: I can’t believe that your manager didn’t have an issue with you, in theory, being threatened. I wouldn’t want to work there if my manager wasn’t at least considering talking to her as a warning, letting her know that this is a warning, that behavior will not be tolerated in tthe future.
A lot of people are just big talkers. But then there are some that aren’t. Or usually they are, but then they had a bad day, or too much to drink….or a number of things.
I guess that I just wouldn’t feel safe if you don’t actually know her well enough to know she’s predicatably will never do anything.
Post # 15
Yes. Making threats is illegal, fuck that. That woman is cracked in the head.
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
She sounds like complete and utter trash.