Post # 1
This question is for bees who met their partners a bit later in life, not HS sweethearts. My Fiance said to me the other night that he wishes we had met sooner, which got me thinking about that. If we had met sooner, I never would have dated him. He used to smoke and was very into partying. I am always adamant that I got the *best* of him and I am glad he had that time to grow up (without me).
Then looking back on my HS sweetheart (who I was with for a decade), I would never date him NOW. He has turned into such a prick (hence why he is my EX-FI, but I won’t get into that here). I guess what I’m getting at is that people change so much during different phases of life and I am so happy that I met my Fiance at the perfect time for us – and now we can grow and change together. Looking back on how he used to be…not so much, lol.
How about you?
Post # 3
@BoxerLady: Probably not. I mean, he was a wrestler …ugh. no thanks. haha. I also think he was into some things I never was–like drinking, partying, etc. So, I think I’d have passed–plus he’s heck of a lot hotter now 😉
Post # 4
we are both older, in our later 30’s.
if we met back in the day – we would have hung out and would have been in the same “click” together. No doubt. We probably would have hooked up. I’m kinda glad we didn’t meet back then though – we lived our lives and learned and grew and realized who we wanted to spend the rest of our lives with. like the old saying – i wish i knew then what i knew now…then yeah, i’d be happy to be with him back then…..
Post # 5
…you know what? I just found out that my ex from college has turned into a Steampunk Nerd….BULLET DODGED!
Post # 6
@BoxerLady: Well, if I had met my Boyfriend or Best Friend 15 years ago when he was 25, I would have only been 10, so I’m not sure if I’m able to adequately answer this question :-p
Post # 7
Oh my goodness no. Definitely not. We’ve talked about this, too. I was living in one state and Darling Husband in another, and we didn’t meet until he was almost 45 and divorced after more than 20 years of marriage, and I was almost 46 and had never been married. What’s crazy is that we discovered that we grew up in the same geographic area and used to go to the same shopping mall and the same amusement park. It is entirely possible that we actually walked right past each other at some point! However, no, I definitely would not have been attracted to him back then.
Post # 8
@badabing88: lol, yes, he would certainly have some explaining to do. I’ve always preferred older men. I dated a much older man before I met my Fiance (I was 22, and he was 42). It was really hard for me. I felt like I was never his *first* anything, and I feared living my retirement years alone. When I was 70, he would be…likely not around. Fiance is the youngest guy I’ve ever been with, and the one I ended up marrying. Weird.
Post # 9
@BoxerLady: Great question. I always tell him that I’m so happy for all the things, good and bad, that lead to us meeting, and that we met each other at the exact right time. I don’t think we would have dated in high school, but if we had, we would have f***ed it up COMPLETELY because we were both such disasters haha.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We’ve had this conversation. We absolutely would not have dated if we had met earlier in life, nor would we have been friends. We were into different scenes.
Post # 11
@BoxerLady: No we would not have dated any earlier than the moment we met. Mostly because we are both alcoholics and were into crazy drinking, partying and destructive behaviour before we got sober and met each other. If we had met earlier we may have partied together and/or slept together, but it would have ended very, very badly I’m sure.
Post # 12
@lawbride88: Ha! I have seen old pictures of Fi and yeah – I got him at his hottest! He’s older than me by a few years so I escaped mullets and later, horseshoes, etc. and also about 80 + lbs. He always says I make him look good but he’s definitely gotten better looking as he’s aged. 😉
Post # 13
Im pretty glad I started dating my SO when I did, because I don’t think we would have the same relationship we have today if we started dating when we first met. That being said I always like to think about how I would have never guessed the significant impact he would have made on my life when we first met
Post # 14
@Nona99: LOL! I’m trying to convince Darling Husband that steampunk is not the greatest thing ever… he thinks it’s sooo cool, and I’m like, “nooooooo!”
Post # 15
I think we’re meant to meet people at certain times. You probably wouldn’t have dated your current Fiance if you met him at another time in your life, because he was probably a different person.
Funny story about my Fiance and I, we went to HS together!! In a very small town but didn’t know one another, we had a lot of mutual friends, often went to the same parties, but we never… connected. Fast foward 3 years, we met in a city 5 hours away from where we grew up where we were both attending different schools!
We did connect, immediately, and grew a wonderful friendship over the course of a couple years. Then something just clicked, we were both single, mature (enough!), and into each other. We’ve now been together for 6 years and I still think it’s almost too good to be true.
Post # 16
I have actually known my Fiance since we were 11 (both 30ish now). We dated a few times in HS for a few months each and were each others “first love” even though we dated for a grand total of 6 months through our teen years. We went our seperate ways for college and grad school for him and then reunited years later. If we had tried to start something in our early 20’s it would have never worked. We were never “heavy” partiers but we both did like to go out and have our fun. Neither of us were really ready to settle down until our later 20’s so it kind of all worked out. I got lucky! So to answer your question, I would have probably dated him then (20’s) but it wouldn’t have worked out long term (at least at that point) due to where we both were in life.