Post # 1
Probably not as bad as it sounds…
I’ve spent so much time & effort organising our HM – our once in a lifetime trip. Obviously I’ve shared these details with friends & one actually said that it appealed to her so muich that she said she would consider doing something similar. I was quite honoured actually. A couple of hundred emails later with my recommendations, suggestions she’s looks to be doing the exact same trip. I’m fine about it, in fact these things get me so excited that I enjoy it!
Just received an email from her saying that she had dinner with my ex best friend & my ex boyfriend & now they are also wanting to come along on the trip.
And all of a sudden I don’t feel like helping.
Lame, I know as I’d still be helping my friend.
Help me get over this…
Post # 3
Hi @Nic01: Personally, I can see 100% where you are coming from.
IF it was any other sort of Holiday / Vacation you probably wouldn’t mind so much… but it is YOUR HONEYMOON… and now you are planning a similar holiday for your Ex and his GF… does feel wierd to me… thinking that my Ex would be doing the same holiday as my Honeymoon, and that I helped make it happen.
On the otherhand, you aren’t dealing one-on-one with your Ex, you are helping your Friend… the fact that she shares that info with someone else, and they end up joining her on the trip is really not something you can control.
I’d keep helping, as she is a Friend (and who’s to say he’ll go with her?). It is a tough spot to be in, but make her your priority, afterall she is who you have been working with all along.
(( HUGS ))
Hope this helps,
Post # 4
@This Time Round: I def need those hugs atm.
They both have caused me so much pain, & now I’m facilitating their once in a lifetime trip. The exact trip of my HM. I guess i can take comfort in that at least we’ll be travelling before.
I will def NOT be dealing with them directly but I’m 100% certain that they will go along. Now I’m unsure whether to share these feelings with my friend…
I thought all this would go away once becoming an ‘adult’ ….sigh……
Post # 5
Bumping for any other perspective….
Post # 6
Yeah, I’d probably be honest with my friend. That now that you know your ex is planning on coming, you feel a little weird about making him a copy of your honeymoon for him to take with his new girlfriend. I think if she’s a good friend, she’ll understand when you’re not feeling particularly gracious.
I agree there’s something icky about planning a romantic getaway of a lifetime for an ex.
Post # 7
@SapphireSun: icky indeed.
I haven’t replied to her email, as i’m unsure what to write,.she’s texting me she’s looking forward to the next ‘installment’ lol. All whilst i’ve been avoiding that reply..
I think i’ll have to be honest, get it off my chest & pretend i didn’t know they were going.
I may just have to delete my facebook account before they head off so I’m not exposed to any of their pictures!!
Post # 8
Sorry hon, as I said I feel for you.
Lol, at the comment about FaceBook… the root of all modern evil / drama / trauma… I am sure you can find a way to live without it.
Post # 10
@This Time Round: thank you!
So i told my friend that the position i’m n is uncomfortable & she understands. That itself mad eme feel much better. Also spoke with FI who has a very good ‘moral grounding’ & spoke of takign the high road, by goign along & not letting them bother me.
At the end of the day, FI & I are still going on this amazing hm that I planned & i’m helping my dear friend with a similar trip.
….& we’ll just have to facebook all those amazing pictures first 🙂
lol …if only i could patent travel ideas …lol