Post # 1
Thought about this last night due to the following:
- I tooked at 2 daycare centers and 1 was all female, the guide even mentioned it in a friendly way. The 2nd one had maybe 1/4 male staff directly playing with the children.
- We are moving when baby is 4-5 months and my male friend will have a son a few weeks youger than ours. His LT male partner will be working PT and I was thinking it would be a win-win for him to watch our child while earning some money.
- On care.com in the area there are numerous females (over 100) and only 6 males on the site.
Got me thinking:
Would you allow a man to watch your child(ren?)
Would it make a diff if the male was family?
Would it matter if your child was a boy or girl?
Would it matter what the sexual orientation of the nanny/babysitter is?
Husbs and I are cool with it, he didn’t raise an eyebrow and all that matters in the end if our comfort level- but wondering if other people think it’s “odd.”
I realize this might be a heated discussion, so be respectful.
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
Nope, no problem with it! I don’t have a kid of my own but if he were qualified then it wouldn’t matter. Sexual orientation wouldn’t either , I don’t see why it would some people may be old fashioned ?
Post # 4
I would not. Sexual orientation would not make a difference. I also would not have a male family member babysit my child. However I am odd in that the only people who can watch my child are my own mother and my MIL. We do not use outside babysitters. My older child attends aftercare that is soley staffed by females.
Post # 5
As long as he has the same childcare training and police check as the women there, I see no difference. I’ve never met a male childcare worker, but I wouldn’t turn one down based on his gender.
Post # 6
as long as someone can take proper care of my child, why does their gender matter?
Post # 7
No, I would not. But I am a molestation survivor, so I see things differently.
Post # 8
I used to have a male co-teacher, and parents were CONSTANTLY saying they “didn’t want their child in (our) classroom, because what kind of man wants to work with kids that can’t talk?”
As long as they’re being screened for sex offender status, I wouldn’t care who was watching my kid (gay/straight/male/femals/trans)
Post # 9
I’d have no problem as long as he was qualified. I’d also let my child (girl or boy) sleep over at a friend’s house if only the father was supervising.
why would anyone have a problem? Do people assume men who like kids = pedophiles or weirdos?
Post # 10
It doesn’t matter to me. My preference would be for a female, but if I felt comfortable with the male and they had experience and passed the background checks then that’s fine too. Sometimes it’s just hard for me to understand men wanting to care for children, but then I look at my husband who is just sooooo good with kids that it makes me realize that some men do love and are great with kids so why not?! Sexual orientation doesn’t matter one bit to me.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
Good question. I’d base it on credentials. If I knew the guy already, I’d be more inclinded to be fine with it. Sexual orientation would absolutely not impact my decision.
The bottom line is that there are fewer men in the field, but in your case, it sounds like it could be a good choice.
Post # 12
I would absolutly allow a man to watch my kids, regardless of the gender of the kid or if the caretaker was related. Yes yup. Honestly can’t think of a good argument not to.
I sound like I might be alone in this, but sexual orientation would make a slight difference. I’m very supportive of the LGBT community, and try to give them a boost however I can. Knowing that someone going into the feild as a gay person (particularly in Texas) is going to have more hurdles to overcome is going to make me more likely to choose them over similarly qualified applicants. It would also carry the bonus of no risk or suspicion of cheating in the household. I don’t think either of us are the cheating type, but hey, can’t be tempted by something that’s never offered.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA
i used to work at a daycare. They didnt hire males because it “looked” bad. Teachers play and interact with the kids and if they dont feel good; you scoop em up and show them the love their mom would… When parents come in and see that its okay. But for a mom (or dad) come in and see a man loving on his daughter it just looks wrong. It’s the double standards. I think if you know them and trust them its fine. But please be sure they have the credentials (first aid, and all)
Post # 14
I know this is a small bite out of a larger apple, but I find it really quite offensive/sexist— falls back to how in our society a woman with “masculine” qualities (ambitious, strong, etc) is great, but a man with “feminine” qualities (emotional, nurturing, etc) is seen as Bad or Weird.
Post # 15
@aliciapdx: My FI went to school for culinary and is a Personal Chef part time. His full time job is working with his mother in a home day-care. 10 children, 5 days a week. He grew up in that enviorment and when he needed a new job (he was a kitchen manager for a jail, YIKES) she needed a new assistant. He is amazing, and the children love him. I look at it as practice for when we have our own. No parents had any problems with him coming into the center either.
Post # 16
@fiver: why would anyone have a problem? Do people assume men who like kids = pedophiles or weirdos?
I think so, and I think it’s incredibly sad and sexist.
I don’t have kids yet, but I wouldn’t have an issue with a male sitter/care-taker so long as they were qualified or I knew them personally. My dad, brothers, and H are all very good with kids so I don’t understand people’s adversity towards male babysitters. Certain people sure, but to rule out an entire gender seems illogical.