Post # 1
Now before you tell me I’m being prejudice or racists, I’m dealing with one of those huge entertainment companies that provides bands, DJs, wedding planners, you name it. Unlike other companies that have profiles of the DJs online and we pick them, this company randomly assigns them based on availability. I know it shouldn’t matter and what not and I’m probably about to offend at least some of you. My apologies, not my intention.
Now I understand all DJs all trying to make money and all provide a service and I’m sure if they are all compotent professionals no matter what their color. I actually read an article about a DJ who says generally speaking DJs of color dj at weddings of people of color and white DJs dj at white weddings. He thinks this is do to musical tastes. And I think so.
I have nothing against white DJs and I am in no way saying they probably can’t do a decent job at my wedding and I guess they all should know how to read the crowd. I’m just worried that, well, he won’t be able to. Does he know what go go music is? Will he play it because we’re young but we like the throwback and it’s a great DC music tradition (mostly among African Americans).
I know I can’t out and out ask for specifically what I want and I know most any DJ worth his salt will play whatever I want from a playlist. But I could have an Ipod for that. I want someone who can you know improvise and read the crowd and just pick the song because they get it. Now flame me if you want. But am I the only one who’s ever had that conundrum?
Post # 3
Youre right, I did find it offensive. Would it be different if I came on here (being white) and asked if it’s ok to not hire a black dj because I don’twon’t him to play “black music” and don’t think he knows good “white music”? WTF! And I live in the dc area and I’m pretty sure any dj should know about go go. If u want ur wedding to only incorporate black officiants, dj,… Wedding cord, that sounds pretty racist to me. But u know— whatever floats ur boat.
Post # 4
I think you’re thinking too much into it. A DJ is a DJ and if you’re confident enough in the company to hire them to take care of that much of your wedding, you should trust in the company’s judgement.
Post # 5
Are you kidding? I have friends that are white djs and they kill at all events they do. You are being silly…and racist for no reason.
Post # 6
@MrsSanchizel: I agree….
Op you’re basically acknowledging and warning us of your post which is pretty racist (in my opinion) but feeling that because you recognize this, it should make it easier for us or atleast me to swallow?
A white guy doesn’t know what good music is? Girlll, I’m from NY and there are PLENTY of amazing WHITE DJ’s that play every genre of music, and some that even specialize in playing hip hop, rap, and r&b ONLY.
Just a thought.
Post # 7
I should also mention that there is NO good reason to be racist, actually. Why is there even a AA tag? Dumb.
Post # 8
I get it. I don’t think the OP is being racist. I think she wants to make sure that she has a DJ who can relate to her audience. There’s nothing wrong with that.
She put the AA tag on it because she wants the opinion of other AA brides. Kind of why the tag is there in the first place, right?
Post # 9
@pixiefairy47: I actually don’t disagree with you, nor do I necessarily disagree with pp’s either. While I think that you’re not attempting to come off as racist, to some it definitely comes off that way. If you’re more comfortable hiring a DJ of color, then I’d do just that. I would feel the same in the opposite sense, so to me this isn’t really all that offensive.
The answer seems to be simple: if you’re more comfortable hiring someone who is African American, do that.
Post # 10
@MrsBot: But what if I said I will only hire white people for my wedding, purposefully, because I think they’re better than others? That’s ridiculous! A DJ is a DJ…some suck, some are awesome. It has nothing to do with race.
Post # 11
@MrsBot: Saying one DJ is better than the other due to the color of their skin seems pretty racist to me.
I get wanting a DJ that can relate to your audience but that doesn’t really mean they have to have the same skin tone. There are great DJs and there are terrible DJs and it’s not the color of their skin that makes them that way.
ETA: This is your wedding and you should do whatever makes you feel comfortable but I did find it a tad offensive
Post # 12
@MrsBot: Agreed! I think everyone is getting way too jumpy about this…
Post # 13
@WillyNilly: 100% agree. I find it pretty irritating that on here there is an AA tag because if there was a Caucasian one used, I’m sure it’d be a big deal.
Post # 14
I don’t think the OP is offensive either. I’ve been to some of my Indian friend’s weddings and they always have an Indian dj. I’m sure they had to specifically find an Indian DJ who would already have a lot of the popular dance songs from India. I don’t think it’s racist at all, it’s just smart to want a DJ that already has the type of music you want.
In my wedding (my fiance is Sri lankan), we don’t have the option of hiring a sri lankan dj because there aren’t any that we know of in Dallas. So we have a white DJ…I’m sure it will be fine, but this DJ hasn’t even heard of Sri Lanka and of course he didn’t have any Sri Lankan Tamil songs, so my FI had to burn CDs and make a playlist of songs for the reception which is a lot of added work. Had we HAD a choice of getting a sri lankan DJ that could have done all that work for us, we would have taken it.
And I don’t think that’s racist. It’s just smart. I’m white, by the way.
Post # 15
A good DJ will play music that the crowd likes regardless of skin color. Sorry but yeah… totally offensive.
How is it any different from me saying “I don’t think I want to hire a black DJ because I’m worried he won’t get my white crowd.” Pretty sure that would be a shit storm of epic proportions.
Post # 16
i think a better way to ask is for a dj who plays more quote unquote urban music. pps, i dont think op is being racists, i just dont think she worded it in the most sensitive way. i can see where shes coming from, every culture has its nuances that someone not of the culture may not understand, or appreciate. for instance, i am west african, and i know that typically, a run of the mill dj may not really know about makossa, or soukous, or highlife music. typically, the only djs who know about this type of music are fellow west africans. on the flipside, i went to a wedding reception where the dj was asian ammerican, and he was killing it, but he was an exception to the rule. theres an aa board, just as there is a latino board, east easian board, lgbtq bord etc because the world is not a melting pot, ots more of a stone soup, alot of individual communities that come together to make a great world.