Post # 1
I was just reading a magazine on my break at work yesterday and I found a first hand story inside about a woman who decided, after attending many weddings as a bridesmaid/Maid of honour, that she was so good at it and enjoyed it so much, that she became a ‘professional bridesmaid’ offering her services online for a fee.
Basically, the bride ‘Hires’ her for the wedding cermony, pictures, and other brides-maidey duties like planning the hen/bachelorette/bridal showers, and being supportive on the big day. And, having her in the pictures too.
For me, I think i’d be mortified that I didnt have a single friend I could rely on to be at least a little bit enthusiastic about the big day. I mean I dont expect people to smother me with gifts or attention, when I get married, but I think I’d be rather sad for brides who feel like they have to pay somebody to help them out in their bridal party/big day.
She’s making alot of money for it here in the uk apparently, so good for her though!?
Anyway, back to the question. Would YOU hire a ‘Professional bridesmaid?’
Post # 2
That’s crazy, imagine looking back at wedding photos and reminiscing about the total stranger you paid to be in your wedding!!
Post # 3
LOL. No way but good for her for making money off of something she realized she could cash in on! Haha
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
hamobride: agree! who wants to look at wedding photos and be all “awww there’s aunt margaret, there’s bob and oh, there’s that woman I paid to pretend to be my friend”. craziness!
Post # 5
mixtaperomance: Haha! I thought the exact same thing! she advertises on a website for ‘Rent-a-friend’ duties…?! crazy.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2
No way. Why would you want a stranger in your wedding photos? If you need support, hite a wedding planner. If you don’t gave friends, then just don’t have a bridal party at all.
Post # 8
Uh, no. But good for her.
Post # 9
Why not just hire a wedding planner. They basically do the same thing without the desperation.
Post # 10
No that would be extremely awkward to look back at pics with a stranger.
Post # 11
Ha! this is fantastic lol. I guess there really is a market for anything these days. Granted I think if you are one of those really high strung type brides and you want a bridesmaid for photos but not becuase you want your close friends up there with you, this would work well. You get someone for photos with the added benefit of having a helper\planner and someone who has to take your crap and be your “friend” throughout the process. And guess what? since it’s a job, she can’t be offended! lol. People really are weird sometimes.
I personally wouldn’t do it but I can see why she gets business.
Post # 12
Mrswebbyhopefully: it sounds like hiring a wedding planner and then asking her to be a bridesmaid. I wouldn’t do it! That’s so strange.
Post # 13
stardustintheeyes: I would think that type of person needs to hire a therapist rather than a bridesmaid. If photos are more important than relationships to a person then they have issues.
Post # 14
lol… No, I would not. If I wanted someone to organize my wedding I would hire a professional wedding planner. I’m sure they would help plan the other parties and what not as well if you paid them haha, but they wouldn’t be in your wedding photos with your close friends and family.
Post # 15
j_jaye: there are many brides that just want a bridal party for the sake of having props that fit their vision. Kind of like centerpieces. Those types have no emotional connection to the role of a bridesmaid. Well what it’s supposed to be anyway. In that case, it would be better for everyone if they hired someone to be a stand in rather than actually use someone they care about. it’s messed up that there are people that care that much about their vision but to me it’s not unrealistic. Plus I feel like hiring a bridesmaid is no different than having a proffessional officiant. To some people the officiant should be someone who knows the couple and it means a lot to them to have that person be the one to marry them. to others, it’s just someone to lead the ceremony and it’s not a personal or emotional choice.
Not to mention those women who don’t have a mom or any girlfriends but want someone to go dress shopping with and someone to help along the way with various wedding tasks. Not everyone is lucky enough to have friends or family like this. So while that is a sad thought, I would imagine there are many women who have no choice but to go through wedding planning without that female input from a mother or friend. In this case, it would probably be an option.
Either way, I don’t think it’s anyone’s place to judge. You have two willing parties, the bride and this “professional bridesmaid” and if it’s ok with both of them, what does it matter?