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Would you hold separate receptions?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
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princesslala 15 May 2010 Singapore

I'm gonna invite more thn 1000 guests (it's a cultural thg) and am thinking if I should separate the reception into two - a private & relaxed one for friends and a noisy one for families & relatives.

Anyone of u did that for ur wedding? =))

xoxo,lala

2 years ago

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Ember78 December 15, 2012

I wouldn't. I'd prefer one reception and invite everyone.

2 years ago

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daydreamwanderer DC

I think a lot of the posters here on WeddingBee are Americans; is your wedding in Singapore?

In America, this would be seen as rude, but that's definitely just a cultural cue! I think it sounds like a wonderful idea, and personally would definitely appreciate the quieter area :)

2 years ago

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princesslala 15 May 2010 Singapore

Hey ladies! Thx for ur opinions!

Yes daydreamwanderer,I'm from Singapore and gonna hv my wedding here. It's a Malay tradition to invite as many as u can for ur wedding here. The older generations would agree that this reception wld only strengthen the ties btwn families & what better way to spread the news thn having a huge celebration thrown for all.

Howevr,my bestfriends and close friends (of the younger generations) are afraid that amid the celebration, my FH and I won't be able to enjoy the bliss of our wedding day due to all the ceremonial activities, picture taking with numerous relatives & friends, sitting on the dias, changing of outfits (6!) etc. Worse, we mite not be able to personally thank friends who come (I think I see & grow up with my friends more than some unknown relatives whom I havent seen in decades).

I just thought u know, separate receptions would allow me to celebrate our wedding & allow us to enjoy them with the respective attendees. I would love a quiet time with my friends & family too. Just us close ones.. =))

xoxo,lala

2 years ago

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Busy bee

bamm June 5th 2010/August 15th 2010 Seoul

I think it sounds fine as long as it won't deeply offend your older relatives. There are other things you could do though....have a small 'engagement' party before your wedding with just your friends. I don't know any Malay traditions, but do you ever have a mendhi party or some other gathering the night before the wedding? If your older relatives are not comfortable with having two receptions, perhaps you can have a smaller event on a different day?

2 years ago

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S-berry 14 February, 2009 New Zealand

How would "separate receptions" work? Would you have two rooms filled with two groups of guests on the day, or have a big party and then a smaller one...? I can't even imagine a wedding with 1,000 people! What is your wedding going to be like?

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daydreamwanderer DC

I'm also curious, how long will your reception last? I think it's important to consider how you would split your time -- if I were you, I'd be tempted to spend the entire time in the smaller, more intimate room of friends, and ignore the extended family :)

With such large weddings, is it expected that the bride and groom will personally greet all of their guests or spend time with most of them? Or would it be acceptable for you to spend a significant portion of your time with a selected crowd?

2 years ago

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princesslala 15 May 2010 Singapore

hi agn ladies!

bamm,u're right..there'll b a mehendi or henna nite on the nite before the solemnization(nikah). So i'm allowed to hv gfs & cousins over,apply henna & hv a slumber party sort of.

As for my reception,the duration spans over 6 hrs,usually after solemnization. Some couples wld hv a dinner for separate grp of friends/families/colleagues. The two receptions I am referring to are as such. Wld nt want to offend the older generations bt u know,it's different kind of fun with ur relatives & friends. If So,i will need two separate days for the reception cos I can't imagine getting colonized,throw a reception for 1000 guests and hold a dinner for antr within a day! Lols!

2 years ago