- 9 years ago
Story time! My fiance and I were friends for years before we started dating. We had been friends for so long, when we realized we had feelings for each other, things started out awkwardly. I think it was obvious to everyone, but we were both confused and unsure of what was going on- I guess we’d never considered each other potential partners, since we’d both always been in relationships with other people as long as we’d known each other. I’ll be blunt about it- it took us getting utterly smashed to finally just hook up. The problem was that we were so utterly smashed that we didn’t consider that we were at a party with a lot of people… so our first makeout session was very public. There was no nudity or anything, but there was a little groping. It was embarassing, but, in spite of that, we ended up dating, and, three years later, we’re getting married.
About a year ago, we visited some friends (another couple) in NYC and stayed in their apartment. It was pouring outside when we were leaving, so my FI went to get the car and pull up in front of the apartment, and I waited downstairs in the lobby. While I was waiting, I could hear one of the friends (the girl- L) loudly telling the story of our hook up to her roommates and saying how stupidly we’d behaved. I was extremely hurt by it, and never told anyone.
After we got engaged, the boy-J-wrote to me on facebook to congratulate me and tell me how excited he was for the wedding.
Now we’re about to send out invitations and I really don’t want to invite L. She and J have a civil union though, so I think I’m bound by etiquette. It just really bothers me that she obviously thinks our relationship is based on a drunken hookup and it’s NOT.
Did you have to invite someone to your wedding who didn’t think highly of your relationship?