Post # 1
So…I had a best friend in school.After school, since she shifted to another state we kept in touch (not so frequently) on facebook and other online media. Durin the past one year the frequency of chat has decreased alot…
Today i found out that she is gettin married in 2 weeks through a status update on FB. I was making my wedding guest list last week and her name was already in it. So now i realized…if she didnt tell me abt the wedding she wont be inviting me to it either. we normally send invites a month before the wedding. The FI says i should not invite her if she doesn’t invite me to hers. So my confusion…i want to invite her but what if she doesnt invite me? do i still invite her or not?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
If you would like her to be there, invite her. She may be having a small wedding or who knows! I’m inviting people whose weddings I wasn’t invited to. No biggie!
Post # 4
@futuremrscap: Do not play the “I’ll do what she did” game, it only adds more stress. Invite whomever you’d like to your wedding, and if you want to invite your friend, then do it. Don’t worry about if she will think you’re weird for inviting her. Heck, she might have wanted to invite you, but was afraid you’d think it was weird, so she didn’t.
So, invite her if you want to. If she doesn’t want to/can’t make it, then she’ll decline. No big deal there. 🙂
Post # 5
@LynnSnow: I agree.
There’s no need to play tit-for-tat. If you want to invite her, invite her.
Post # 6
I would invite her, simply because that was what you wanted to do in the first place so you clearly did want her there.
I understand your doubts though, I would be afraid of making her feel awkward or feeling silly myself, yet that would just be me being paranoid. As other bees have said, she may be having a smaller wedding or have a bigger family so less room for friends etc.
Post # 7
If you want here there, invite her. If you don’t, then don’t invite her. Easy as pie.
Post # 8
Don’t make this harder than it needs to be.
If you want her at your wedding, and you have room for her, invite her.
I think at this point — unless she is having a last-minute wedding thrown together at the 11th hour — it’s safe to say she has not invited you to her wedding. Maybe she’s having a super small wedding with only immediate family?
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
Post # 9
@prahajess: I agree.
Who knows what’s going on with her guest list. If you’d like her to be there send her an invite!
Post # 10
You obviously wanted her at your wedding, so invite her. However, I’d be weary on inviting someone that I didn’t know was getting married. Doesn’t sound much like a “friend” to me.
Post # 11
@futuremrscap: I had quite a few friends that I lost touch with and some of those at one point were best friends of mine. We only invited those that were active parts of our lives. That sounds crappy but we wanted to share our day with the people who had really influenced us and had been there for us the most. We also wanted to avoid those awkward “hey I haven’t seen you in six years but welcome to our wedding conversations…lol”
Post # 12
if you want her there, you should invite her regarless if she invites you.
she can choose to decline if she feels funny.
Post # 13
thank you ladies 🙂 ok here’s what i’m gonna do. I’m going to invite her!! if she feels weird or anythin she can decline. And I’ll stop thinking about what she might be thinkin about me inviting her when she didnt. Although i must say im a bit hurt about not knowing about her wedding. Anyway..i’ll get over it soon. I’m pretty excited about my own wedding!!
Post # 14
@futuremrscap: I think that sounds like a good plan 🙂