Would you invite this friend?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

If you would like her to be there, invite her. She may be having a small wedding or who knows! I’m inviting people whose weddings I wasn’t invited to. No biggie!

Post # 4
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252 posts
Helper bee

@futuremrscap:  Do not play the “I’ll do what she did” game, it only adds more stress. Invite whomever you’d like to your wedding, and if you want to invite your friend, then do it. Don’t worry about if she will think you’re weird for inviting her. Heck, she might have wanted to invite you, but was afraid you’d think it was weird, so she didn’t.

So, invite her if you want to. If she doesn’t want to/can’t make it, then she’ll decline. No big deal there. 🙂

Post # 5
Member
1750 posts
Buzzing bee

@LynnSnow:  I agree.

There’s no need to play tit-for-tat. If you want to invite her, invite her. 

Post # 6
Member
697 posts
Busy bee

I would invite her, simply because that was what you wanted to do in the first place so you clearly did want her there.

I understand your doubts though, I would be afraid of making her feel awkward or feeling silly myself, yet that would just be me being paranoid. As other bees have said, she may be having a smaller wedding or have a bigger family so less room for friends etc.

Post # 7
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11740 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you want here there, invite her.  If you don’t, then don’t invite her.  Easy as pie.

Post # 8
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2394 posts
Buzzing bee

Don’t make this harder than it needs to be.

If you want her at your wedding, and you have room for her, invite her. 

I think at this point — unless she is having a last-minute wedding thrown together at the 11th hour — it’s safe to say she has not invited you to her wedding. Maybe she’s having a super small wedding with only immediate family? 

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! 

Post # 9
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@prahajess:  I agree.

Who knows what’s going on with her guest list. If you’d like her to be there send her an invite! 

Post # 10
Member
8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

You obviously wanted her at your wedding, so invite her. However, I’d be weary on inviting someone that I didn’t know was getting married. Doesn’t sound much like a “friend” to me. 

Post # 11
Member
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@futuremrscap:  I had quite a few friends that I lost touch with and some of those at one point were best friends of mine. We only invited those that were active parts of our lives. That sounds crappy but we wanted to share our day with the people who had really influenced us and had been there for us the most. We also wanted to avoid those awkward “hey I haven’t seen you in six years but welcome to our wedding conversations…lol”

Post # 12
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6279 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

if you want her there, you should invite her regarless if she invites you.

she can choose to decline if she feels funny.

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