Post # 1
I posted earlier about having my bio-mom’s wedding band either stolen or lost, well I found it but now I’m deciding what to do with it.
So the ring has two memories attached to it. One is that my bio-parents loved each other at some point when I was born. However, I’m not sure if that’s true… they may have just gotten married because of me. But, I tend to make myself believe the 1st one.
The other memory is that my bio-mom was never a mother to me. That her marriage failed, they were awful to each other & they didn’t treat me well. I actually didn’t live with my bio-parents after I turned 15 (they were that bad).
Her ring fits me, but I tried it on once & I hated it being on my finger, so its not something I would actually ever use, or if I had kids, its not one I’d want to pass down. She sends me cards on every holiday & always puts nice notes in there, I guess she’s trying to reconnect with me. I don’t want to regret selling it, but I don’t think I’ll regret it at all. & I have a foster mom who I call mom & I consider her to be my family & has been there for me since I was like 16/17.
Post # 3
This is a tricky on but I think you may regret it later.
Post # 4
It’s probably something I’d keep in my jewelry box, even though it has sort of a bittersweet memory attached to it. If i ever thought I could regret parting with something, I’d hold onto it until I was SURE i wouldn’t regret it.
I have this really hideous, ugly gold bracelet my dad gave me that was his moms. I really don’t care for the look of it, and it’s worth a few grand. But, I can’t bring myself to part with it just for the money. I didn’t care for my grandma very much (long story) so I have sort of weird feelings about it. As such, it stays in the jewelry box. I’ll probably always keep it. Although, I’ve only worn it once. Maybe someday.
Not sure if that helps =
Post # 5
I say keep it for now. You can always sell it later. You can’t un-sell it later. Give it another year or two and see how you feel.
Post # 6
Do you think your bio mom would maybe like to have it back if you don’t think you’ll use it?
Post # 7
You may just want to put it away for now. No harm in waiting a few years to decide how you feel about it.
Post # 8
I would set it aside. You may regret it later in life. If not, no harm in having it.
Post # 9
It is up to you. Sometimes, getting rid of old things is freeing, in a way.
Post # 10
I had a necklace that my bio-dad (similar situation to yours, only reverse) gave my mom as a gift when they were dating. I kept it for years, but always felt uneasy about it. I recently sold it for scrap gold and it felt good! 🙂
Post # 11
If it was me i wouldn’t sell it, i would put it aside. Maybe one day you will end up wanting to do something with it. What about making the ring into something different.. like earrings, or a necklace? Do you have pics of the ring? If you and your mom ever do reconnect it might be nice to actually still have that piece of jewelry
Post # 12
I would keep it. My mom sold her rings from her marriage to my father. I don’t really care for my father, but I was kind of like, “hey, that wasn’t nice.” I kept all the jewelry that my daughters fathers gave me, so I can give it to my girls when they’re older. But, I hold sentimental value in objects, and some people don’t.
Post # 13
If you’re questioning whether or not to keep it, keep it. Don’t get rid of it unless you are certain that it is what you want to do If you’re not sure, wait until you are sure to decide.
I personally would keep it only if I thought it would ever come up in the future- that she might ask for it back or ask to see it/show it to someone, or ask if I still have it. If it will never come up and you’ll never wear it and never want to give it to someone else, why keep it?
Post # 14
Weddings, marriage and families are very complicated things and we can’t just push history aside. If you hate the ring, why don’t you recycle the gold into something new a la greenkarat? You can either keep the original gold or recycle it and have something else made. If you choose the first option you’re making that ring your own- with new memories.
I hope that helps!
Post # 15
Keep it. You might regret selling it later.