Post # 1
We are currently TTCing. This is cycle 7. DH and I have been asked to stand up in a wedding in Nov 2014. If we got pregnant now the baby would be due at the end of June 2014. Would you ever stop TTCing? If I got pregnant in the february/march cycle I would have a due date a few days after the wedding. I am thinking that December will be my last try and then I won’t try again until April so I’m not 9 months, due, or one month postpartum. What would you do?
If you would continue TTCing, would you step down from the wedding if you ended up really pregnant at the time of the wedding?
Post # 3
No, I wouldn’t stop trying if I had gone that long unsuccessfully. You could be wasting potentially precious time that you might need to explore medical assistance to conceive. But, I’m 32, so time is precious to me!
If I did get pregnant, I wouldn’t step down from my duties as long as I was healthy and my pregnancy was uncomplicated.
Post # 4
I would absolutely not stop TTC. I don’t think you should put your life on hold for other people. If someone told me they were going to wait due to my wedding I would encourage them to keep trying and to not put this on hold.
Yes, I would probably offer to step down if I thought I couldn’t stand up due to pregnancy. As the bride I would probably still ask you to be an “honorary” bridesmaid if you felt up to it.
Post # 5
I had a BM who was 38 weeks pregnant at my wedding (and went into labor the next night)!
I wouldn’t stop TTC.
Post # 6
I am feeling the same way, but I also don’t want to take away from the bride’s day (family wedding). Hopefully I’ll get pregnant now and it won’t even matter! Thanks ladies!
Post # 7
Heck no I wouldn’t quit!!! I can’t imagine as a bride, even wanting someone to quit TTC (especially after 7 cycles!) So I’m sure she doesn’t either!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t stop either. Don’t put your life on hold for 1 day, I’m sure you can still be in the wedding 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
If you & your DH really want a child, I don’t see why you should make a decision about TTC around someone else’s schedule. For me personally, I would continue TTC. If I got pregnant and thought that the wedding would be too close to my due date and could create problems should I go into labor early, I would not attend the wedding let alone be in it. That’s my opinion though. You have to do what’s best for you and your husband.
Post # 10
Dont stop! Next year I have weddings in May, June, July, and Aug so far. I’m 2 of them – the one in may and the one in aug. We did not stop TTC.
Post # 11
I most definitely would not stop TTC. If it happened where I got pregnant and was due, like, within a few (1-2) weeks of the wedding, then I’d probably tell her at the end of my first trimester that I’ll probably need to step down just in case. If your due date is futher out than that, then you can still be a bridesmaid as long as you feel good.
Post # 12
@MrsBG: That’s really sweet of you to think of the bride, but there’s a good chance she would much rather you be pregnant after trying so long. My sister, DH’s sister, and my BFF all stood up in our wedding and all were pregnant…it didn’t take away from my day at all and it wouldn’t take away from her’s either. 🙂
Post # 13
@MrsBG: Continue, you may catch way before then anyway and if you do catch and it means your due around the time of the wedding then offer to stand down, but I’m sure they wouldn’t want you to stop trying. So I completely echo @MrsBeck:‘s words.
Post # 14
@MrsBG: I wouldn’t stop if I was having little success. I wouldn’t want to waste precious time. But, it’s totally up to you guys what you want to do.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t stop… My whole family is planning on running a half marathon next year, and I would LOVE to do it with them, but we are TTC and starting our family means more to me. Standing in someone’s wedding would he the same sisuation for me.