(Closed) would you ladies get mad?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man more times than I can count. I’ve ALWAYS expected to pay for my dress.

Post # 4
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

No…I paid for my own bridesmaid dress. As long as its not outrageously priced, it’s fine.

Post # 5
1081 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I have also always paid for my dress, but a budget was agreed upon beforehand.

Post # 6
5967 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I figure buying a dress my best friend picks out is just part of the admission price.

Post # 7
2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think if you stuck with the $40-$60 range then youll be fine!

Post # 8
2778 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I hope they won’t because I am going to have to ask them to.  The dress I really like is 150 but we are going to go check it out and see what looks best on them. 

Post # 9
148 posts
Blushing bee

@EatPrayLove:  Yeah, as long as you stay in a reasonable price range, you should be fine. And if anyone has problems with affording that, you can deal with it as it arises, instead of covering it for everyone.

Post # 10
6512 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Not at all.  Buying the dress is part and parcel of being a bridesmaid.  It is great that you are being budget conscious on their behalf, though 🙂

Post # 11
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Where are you from?  That’s the important part here.

In the US, BMs are expected to pay for their own dresses.  In the UK, the bride pays.  I dunno about Australia/South Africa/other parts of the Anglosphere, though.

Post # 12
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It depends on where you are located. In the US most women expect to pay for their own bridesmaid dresses. Mine are about $150 before alterations. Many are in the $200-250 range. Once you get beyond that (or even below that depending on the individual), many people get (rightfully so) very upset about the cost. I always prefer to spend less, and I think most of your girls will be pleasantly surprised if you have them spend $40-60 on a dress. In many countries outside of the US (I know Austrailia is one of them) the bride is expected to pay for the bridesmaid dresses.

Post # 13
3369 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Etiquette these days says that bridesmaids pay for their own dresses. If you have any of them that you KNOW can’t afford (2 or 3 girls, whatever you can afford) then offer to pay for their gowns. There were 3 girls who I REALLY wanted as bridesmaids, but I knew they couldn’t afford their own dresses so I offered to pay for them.

Post # 14
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@EatPrayLove:  Not really. If I’m paying they really can’t argue with me. I’m buying it and you’re wearing it. When the bms pay, I feel like they deserve at least some sort of say.

Post # 15
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think most people know that when you’re a Bridesmaid or Best Man you’re paying for the dress…

Post # 16
26 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

$40-$60 is excellent for a dress! I’ve always spent over $150-200 for dresses in friends’ weddings. I would absolutely NOT be mad!

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