Post # 1
So one of my closest friends got engaged last weekend (yay!). Her fiancé arranged it so that it coincided with a wine tasting party she was already throwing with another friend that night, which worked out great because we all got to show up, drink wine and ogle her sparkler :-).
In any case, one of the girls asked to try on my newly-engaged friend’s ring. My friend said sure, gave it to her and the girl promptly popped it on her ring finger.
I was previously married and I NEVER had anyone ask to try on my ring! I just think it’s kind of odd/rude, especially with someone who just go the darn thing. What do you ladies think? Is this rude or a major compliment?
Post # 3
If it were a close friend or family member I wouldn’t care, I would not let a stranger or someone I don’t know well try it on.
Post # 4
Depends who is asking. The only person who ever asked to try my ring on was my sister, and I was totally cool with that. If it was someone I wasn’t super close with I would feel uncomfortable about it, but would probably still let them try it on, rather than make an awkward situation even more awkward.
Post # 5
I think it’s a little tactless to ask, but I’m not going to be rude myself and say no. I’d let them try it on and laugh about it later.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t, but only because I have fingers bigger than the average (size 10.25) so I would freak out about someone trying it on, waving their hand around, and then losing it. Trust me, when my fingers shrink in the cold, it’s almost happened to me!
Post # 7
Yes, if it was a close friend. I’d find it odd if it was an acquaintance but I’d still say yes to be polite. Absolutely no way if it was a stranger, they might run off with it.
I don’t believe in any kind of superstition or jinx if someone else wears it, but I do think it’s an intimate and valuable object that I wouldn’t just pass around.
I offered to let one of my best friends try on my ring when I could see her looking at it and obviously wanting to try it! No biggie, she admired it and gave it straight back 🙂
Post # 8
@spezia: I had a friend make me try hers on once. We were talking about ring styles and I said something along the lines that I loved her ring but that style makes my fingers look really fat. She didn’t believe me, so she made me try it on – and then said, yup, I was right (thick bank, princess cut solitaire – looks terrible on my finger).
I try to avoid letting people try mine on, my mom and sisters have examined it, but most of my friends are engaged or married themselves so I think they get it – and it’s not as exciting for them, they have their own.!
Post # 9
My sister asked to try it on and I didn’t even think twice. I guess if I didn’t know the other person that well I would think it was weird, but otherwise, it’s fine with me!
Post # 10
lol, when my girlfriends/roommates asked to see it, I gave them my hand and when they were bending it in all different sorts of angles and making my hand uncomfortable and sweaty I just took it off and said HERE you try it on! before you break off my finger
they tried it on and took tons of pictures of their hands, why would I care? That means my fiance has great taste and picked the right one since all my girlfriends wanted the same ring haha…
Post # 11
@littlemisst08: I don’t think it’s rude in itself to say no, unless it’s the delivery of the “no” that comes out in a rude way.
Post # 12
@spezia: Only a very close family member maybe….as in my sister or my mother. That’s pretty much it.
Post # 13
@littlemisst08: Good point. I’d be inclined to say no too, but how do you say no without being equally as rude? Probably not possible.
Post # 14
@spezia: I love when people ask to try it on!! I find it to be a compliment!
edit: I mean not strangers! But aquaintances, co-workers, friends, etc.
Post # 15
I would be perfectly fine doing it with my closest friends (they’ve all tried my rings on), but if someone random asked I would either say no, or say yes but be very weirded out by the request.
Post # 16
I’ve taken mine off and put it on some of my friend’s fingers, and I switched with my best friend so she could see the ring. But if it were a stranger…or like someone asked me…I think it would be weird.