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I personally would not. I am picking it out with out him and hopefully he won't see it till I am walking down the aisle =) but even if i was to have him help i could NOT let it be ALL about what he wanted but thats just me
i would prolly not let him pick it because hes not very detail oriented and hed forget what it looks like anyways... i went the picture route and asked fi... well do you like this style and he watched say yes to the dress and would tell me which dresses he liked and which he did not... i def would not bring him with me to pick a dress though! he just wanted me to pick one i like so i guess we are not that type of couple :)
I don't think i would let him pick it out, but I definitely did the sneaky picture thing. We will be seeing each other before the ceremony for pictures so we aren't too traditional, but its fun to keep a little mystery!
I wouldn't let him pick out my dress, but I have shown him pictures in magazines and stuff to see what he did/didn't like. I know that he doesn't like huge ruffles (which made me sad, because I do), but he's ok with just about everything else. Other than that--I definitely WON'T show him a picture of my dress once I pick it out or order it, because I would be scared he wouldn't like it for some crazy guy reason that he wouldn't even notice once he sees it on me on THE day.
Ummm...no way! There is a huge chance I would end up in something heinous!
@MademoiselleL: haha thats where i would be... I know it LOL
I let him and my dad make the final decision on my dress. I had two dresses that I like, one is Pronovias Formentera and the other is Lazaro 3050. I like them both and they both have different look. One day I would want to buy Formentera, the next day I want Lazaro. I couldn't decide and I let them make the final decision.
This is the post that I was seeking help.
In the begining of this process I had decided to give him some say in the choice... till I figured out that this wasn't going to be a choice between one or two, even three dresses. "I wanted it to be something that I really loved." And guess what...From the time that he met me, I'VE been selecting my own clothes! I didn't have a problem getting him..ya know. LOL
I remember the first time he saw me dressed for church..for some of us it was The Club, some of us, that first Dinner Date. "WOW!!" Well, I seriously thought about the look in eyes when he sees me on the isle...I want it to be one that I've never seen before."2x's the WOW!!!" So for several reasons.. I totaly agree wit him not seeing the Gown till that one special moment.
@cutexkitty: After looking at your post I would've had a hard time too! You looked beautiful in both and I think it's sweet that your FI and dad helped you make the final decision.
@reinab505: Thanks 
. I had two weeks of eat and sleep dresses. I'm finally at peace with my choice. I don't let myself looking at the Lazaro 3050 anymore. If I had bought the Lazaro, I wouldn't be looking at Formentera either.
heck no!!! I was fairly confident he'd love me no matter what I wore, but I wouldnt have been opposed to asking his opinion if he wanted to give some input (but he didnt. he wanted it to be a surprise). I never would have given him the final say though. He doesn't know anything about wedding dresses or fit on certain body types or anything. It would have been disasterous.
never. if i let FI pick my dress, he would only look at the price tag and pick the cheapest one!! what i did though because i was SO incredibly indecisive was show him pics of my top choices and get his opinion. although getting an opinion was tough at times, he just didn't care that much!
when it came down to the final two though, he did something very interesting and different - he took his time, examined the pictures and gave a super long interpretation of what he thought each dress means. then it was up to me. but based on his interpretations, the decision became easy :)
I took the groom with me when shopping for my dress for my first wedding. He didn't get to pick it out, but I wanted it to be one that we both liked.
The second wedding, I might have accidentally picked out my wife's dress. She put it on, and I gasped on seeing her in it, which made her decide to pick it. But it was one she also liked.
Wow. I guess I'm the only one so far that let FI and my dad help make the final decision. There should be a poll for this one.
Oh, I asked my mom too, but she wasn't a much help because she likes both dresses.
I would have put a poll, but I have bad luck with putting them in my posts. I know there have been others on here that have picked out their dress with their FI, maybe they just aren't on tonight.
For the record, I asked everyone and their brother what they thought, but always got differing opinions so I was on my own. I wish someone would've helped or said you need to pick this one (besides my older sister, we have very different taste).
I know I wouldn't. But in her defense... "I would say that I do understand how a bride would." I got so frustrated @ one point that I started to close my eyes and throm a finger to one!LOL Maybe she just really doesn't know what she wants..it took me months to find one (1) dress with everything I wanted.
I love the idea of the dress being a suprise, however, at the same time - he picks my clothes out normally!
He has a much better fashion sense than I do and has never picked anything I think is awful. It also makes me feel good to wear the clothes he pickes because he thinks I look great in them so I feel great.
Oh hell no. FI and I always disagree about what sorts of clothes are best for me. He hates pretty much all my purchases...till I put them on. If he picked my dress, I'd look like I was heading to my wedding-themed strip club performance. I wish I was joking. The dress I've designed for myself is pretty much the LAST thing FI would pick out for me, and frankly I don't care because the dress is for ME and he'll think I look perfectly lovely in it once it's made and I'm wearing it.
i havent read all the comments but i wouldlet him choose, only because he has better dress sense than me and only if i couldnt decide:P
that begin said i dont need his approval on everything, if i want something il get it and hes fine with it:)
I would, he has great taste in clothes for me, and after all i'm looking for HIS jaw to drop when he sees me ..... there would have to be a rule that i don't wind up in that Princess Leia slave getup thing ...
@reinab505: I did the sneaky thing of showing him pics before I went.
I would trust him to buy me a dress that I liked. There's a show in the UK called Don't Tell The Bride where basically the groom organises the whole wedding in three weeks and that obviously includes the bride's dress. Some to be honest pick better than the brides would've done as the brides are given an opportunity to try on some that they like. But to be honest i've loved going through th experience myself.
My FI is very fashionable and we do help each other pick out clothes. However, although i want him to love me in it i want to love me in it too so i would not let him decide. But we have browsed bridal gowns in magazines and online and i take note of what he hates
my hubby actually had some surprisingly strong opinions about dresses. we looked at some magazines together, and he came with me to one dress appointment (mostly bc no one else could come and i didn't want to go alone). i didn't end up buying from that store though, but if there'd been a winner there he basically would have helped pick it out. but he was pretty anti-ballgown or anything with too much pouf, so that helped narrow things down a lot. granted, ball gowns aren't the best on my frame anyway, he still helped a lot. he didn't see my dress before the wedding on me, but early on he saw a pic of it on a model. then he decided after all that he didn't want to know and "forgot"
I would not let my fiance come with me to pick the dress. At most I've done the save the dress and shown him pics of stuff to get an idea. But to me the dress needs to be what the girl wants she has to wear so she should feel absolutely lovely and if she does need to include her hubby to be in the process he should just be there for morale support like Ya I like that one hun or that's the one not outlining his own thoughts on what she would wear and becoming a little fashionista sketch artist designing her dress from top to bottom. That's just a little to dependent.
I acturally was having a hard time imagining me picking out a dress with out my FI... so I had him go online and point out dresses he liked, boy did I change my mind real fast! Man does he have horrible taste!! lol So instead I took my future mother-in-law (we are extremely close) and my two future sister-in-laws (I bought my dress 5 and a half hours away from where my mom lives so she couldn't make it).
Heck. No.
First of all, he thinks sweatpants are acceptable for pretty much all occasions.
Second, as I was browsing a bridal magazine the other day, he kept pointing out styles he liked. They were gorgeous on the models, but I am not a model. I can't pull off an extreme mermaid style, because A) they aren't exactly flattering on my tummy, and B) I am 5 feet tall and the flare portion, once altered, would be about 6 inches long.
Third, he will think I look beautiful no matter what I wear. I only plan on having one wedding dress in my life, and it is going to be MY decision. No one else's. (Yeah, I have a bit of an independant streak. He knows this. He loves it. We're good.)
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I'm only asking because I had a very interesting couple today. The bride would not make a decision on anything without his opinion. He had a very specific image of what he wanted her to wear. It should have a corset back, chapel train, nothing poofy, satin, ivory, navy sash... you get the picture. After she tried it on it wasn't about did she love it, but did he love it and did he think it was the right one. It was like she didn't care...
I know I've seen some on here that have taken the groom, but he was more like moral support. Then I've seen some that ask what he likes before they shop or show him a bunch of pictures and your dress just happens to be one of the pictures (sneaky
). However, I know there are those out there that absolutely do not want him to see it until the big day.
This is the first time I've ever had a couple like this (we live in a small town so we don't see a lot of variety) and it threw me off my game a bit. Is this something a lot of people do? Would you/did you let your groom pick out your dress?