Post # 1
Since most brides plan 90% of the wedding, would you be okay if roles switched?
I know most of my friends who were married did not get a choice in what they got to wear. They had to wear tuxedos to complete the whole “wedding look” What if your FI chose your dress to fit his vision of the “wedding look”?
What if he chose the colors, flowers, bridal party wear, ect. Would you let him?
Post # 3
I really didn’t care much about the details and only took care of it because DH had no interest whatsoever. As long as he didn’t want anything totally insane (I’m thinking of camoflage weddings right now, more or less), I’d be cool with him calling all the shots–except for my dress. Hell no.
Post # 4
FH gets lots of choices and opinions and he has made the final decision on a lot of stuff, but I would not let him plan the whole thing. I can guarantee he would end up missing details he never thought of and insulting other people. He just doesn’t have the knowledge to go about it.
EDIT He is picking his attire, he picked out the china pattern, he had input into the colors, the food, flowers, ceremony wording, readings and much more and we made changes based on his opinion.
Post # 5
If I was cool getting married in a jersey or racing suit, sure. But, alas, I’m not.
However – he IS picking his attire and the color of the vests for the Groomsmen. He LIKES dressing up and we’re actually buying his suit instead of renting so he can have it. He also picked our color. And our date. And our rings….. And helped pick lots of other little things. I certainly will not be planning 90% of this shindig.
Post # 6
My husband and I were completely 50/50 in wedding planning, and honestly, I couldn’t imagine doing it all by myself. It was a lot of work! Plus, my hubby happens to be way better at crafty stuff than me. 🙂
Post # 7
Yeah, I wouldn’t like it though b/c I tend to like to micromanage 🙂
FH would make good decisions. We’re usually on the same page, but he is sometimes a little more formal or traditional in his tastes.
Edit to add: That sucks that most of your friends didn’t get any input. It really shouldn’t be all about the bride. If the couple has contrasting opinions, they should at least try to compromise!
Post # 8
When it comes to decor I have a way better sense of style then my husband, plus I am a huge bargain shopper and think outside the box to cut costs; he just sees an option and goes for it.
However, when it comes to clothes, he made his own decision. He wanted his guys to wear black suits, and he wanted to be the only one in a vest. Looked really good to me!
Post # 9
If he would actually sit down and read one of those planner books so he knew exactly what had to be taken care of, absolutely. Except for the dress. For the most part, he has better vision, I guess, with taking a bunch of random things and putting them together to look decent–he makes most of the calls when it comes to house stuff–but now way would I give him control over my dress. He would have me walking down the aisle in either something right out of the 80s or something that barely covered my bits n pieces.
Post # 10
Absolutely. He knows me and what I like and I trust him. We’re pretty simple and easy and we both have kind of the same taste. I know he would’ve done just fine had he planned our wedding on his own.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t because my DH wouldn’t have cared about the planning and would have missed a lot of things. It just isn’t his thing.
I did ask for his input all of the time and typically he didn’t have strong opinions about much. He did get to pick what he and the GM wore though and helped pick the colors and date. He also chose the DJ (which was who I wanted too but still…).
Post # 12
oooh can I add that I wouldnt for the lone fact that he would just hand it over to his mom to do and that it would turn out wayyyy more expensive and exactly like his sisters?
Post # 13
No. If I did that we would end up spending $50k on an Art Deco themed wedding because it looks cool.
Post # 14
That would be AWESOME!! wait … I’d probably end up in the Princess Lea Slave outfit from Return of the Jedi …
On second thought he could do it all but what i wear…
Post # 15
My husband is not a planner, he’s a doer (or at least that’s what he likes to say). We were pretty much 50/50 on our wedding planning though, I couldn’t have done it without him and his opinions. I made up where he would leave off in certain detail things, he made up where I lacked in crafting skills. I don’t think we’d allow each other to do anything that big 100% on their own, too much work for such a big event!
Post # 16
For us its really 50/50. If he doesn’t like it, it doesn’t get included. I don’t “override” him in anything or pull the “its my day” card – because it really isn’t. I’m not marrying myself.
If the roles were reversed, I’d expect the same consideration to my likes & dislikes.