Post # 1
So my SO has a friend who recently got engaged. They are getting married fairly soon (short engagement, wedding is in Julyish I think). Anyways the girl wants to have a bachelorette party, but can’t find stippers or some such nonsense, so she asked her FI if she could ask my SO and a mutal friend of theirs to be a stripper.
My SO told me that she wanted to ask my permission for him to be a stripper at her party. I was taken aback and slightly irritated. Is that an irrational reaction? Or is that overstepping in some regards?
I do not like male strippers, they creep me out. And I would not participate in a party where they had them. Let alone consent to my SO being one!
Post # 3
Wait what? Does he strip? Why would she choose him?
And to answer your question, not a chance in hell.
Post # 4
@amallama: Um, this is a big no. How would your fiancé feel if one of his buddies wanted you to strip down at a bachelor party? Absolutely not. This girl must be crazy to think you’d consider it and there’s no way my FI would be doing this.
Post # 5
That seems like an absolutely bizarre requet to me but no… FH is not taking his clothes off for ANYONE but me.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
That is just… so very wierd :/
How does your SO feel about it?
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Uh, is that what he does for a living? I’m just confused as to why she would think of him as being a stripper for her. IMO, that’s weird, and if he were my FI (even if that were his job), I would tell him that it’s inappropriate.
Post # 10
I’m not sure why your SO would even entertain the idea. Maybe she was just teasing her FI saying she wanted to hire his friends? Either way, absolutely not, maybe if she was my friend I’d tell my SO he could come do a little dance down to his undies for a laugh but no chance in hell he would be taking his clothes off to a girl whos a stranger to me.
Post # 11
Ummm wow! I would be livid if one of my friends planned on doing that! Heck no!
Post # 12
Wow…just…wow. I’m going to assume from your reaction that your SO is not a professional stripper on the side. I’m going to hope this was a joke or a comment made under panicked stress. And that’s exactly how he should treat it. Laugh it off and make a comment of how ridiculous the idea is. If she wasn’t being serious, she’ll laugh with him, if she was serious, she’ll hopefully get the hint. If she doesn’t back down, he needs to tell her that her suggestion is unacceptable.
Post # 13
And I’ll tell you something else.
If one of my husband’s friends asked if I could be a stripper at a bachelor party, DH would promptly punch him in the face.
I see no reason why it would be any more acceptable the other way around.
Post # 14
Oh my. At first I read the subject line and thought it was strange asking about “letting” your SO (a grown-up) do something. But then I read what he was being asked to do… lol.
Does HE want to do it!? It sounds so strange. Is he going to just pretend to strip, or actually strip? Wouldn’t he be uncomfortable doing it? I have a MILLION questions!!!
I would put it back on him like one PP mentioned – what would he say if YOU were asked to do the same thing!??
So bizarre. Why would someone even think this was a good idea? And surely HER FI thinks this is ridiculous and a terrible idea, too!? You must be wondering how this is possibly your real life right about now…
ETA: Forgot to mention, NOOOOOOO I would not be okay with my FI doing something like this. Thankfully he would never be okay with it, either. And I’m fairly certain no one would ever ask him to do this.
Post # 15
Wait…You’re joking right?
Not only would my FI NOT be allowed to do that, I don’t think I could be friends with that girl anymore, how inappropriate and rude and weird IMO!
Post # 16
LOL what?! This is so weird!!! I’d say no way for sure!