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Okay bee's one of my hubby's family members got engaged to his now fiance. Whom we do alot of "couple" things with. So anyways she was a waiting lady. Hoping for an engagement like some of the waiting bee's. So she knew what ring she wanted before he asked. Well, anyways she showed it to me & I seen its price NOT that I care in the LEAST! Its a gorgeous ring. So he asked her & she posted it via facebook. She msged me with the details until she could upload the pictures. In about the third sentence down she said it costed this X amount of money & said he let it slip by mistake on how much it was. This X amount of money was double the cost it actually was. Its the same exact ring & she even told me it was in person & from the same place. But why would she lie about it? I don't think he lied to her being she was the one who told him the ring she wanted & how much it costed. So this made me think, would you lie about the cost of your ring IF someone asked? Remind you I DIDN'T ask she just told me in a msg while giving out the details of how he proposed. So would you bee's lie, tell the truth, or just say you didn't know?
I do not know the exact cost of my ring (I have a ballpark figure because I had to get it insured). When I get my nails done the women who do my nails ask me without fail how much it cost. So rude and weird to talk about the price of something like that. Doubly rude and weird if it's unsolicited. Triple rude and weird to lie to exaggerate the cost!
It is what it is and I think people should be proud of their rings regardless!! Money shouldn't matter!
@LMD84: I think the exact same thing! I would NEVER EVER EVER ask someone how much their ring costed. Weather it be a 1 dollar or 1 million dollar ring, that is just plain rude!
I wouldn't lie about the cost of a ring, but I would side step the issue and not answer the question 
Are you sure the 4Cs are the same for her ring and the original ring? That could make a big difference regarding price.
@EvaBostonTerrier: Yes, its from walmart. So they only have it in the same color/clarity.
i found that most jewelery store appraisals for insurance are far higher than the actual purchase price - maybe shes using what she thinks its insurance market value worth
Talking about ring prices at all is pretty classless. I am happy to share in PMs to help someone out with a purchase, but giving out the info without being asked? Who does that?
If I was feeling particularly snarky I'd probably say something like "Oh gosh, you can get that ring MUCH cheaper here, you should have him look into that!"
I would avoid answering that question at all costs. It's no one's business. As for why she lied, maybe she's insecure about something, who knows.
@eloping: No, this was about 20 minutes after it happened.
Edit: & She still doesn't have ring insurance for it .
@KatyElle: LOL you made me laugh! I know though, very classless indeed! I'm not sure at all why she would do this? Maybe to see if hers costed more than mine? To see if I would tell her how much mine was or something? I have no clue!
@thewheelsonthebus: I don't know either. Her ring is bigger than mine. So I don't know why she would be/feel that way towards me? Who knows! I'm still clueless! lol
I know what mine is, but dont' see why it would be anyone else's business...as far as I'm concerned, none of my friends/relatives need to know the price of my ring!
@bmarie12: I feel exactly the same way. I didn't put in my post above my answer. I voted for tell them I don't know. Because honestly it isn't anyone elses bussiness. I can understand if they want to purchase a ring the same carat weight ect & want help. Otherwise I think its rude.
No... Infact I have the cost of my ring on my bio.... For all of WB to see. Lol
@amnystik: lol I had to go find it! I see you got an AMAZING deal!!!!! I would be pretty happy about that myself! :-)
She must have some major insecurity issues. I kind of feel bad for her.
When people ask I tell. It doesn't bother me in the least although I am always surprised and appauled when they do.
I think it would be odd to lie about a price.... but the price of your ring is what it is? I honestly tell people who ask me. I didnt pay for it, there were no loans taken out to get mine, we arent in debt because of it..... It would be the same as if someone asked the cost of your car or home? I dont know how people want to judge you on the price you pay for things? My house appraises at like $30,000 more than I paid for it?! So when someone asked how much we paid for my home, and they expecting to see a home work $XXX,000 and then they see one that is apparently more expensive? Its jsut odd; its like finding a sale on designer clothes or finding a store that upcharges on things..... the price should NOT matter; it should be the meaning & quality of what you got!
I would personally find it rude it someone said..... well is it a real diamond? or it must be a bad diamond etc...... cost is relative.... just a number.
Thats just my random 2 cents! : )
@mwitter80: Oh wow, I have never had that question asked to me? I wouldn't know how to react in person? I just think its classless to ask someone that. That is just me though, everyone has their own opinion.
for sure! I'm glad I had the connection... The guys been a client of my moms for over a decade! I always tell someone looking for jewelry to try and find a wholesaler.... Or to even get a dba to be able to get wholesaler catalogs.
@emersynsmommy35: Nice opinion, I never looked at that way. :-)
But I still don't think its anyones bussiness. But I'm glad to know you don't mind it at all. I guess maybe some people don't find it rude at all. Lieing about it though is a whole different story I guess.
I don't volunteer the price, but if anyone ask I would tell them. I'm not sensitive about that topic. When we got engaged, I think everyone in my family asked, I think FI parents asked him and his guy friend also asked as a follow up to a ring conversation we had. Before joining WB, I didn't know it's an off topic. I asked my coworkers about the ring they got for their FI and they asked about mine.Some people also asked about how much my purses and shoes. *shrug*
@Mrs.Estep: I agree that its not necessarily anyones business; but we are human... and alot of people are curious and just downright nosey! I'll admit I'm one of them! LoL I wouldnt ever ask what a ring cost! The ONLY time I ever honestly think it is when someone has some GINORMOUS rock like 5+ carats! LoL I just think GOOD LORD I WONDER WHAT THAT COST! LoL I would never ask anyone! I just think we all are a little nosey about different things and some people are about ring prices. I'm sure theres something in the world that we all see sometime and think... "Wonder how much that was" or "Wonder where they got the money for that" etc..... I'm thinking its jsut part of being human... its how we handle it and approach a situation that makes it classless and rude; not always the question! There are even ways to ask someone if theyve gained weight and not come across as rude... but more caring or concerned! Lord knows I'm not that dainty... I tend to offend (unknowingly... I'm just blunt! LoL)
@cutexkitty: I agree! I'm horrible and getting expensive things on great deals such as purses or shoes... people often say they like em. When they asked what brand they are I will tell them. Most of my things I find on great sale is Coach or Michael Kors. Ive had a few people ask about my Coach sandals & a huge Coach bag I carry to class with me. People ask "Wow thats huge and Coach! So nice; bet it was expensive" at this point I volunteer! Mostly because I'm PROUD of my deal finding! I'll say "Yes! It was originally $585 but I got it on clearance for $107!!!" same with my sandals... they were $248 sandals! CRAZY!!! But I got them for $28! I volunteer prices at that point! Haha
Any time I look at someone's engagement ring, I never really think of the price. I've seen gorgeous rings that were under $500 and stunners that were over $5000. I think my response would be something honest and evasive that it was the perfect ring at the perfect price or smile and say it was on sale and then change the subject. To me it's more valuable than any price tag could possibly express.
I know exactly how much my ring cost - I picked it out and paid for half of it, and I think it's perfect. But if someone asked, I'd tell them that's really none of their business (in a nicer way if the situation called for it). The only exception is if it was someone really close who was genuinely interested.
i didnt read the replies but i definitely would feel funny about someone asking me the price! i dont i ever have been asked but i can imagine i would avoid giving a direct answer. something like "it was what i wanted, but still within his budget, i dont know the exact price though". and thats actually the truth!
I would not give it a second thought.
If she feels the need to inflate her own ego with inflating the price of her ring, let her go fot it!
Unless it's for insurance or appraisal purposes, I don't see why it's anyone's business what my ring cost. Perhaps the only other exception I would make in talking about it would be if somebody was totally dying to have the exact same ring. They'd obviously have a genuine interest in how much it cost, other than the potential "wow factor."
Does seem a bit odd to just be randomly blurting out the price. But hey, it takes all kinds to make the world go 'round, right?
I grew up with the belief that it isn't too respectful to come out and give a price for something like that or ask others for the price of theirs. Now we will if we want to buy it ourselves or if someone wants to know because they are looking for the item we bought, but that's about it. If I knew the price, I wouldn't lie about it.
That's a good question.
I never ask anyone the price of their ring OR even what jeweler it was bought from (because some people like to know where its from). I feel it's just none of my business and it's just me showing respect and being polite. A couple of my family members asked, and I felt awkward at first. I think it depends on how close you are to the person? I am a very private person, especially when it comes to finances, etc.
My older sister casually asked the diamond/metal price (out of curiosity and kindness) because she loves diamonds and because she is dreaming up her engagement ring for the future. She made sure to tell me she wasn't trying to pry in on our business. I felt she was being polite about it and wanted to get an idea of how much it costs. So, in that circumstance, I had no problem in revealing the price.
But when it comes down to it (no matter who), it can get awkward real quick. I try to sway the subject of the conversation when people ask the price, and I just say I am unsure and talk about how much I love it and get into the proposal story. Some people say things without thinking! And some are just, well, excited by how much it costs (good or bad intentions). I don't think you have to say anything if someone asks you. I just say I'm unsure, because honestly, I don't know the "exact" price of the ring. And it should not concern others anyway.
~I just smile and remind people that all that matters is that I love it, I'm incredibly in love my future husband, and the ring represents the mark of a beautiful chapter in our lives. After saying that, I think people would be very, very brave to ask how much it costs again.
Something I heard at a wedding ceremony was that rings represent pure and true love, which isn't cheap. You can always just say that (humorously) if someone asks you! :)
I'd NEVER just lie about the cost of my ring- it wasn't expensive at all, we got a great deal considering. I'd tell close friends if it was ever relevant to the conversation but if anyone ever just asked me I'd tell them how unclassy discussing ring costs is!
@tksjewelry: I don't know if it was the mention of using cocktails for currency previously or the way you said it but this made me laugh.
Anywho, I just sidestep the issue. I don't know why but any issue of money makes me very uncomfortable. Recently many people have been asking how much FI makes because he got a job in an industry that is not easy to get into...it makes me very uncomfortable.
I think it's weird she lied... aren't your rings from the same place therefore surely you'd know because you might have considered it for yourself? Especially with how in to rings you are, lol. Just sounds like she was alittle jealous while waiting & possibly trying to one-up you. Jokes on her I guess?
I've never been asked outright about the cost, but like @mwitter80 said, I'd be shocked & disgusted. Unless it was a close friend or family inquiring about a ring for themselves, I think it's uncalled for really. And no- I wouldn't lie. Doesn't that have the opposite effect & cheapen it?
I would never ask someone what their ring cost (although I sure would wonder) and I would never tell how much mine cost (although I think I may have mentioned on a post asking about ring prices on here, lol). If asked, I would say, I don't know my FI paid for it.
I would say I dont know, cause I honestly dont know. I can guess since I know the specs, but I would probably just brush it off if asked. I think its pretty lame that she'd lie about it to make it sound like more than it is, esp when you know where its from and have the same thing.
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