Post # 1
I got each of my 6 BMs a necklace to wear to the wedding but wanted to also give them each something just for them to enjoy that isn’t necessarily wedding related. I was thinking of also adding in a Philosophy bath/shower gel in a scent that reminds me of them (margarita for my happy hour loving friend, pumpkin pie for my friend that loves anything fall, etc.) and a nice Essie or OPI nail polish in a color that suits them. Is that too little? Any other ideas?
Post # 3
@sparklerunner: those sound like really nice gifts! 🙂 I got each of my girls (and guys, I have two guys) something that represents them. My MoH has a Pandora bracelet and I got her a charm she has been dying to get for it. I got my other BM a really pretty pair of TOMS because she loves shoes and I liked the giving back factor. I got my brony bridesman a My Little Pony Royal Wedding Playset and a Dr. Whooves T-shirt and I got my last bridesman all of Cards Against Humanity because he has game night at his house every 2 weeks and we keep bringing our own deck to his place, lol!
Maybe try a little trinket for each of them that really speaks to who they are? Otherwise, your gifts sound really nice. 😀
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@sparklerunner: IMO it’s on the “too little” side seeing as you can’t count the necklace, but I like the sentiment!
Post # 5
I think slightly too little, maybe those in a cosmetic bag or add a body poof or something little to it.
Post # 6
Thanks girls! I’ll try to think of some things to add in.
Post # 7
I don’t expect big gifts if I’m a bridesmaid. I don’t get all this wedding etiquette. So you ask someone to be your bridesmaid, she agrees, you then have to turn around and give her a big enough gift to compensate her for it?
Is this like people expecting guests to give them a gift big enough to cover the price of them attending the wedding??
Anyway.. to answer your question. The neckalace and shower stuff would be fine with me 🙂 Yes, the necklace is “wedding” related, but I’m sure they can wear it again.
Post # 9
So its ok to expect someone to say yes to your big day and have them spend hundreds of dollars on hair, makeup, transport, time etc. and not gift them anything?
I think that would be ok if you paid for everything, but if not then no its not expected but appriciated, these women are your “friends” afterall are they not?
I love showering my friends with gifts! and you don’t have to have crazy money to do that.
Post # 10
You know your bridesmaids better than I do. Personally, I have enough body wash to last me for years. Seems like I get it at every holiday. And I don’t really paint my own nails often. So those wouldn’t really work for me. But you know your girls. Just think about what they would like. It doesn’t have to be the same or even similar. Two of my girls got books (one got Freakenomics and the other got a steamy vampire novel), 1 got frame pictures from the Hubble telescope, my brother got a bottle of bourbon and my bridesguy got a T-shirt. If I had tried to find something they all liked, I would have failed misarbly.
Post # 11
I did not say to not gift them anything. A thoughtful token of appreciation is enough for me. And as someone who is not married yet, I have only been in the bridesmaids shoes and as a bridesmaid, I was happy to be there for my friends and knew they had enough expenses and worries. What they could possibly give me to “make up” for my expenses was never a thought in my head.
If you can’t be a bridesmaid, then say no. It’s not a mandatory thing.