Post # 1
Hello I’m from Europe. I will attend a wedding in the United States. We had American neighbours who moved back to the states. Her daughter is going to marry and we are invited. We are so excited.
I have a hard time finding a gift. I’m not sure what American’s like.
I bought this bowl, handmade in Marokko. We are not familiar with US gift etiquette.
We are going to give money and we wanted to give something with it. May’be this bowl? I could realy help some advice.
Post # 3
@Pompadour: I think its a very thoughtful gift! Typically people give cash or a gift from the registry. You mentioned you would be giving money with it as well- I definitely think this will be a fantastic gift!
Post # 4
A bowl like that is more like artwork for the home. I don’t give art unless I am 100% sure I know their taste.
Post # 5
@Pompadour: Do they have a registry? The bowl is lovely, but if you dont know the couples taste then it could just end up being another unused wedding gift.
Post # 6
I like it. I think the bowl is really unique!
@Pompadour I have a hard time finding a gift. I’m not sure what American’s like.
Have you looked to see if they have a registry? These are really common in the US to tell guests what the bride and groom would like. And if they didn’t register, it normally means they would just like cash to start their new lives.
Post # 8
They don’t have a registry, they do want money I guess. But we would like to give something personal as well.
This is not artwork. It’s a fruitbowl.
Post # 9
I think it sounds good then!! If you’re flying in from overseas for their wedding, I’m sure they don’t expect a big gift and will be excited you’re coming.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I think it’s a great idea, it’s something unique and interesting, and if you are also pairing it with a monetary gift that’s even better!
Post # 11
@Pompadour: yes it’s a fruitbowl, but the sheer size of it makes it function as art. If it’s not full of fruit, and chances are a couple wouldn’t have that much fruit unrefrigerated at any one time, it would have to remain on the table as a decor piece or be stwoed away.
Post # 12
I would love it!
But I’m not your friends, although I’m guessing that if they were your neighbors, it’s at least a lovely gesture to remind them of some place they’ve spent time.
The common American tradition these days is to set up a gift registry, most of which are available online. This is the best option if you want to be absolutely sure that you give them something they want. You can go to http://www.weddingchannel.com and find a section to look up your friends’ names (upper righthand corner, I think?) and that will search most of the major retail chains that lots of couples register with. The advantage for you is that you can purchase and get it shipped online, so you don’t need to do international shipping or anything like that. If you can’t find them through that search engine, you can also call up the couple (or their family) and ask them directly.
Money is also acceptable (and appreciated) but it’s certainly not expected and it’s not necessary to do both a monetary contribution and a gift (unless you really want to).
Post # 13
I would love something that brings your culture with you if I invited you to my wedding and you had to travel. That is to say, I registered for lots of cool stuff, but I would be pleased as punch if my Future Father-In-Law brought something from China that he thought every newlywed couple needed in their home.
The bowl is lovely and I would be happy to get it (even if my fiance wouldn’t as much). I hope the couple would realize it was heartfelt.
Post # 14
Personally, I like it—especially since the couple is not registered for other bowls.
I think is a very nice sentiment to give something that the couple will look at years from now, and know that it is from you. My parents received a gorgeous engraved silver Paul Revere bowl for their wedding from a family friend, and they (and growing up I) thought of them every time it was used.
Post # 15
I like it very much because it has my favorite colors and would match my home decor. However, if it would not match the couple’s home decor or style of if they don’t have the space to display it, it may end up sitting in a closet, or even regifted. It is a beautiful bowl, but I wouldn’t give it as a wedding gift.
I did not vote because YES, I like it, but NO I would not give it as a wedding gift.
Post # 16
Ai, a very close poll so far. Even tougher then I thought.
Thanks for replies so far.