Would you like this surprise?

posted 3 years ago in Music
  • poll: Would this be a good surprise?
    I would love it! : (20 votes)
    38 %
    I'd be ok with it, but wish I knew beforehand : (14 votes)
    26 %
    I'd be upset, but not say anything : (6 votes)
    11 %
    I'd be pissed that they ruined my first dance : (13 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn

    @HonoraryNerd:  i LOVE the idea of this!!! – i am a MAJOR fan of including friends and family in our day – so to have a group sing our 1st dance song…. amazing!!! your bride to be friend is a very lucky girl to have a group of such talented and thoughtful friends!!!

    lovely idea!!xxx

    Post # 4
    2319 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I would love it 🙂

    Post # 5
    852 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Brilliant idea, really sweet.

    Post # 8
    84 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I don’t think I’d like it. I am not a person that seeks attention and I am pretty self-sufficient so I don’t usually bother people for things, but on this one day, it would be nice if it was just OUR day. OUR meaning my fiance and me.



    Then again, I think I would be okay with it if it wasn’t during the first dance. That just seems really crappy to me for some reason. Like how presumptuous of you to think that I would want you to interrupt such an important thing with YOUR singing.  Not saying that to you, original poster. Just how I would feel if that happened to me 🙂  Sorry if that sounded snarky!

    Just my two cents.




    Post # 9
    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I wouldn’t do it.  Some things to consider: the first dance is something couples spend time planning, picking out the right song, some even take dance lessons.  For them to go up and dance what they have been planning, to now all of a sudden have people singing might throw them off guard.

    Also, when people sing live other people watch them.  People are supposed to be watching the couple during the first dance, so your friend may not like that moment being taken away from her.

    Post # 10
    1981 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @Ari214:  +1

    @pixiecat:  +1

    if you want to do a surprise song for the bride and groom, that’s great!! But NOT their first dance!! You don’t feel right about it because its not right. 

    Post # 11
    454 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - Philadelphia, PA

    @HonoraryNerd:  I think it sounds really sweet!  And if anything should go terribly wrong, you’ll always have the iPod as a back up plan.

    Post # 13
    2915 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    I think its a really sweet gesture, but I agree that maybe it would take a lot of attention off of them. It isnt like watching a live band, because these people there will know you. It really depends on the couple, though. You know them better than us, but if you think they would love it, do it!

    Post # 14
    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @HonoraryNerd:  I don’t think it is the same as a live band, because you expect the band to be singing so you watch the first dance but you don’t expect the bridesmaids to be singing so you watch them.  Plus this couple is not having a live band, so that argument doesn’t really mean anything.

    The wedding I went to last month, the bride’s sister sings and she sang during their sand ceremony and she sang with some other bridesmaids during her toast.  I don’t know if it was nerves or what, but both times her singing was really bad.  So that is what I remember from the wedding, the bad singing.  You don’t want the memory of your friend’s first dance to be over taken by potentially bad singing.

    Post # 15
    254 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Motor museum

    I wouldn’t like this. The first dance is the choice of the bride and groom. 

    Post # 16
    6449 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @keranos:  +1

    Maybe you can do it for a different song? I personally would think it was awesome if my friends did this for my first dance but I can definitely see someone getting upset about it.

    ETA: I think the poll options make it difficult to vote. I would love it if my friends did this but I wouldn’t recommend doing it.

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