Post # 1
My best friend is planning on surprising his fiancé (also my friend) with a new car. He told me because he wants to do it at her bridal shower or the wedding. There is no doubt about what car she wants. She has a picture of it on her fridge, with all the specs she wants. She is currently saving for it and has been for a while. She doesn’t know he has been saving too. Maybe it’s me, but if I was saving for something and someone just bought it for me, i don’t know if I would be happy.
what about you? How would you feel? Would you want to be surprised with your dream car at your bridal shower or wedding? Just very curious (when I told my mom about this she said I was “too controlling” to be surprised! so I’m wondering if I am the only one who feels this way).
Post # 3
I’d be pissed, but that’s me. There are just a few things that I am determined to buy myself for myself. I have a small account put aside that is for my dream Hermes bag, if dh showed up with it he’d be ducking a frying pan.
Post # 4
If my FI bought it for me, then he would know exactly what I wanted, so I would be so happy. But only if I knew we could afford it…since our money is shared.
Post # 5
@BM-is-a-TERRIBLE-acronym: I would be over the moon! I do see your point about working hard for something for yourself, but that would make me even more happy! Now I don’t have to spend my savings!! I can spend it on a new dream!
I would also be really happy that SO had worked hard to save up and give me something he knew I really wanted.
Post # 6
That sounds like an AMAZING surprise!
I wouldn’t want my dream car right now, since there’s not really room for a carseat in a VW Bug! But if DH surprised me with one when our last child went off to college, I would be THRILLED!
Post # 7
As long as he knew exactly what I wanted, I would be ecstatic! Then, I would probably spend a good chunk of what i had saved up on him =)
Post # 8
If he knew EXACTLY what I wanted and knew I was willing to buy it, and surprised me with it, I’d be happy about it. I make no distinction between my money or his money and whos saving for what. My only concern is that I’m picky and cheap. So I may SAY I want something, but not really be willing to spend on it. If it’s something very expensive (like a Hermes bag) and I didn’t really want to spend that money even though i say I want it… I’d be upset. Or if he surprised me iwth something unreturnable like a car, and it wasnt EXACTLY what i wanted, Id’ be upset he made such a big purchase with out me.
Post # 9
Id be super pissed. Unless her dream car is a 1987 Mazda, that is too much money to spend on a gift.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
I would love it! In fact, that’s what I did for my FH!
Post # 11
@BM-is-a-TERRIBLE-acronym: I would be mad but only if we couldn’t afford it 🙂
If we could get the car and it was EVERYTHING I wanted without breaking the bank then yes, I would be SO happy!
Post # 12
Uh, that sounds like an awesome surprise and I would potentially die from shock and happiness.. But considering my dream car can be like 100-300k, I kinda doubt it’ll happen.
Mostly because we’re on the same page about spending money. I wouldn’t spend more than 50k on anything that wasn’t an investment, business, or downpayment on a house. I am never going to be one of those people who spends money friviously when children are on this earth starving and animals are being put down in shelters every day. But I’m not going to judge how someone else spends their money.
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Post # 14
If my husband surprised me with a brand new car while I had been saving for it, I would over the moon! I could start using that money I’d been saving for something else, like a deposit on a house or savings in case of emergency. I wouldn’t be at all pissed about it.
I asked my husband and the only way he would be pissed would be if I’d bought it brand new and someone else drove it home to him. He’d want to be the first person to drive it LOL.
Post # 15
@tksjewelry: that’s exactly how I would feel. When I save, I’m setting a gaol. I don’t achieve it when someone else completes the goal. But i don’t know if his fiancé will feel that way too.
@boogiewoogies: he can afford it. He said he originally was planing on saving it for a motorcycle which apparently cost way more than the car she wants. she’s never had a brand new car so he wants her to have that experience.
@leisha606: I think anyone who knows her, knows she loves this car. Lol she always points it out when she sees it on the road/parking lot/ passes a dealership.
@SupermansSweetheart: yup exact. She has the print out of the “build your car” online thing. it’s got every detail down. She’s very detail oriented from what I know.
@pinkshoes: im sure and he’s sure it’s 100% what she wants, down to nitty gritty details
@eeniebeans: yeah I don’t know how she would feel about it being such a big gift
Post # 16
I don’t much like surprises and I don’t like my DH spending a big chunk of money without my knowledge, so I wouldn’t like it.
But I’m also the kind of person who would never have a “dream car” that I’m saving up for, so I’ll bet I’m pretty different than your friend.