Would you live with family for Four Months??

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
Member
2428 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I love my brother-in-law and his wife, so my husband and I would probably jump at such an opportunity. It sounds like it would only be for a few months until they moved out so surely you could adjust? It seems like the pros really outweigh the cons in this situation.

Post # 3
Member
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Can you clarify — it would be four months with a full house, and then they would all go somewhere else?  You and your husband would stay, and pay rent at that time?

Post # 4
Member
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I can do anything for a short period of time. I understand the needing alone space and that can be achieved. 

Post # 5
Member
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think you should go for it, unless the cost of leasing a new car, when your lease is up, outweighs the cost benefit of renting from them.

Post # 6
Member
6505 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think I could stand living in someone else’s living room for four months. If I had a separate room or maybe the basement (is their basement finished?) I might be able too but I couldn’t move in knowing I wouldn’t have my own space. Are you able to rent month to month at your current place for four months?

It sounds like you would do this to save money faster (which I’m not against at all) but I don’t think I would go through with this unless the only other option was to be homeless.

Post # 9
Member
1335 posts
Bumble bee

Hmmm this is a tricky situation because it could work out fantastic for you guys and it could also turn out to be a very very very bad idea.  The most important factor here first and foremost of all is, what is your tolerance level of being around people 24/7?  I have a much lower tolerance than my FI and I definitely need my alone/quiet time away from people and stimulii otherwise I will get very sick.  If you and your FI are generally friendly, amiable, easy-going laidback people who don’t mind the company of others than this situation could work out for you (I’m also assuming that your SIL and BIL are laidback generous people based on your OP).

The other thing to consider is that since you will be moving in on October, that is right around when the holiday season begins.  So it’s not like all of you guys will be trapped in a house together like sardines, you will have Thanksgiving and Christmas/New Years to travel and do other things.  That fact would make the whole living with them till January much more attractive and doable than any other time where there aren’t many holidays to look forward to, because this will break-up that time you guys would all have to spend together in the home.

Post # 10
Member
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Courthouse

I currently live with my SIL and 3 months into it I hated living with them. I am an introvert as well so my advice is don’t do it haha. But that’s just my experience. I like having my things to myself!

Post # 11
Member
1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would rather live in an extended stay hotel than live with family for four months.

Post # 12
Member
127 posts
Blushing bee

jbirdlee1015:  My fiance and I did this – we just moved out on our own 3 months ago.  We didn’t live in the living room, but it was a full house (me and FH, FBIL and his gf, my FMIL and her bf) not to mention when their other 2 siblings decided to come over and stay the night.  The first month was rough, but then you start realizing what makes people tick, so then everyone will adjust their own behaviors and such to accomodate everyone else.  If it’s only 4 months, I would do it, we did it about 8 months, 4 isn’t that long at all

Post # 13
Member
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

jbirdlee1015:  How you get on with them? Why cant you move into the nursery? ( they can take the baby to their master bedroom?)

we live 3-4 months every year with either my family or his. His family is larger ( parents, brother + his FI) and sometimes other adult friends/family members. ” large dogs, cats, chickens, etc.

 

I am also extremely introverted, many times to the point of being anti-social. I either escape to our room or a spot in the garden.

 

But we get on so well with his family so most of the times I actually started to ENJOY a bit of large family time, strange as it sounds for someone like me.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  AnnaVictoria.
Post # 14
Member
4147 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

To answer your question in the title, we did live with family on a couple separate occasions.  My mom and sister came to live with us when they were waiting for their new place to be built.  My sister worked out of town, so she was only home about 10 days a month, and my mom is also an introvert and when she was home, she stayed in the basement and kept to herself for the most part, so it worked out great.  We also had a 6 bedroom house, so it was big enough that we didn’t need to be in each other’s space.

When we sold that house, we moved in with my MIL who also works out of town so again, she was only home about 10 days a month too.  We lived with her for 6 months because the housing market went crazy and if you didn’t put an offer in on a place within hours of it going up for sale, you were sh!t outta luck.  Luckily for us, we had great experiences living with our families, especially knowing it was short term, and having our own space for the most part.  If your SIL is offering to give you your own room, I don’t see why it wouldn’t work out in the short term, for you to save money.  Make sure you get all the details about the living situation and agreements on what contributions you and your DH will be making to the household (bills, chores, etc) prior to moving in though!

Post # 15
Member
1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

jbirdlee1015:  it’s only 4 months! I would totally do it. However, I get along great with my family – if I didn’t, I wouldn’t do it.

Leave a comment


Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

Find Amazing Vendors