Would you marry someone you have known less than a year?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you marry someone you have known for less than a year?
    Yes : (119 votes)
    26 %
    No : (338 votes)
    74 %
  • Post # 3
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    7084 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would not. IMO that’s not enough time for me to really get to know the person, find out if we can live together without killing each other, like each other’s families, etc.

     

    Post # 5
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    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    yes, I would and I did.  I never thought I would, but it’s the way things worked out for me and my husband. 

    Post # 6
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    1773 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Yep, doing it next month. 🙂 when you know, you know. Well, we got engaged in less than a year, we would have known each other for almost 2 years by the time we get married.

     

    **my parents got engaged within a month of meeting each other, married 4 minths later, and have been happily married for almost 40 years, 3 kids later. I think everyone is different! I would never date someone for many years and then marry them. I would want to know why they didn’t want to make the commitment sooner? But everyone as different circumstances and everyone has a different story!

    Post # 7
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    7997 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Not sure. My SO and I discussed marriage on our first date and we knew each other for a couple years before we got together.

    I think I would always wait for more than a year. By the time we get married, it’ll be around 3 years of being together.

    Post # 8
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    3736 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    From my personal experience, men tend to be on their “good behavior” for about the first 6 months of knowing them/dating. After that 6 month mark, I feel like the walls come down and you really get to see who that person is. I personally would want to wait until at least that long before even entertaining the idea of a marriage. 

     

    FH and I dated 2 months shy of 3 years before we got engaged and I feel like it was perfect timing, even though I knew I was going to marry him before I knew what his name was (but that’s. a story for a different day ;))

    Post # 9
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    56 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - local park

    I agree- when you know, you know.  I knew on the 3rd day of dating my fiance that he was the one I’d marry.  We moved in together at 2 months and got engaged at 6 months…however we’d been taking about getting married and making plans since the first week together.  🙂

    Post # 10
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    5421 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @bmo88:  Probably not, but never say never.

    Reason being, the honeymoon period with my OH lasted for like 2.5 years; and while, OK, we didn’t live together, we were spending 6 nights a week together. I would want to be past that honeymoon period, and at the stage where we were no longer wearing rose-tinted glasses, before making that kind of committment.

    However, had we lived together that period may well have ended sooner; likewise, different relationships are different, so I wouldn’t say I would never marry someone after just a year.

    I think age would also factor into it. I’m 26, will be nearly 28 when we marry, and so felt no real rush; we’ve been perfectly happy being boyfriend/girlfriend/engaged. I could see how if I were 50, I might feel time was too short to faff about waiting, and choose to marry sooner if it felt right. Likewise, I can also see women who want children marrying sooner.

    I think that it’s entirely down to the individual couple; however, I do think people should know each other very well, and have had all the important discussions, before considering marriage.

    Post # 11
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    4526 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I wouldn’t but I seen my co workers daughter do it after 6 months of knowing and being with this person and it worked out or at least is working so far.  I need to live with my partner at least for a year which I did, before I jump into marriage. 

    Post # 12
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    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    No way. IMO, you need to experience holidays, births, deaths, other big events with someone before you marry them. By births, I don’t mean have a baby with them, I just mean big life events you share with your SO and each of your families. You need to see how they handle life and family situations, friends, etc. I would never marry anyone without being together at least 2 years. 

    Post # 13
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    1332 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’m in my late 20s and I still wouldn’t feel comfortable marrying someone before the two-year mark. I had the “I just know” feeling with S/O early on, but I still needed to test things out for awhile.

    I have a quasi-family member (long story) that married about six months after meeting her now-husband. They were in their mid-30s and it was a second marriage for both of them. Within six months of marrying, they were pregnant. It worked out great for them, but wow, I couldn’t imagine going through so many life changes in such a short period of time, no matter how hard my biological clock was ticking.

    Post # 14
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    4540 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

    Theoretically, sure. Why not? When you know, you know.

    In reality – if I met my current FH today, for example – I don’t think I would. I think I could go from friends to married in under a year, if we had known each other/been friends for a couple years. 

    Post # 15
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I would, and I did! DH and I unofficially started living together after our first date, and knew we loved each other and were right for each other within 2 weeks. We got engaged just shy of 6 months, and married at 10 months. When you know, you know!

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    There was a point I’d have said no, but a good friend of mine was engaged to her husband after 6 months, they married shortly after their year anniversary, and they’re amazing together.  As for myself I’d always thought I’d be with someone for years before getting engaged but FI proposed at the 13 month mark and it felt very right.  I think there’s something to the saying “when you know you know.”

    That being said, statistically it’s proven to be a poor idea to rush to the alter.  Attila the Hun could be fun for a few dates…

     

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